i have a theory that every gender demographic has both an average standard they would ideally have (the one they talk about) and the one they'll settle for (who they'll actually settle for/end up with).cis straight men: medium for ideal and actual. main goals are basic attractiveness (thin, not deformed, etc) and good mental healthcis straight women: high ideal standards but lower actual standards. why you see women online pining for chad but irl highbies end up with sub5 men. trans straight men: medium ideal but low actual. come in with higher expectations based on prior experience as a lesbian but learn to settle after being short and dickless gets them nowhere.straight trans women: medium ideal and actual. straight men aren't interested until srs but bi and gay chasers are plentiful.cis bi men: medium ideal and low actual. enjoy having a lot of options until they realize women don't want to date someone who likes dick.cis bi women: medium ideal and actual for men but low for women. with men they can use the backup of "i'll just switch teams" but lesbians are picky.trans bi men: low ideal and actual. have to take whatever they can get, usually theyfabs or performative straight men.trans bi women: medium ideal and actual for men but low for women. male chasers are plentiful but female ones are very rare.gay: high ideal and actual. know they have many options so they are more selective.lesbian: medium ideal and actual. generally trusting of other women but know they have a wide variety available.gayden: low ideal and actual. why they always end up getting groomed into depooning by straight men with broken bird syndrome.transbian: low ideal and actual. don't need to have high standards since they mainly date each other and share an innate bond with other transbians.
>>43513424straight and bi tf need to be much highert. chaser
My theory is that every single human is pansexual, but most people dont engage with those feelings because it would disrupt their current "attraction mode".Like men would fuck literally anything, but they wouldn't tell anyone or even let themselves get into it, because it makes it harder to get pussy
>>43513599That is a grotesque assumption>men will fuck anythingA few nasty freaks tell the whole story?
>>43513611What on earth are you even trying to say
>>43513599i wish i was pansexual so i could just fuck a theyfab and be happy instead of being sad i'll never be a gay man
as a bi bottom i really only have a choice between gay/bi men and i'd rather have a gay boyfriend since i know he won't cheat on me with a woman because he misses pussy or something, which is what a bi guy might do.
>>43513611>A few
>>43513599No chance, when I was closeted and never considered the possibility that I could be gay (internalzed homophobia) I tried to have sex with a girl and it was like there was something innate in me saying 'this is wrong stop stop stop'. I even tried to push through and tell myself I was just anxious but I got that stomach drop feeling and felt sick. Its like how people know innately not to eat rotting meat or have sex with their family.
>>43513599A kind of weird dichotomya growing sense of social awareness that gets closer and closer to all the actions one takes in life. Eventually, a person is expected by their peers to imagine some invisible watcher in all aspects of their life, that every action must be taken under the assumption that it may secretly be monitored and dissected by the least favorable watcher. Every accusation is as dangerous as the act itself, ambiguity and privacy can no longer be leveraged to protect someone against slander. If a person can be characterized, even in the most shallow sense, as someone who could be imagined to have taken that action, they may as well have actually done so publicly.Degrees of separation, once useful as a buffer between a persons actions and the perception they've fostered, are no longer legitimate. Alongside that, a growing sense of acceptance and indifference to the supposed consequences of ostensibly degenerate behaviors. While people are less stigmatized than ever for openly marginalizing themself, they are still incentivized to curate an aesthetic along the lines of those marginal characteristics, just as much as those who live within the mean.
>>43513599reminds me of how many guys say things along the lines of "being gay is a choice you can choose not to be attracted to men" implying that they made that choice already
