>>43504916
Become a father

>>43504916
adopt, hope for womb transplants or advancements in ivf that allow you to use stem cells to make an egg or kill yourself
those are your only realistic options

>>43504936
Not possible I'm afraid

>>43504916
The part you’re fetishizing is shit. No sane person would go through pregnancy and birthing if there was a viable alternative. Why do you think so many celebrities are using surrogates now? Just do that, or adopt if you can’t afford it.

>>43504937
I highly doubt it'll ever happen and if it did I'd never be able to afford it. I'd probably kill myself if it wasn't for the people in my life. I would talk to them about it but I don't want them to think I'm some sort of perverted freak or something

>>43504946
Why not?

>>43504973
Fatherhood requires being a man. I'm afraid I can't do that

>>43504916
Maybe im just weird but ever since i was 16 i knew i wanted to adopt children because the foster system is absolutely horrible to these kids and they need love just as much as any other child biologically related to you or not honestly i’ve never even wanted my kids to be related to me my siblings have already had enough kids for generations that i can really just skip out on having kids of my own and just adopt so if you live america just adopt im not sure how it is for the rest of the world

>>43504989
No, it requires being a male. It has nothing to do with your gender.
Are you male?

i used to feel similarly op. the first answer is to grieve. you get over it lol. it sounds simple but its true, i grieved about childlessness. it means just accepting it and feeling upset. you say its making you miserable, i say let it. you only get over things from fully experiencing the emotion of it.

once i had grieved i could then think about what it was i was really feeling. to some extent >>43504956 is right even if they are being rude about it. i don't think i ever actually wanted to get pregnant, what i was upset about what some sort of maternal instinct/drive that i felt i had no outlet for. once i had felt upset about the fact i would never have a child i found out that part of me is something i can put towards many other things. i really value this side of myself and i find ways to express maternality all the time.

>>43504916
>ah yes another day at the ol' humiliation factory.
Adoptions always an answer. You don't have to fuck up your body by pushing out another human being. My Mom says that shit fuck her up for life. Then she stares off into the distance and sips her vodka.

>>43505012
No
>>43505004
That's fair, the fostering system in my country is horrific and if I could help someone who ended up in it have a better life I will
>>43505018
My concern is that adoption will not lead to any maternal instincts, I worry it will only lead to the feeling that I've burdened myself with a small human I now have to deal with for like a decade. I'm worried my mind won't accept it as true motherhood but as a fake, meaningless attempt at being a "real woman"

>>43505097
So you are a ftm? Or are you mtf?

>>43505097
>My concern is that adoption will not lead to any maternal instincts,
girl i said nothing about adopting. i said about finding outlets for maternal energy. if you get rid of the idea that pregnancy is the only way you can find that, then there are so many ways you can fulfil that maternal instinct. sometimes i look after kids, sometimes i look after animals. sometimes i create things. i nurture my friends and loved ones. i do guerrilla gardening even lol like it taps into the same drive. you don't know yourself and you're stuck in the grief of it all because you've not let yourself simply be a woman upset at being childless

>>43505144
Thank you for your advice, I'll try to get through this grieving process and see what I can do about finding something for that, I'm not really sure what though, I could try gardening or making stuff but idk what I'd grow or make. I'll think on it. Thank you

>>43505193
i think to be real grieving for me looked like letting myself be really upset. it was like going from it being a passive background thing to an all consuming misery for a while. but it passed as all things do and then i could see things differently. the catalyst for me was the end of a relationship in which i was in the process of looking to adopt. i hope you can find a way to process things too.
>I'm not really sure what though
just remain open to things would be my advice. how old are you can i ask? i get the impression there is a lot you do not know about yourself, and so you'd do well to try new things.

>>43505290
I'm 24, and I do agree I need to explore myself. Depression has dominated my life since I was very young and I never got to grow up normally and find who I am like everyone else so now I'm past the worst of it I don't really know who I am or what I like

>>43505591
i can really relate to this and felt similarly at your age. 10 years later things are entirely different! a lot can change once you grow past those things that hold you back. you're gmi nona, be patient with yourself whilst you get there
>now I'm past the worst of it I don't really know who I am or what I like
the good news is that it can be a very lovely process to figure this out :)

>>43504916
>I'll never be able to get pregnant or give birth
F2M?

i don't understand why people think shes ftm when this is so clearly a tgirl thing