Gave a trans girl a chance for a year and I've given up, broke up yesterday.The issue wasn't even her being trans, it was just the absurd amount of mental illnesses that I couldn't cope with.Month 0-1: This is quite niceMonth 1-3: Hmm, she has some issuesMonth 3-12: I'm gonna try to fix herI couldn't fix her.
>fix herDon't ever do this. If she can't be fixed in a single night of cuddling and soothing, don't drag it out. Your coddling will only exacerbate the problem and she'll grow progressively worse off.Sometimes you just gotta tell a bitch to knock it off. Goes for cis and trans.
I'm bipolar and worry I'm too much sometimes for any bfs.What were her major malfunctions?
You sound like a cunt, probably your fault it didn't work out
>>43516619as a bpd tranner i'm sorry we don't mean it
>>43516619It's unfortunate but a lot of tranners don't survive growing up or early transition without a lot of trauma.
>>43516772Any minor setback in whatever would become a major issue that she couldn't let go off.If I had to work from home and couldn't give her all my attention there was a 50/50 chance she'd cry and think I hate her.If she cooked something I would have to reaffirm that it did indeed taste good (her cooking is good!) or she'd end up sad.This pattern was very consistent for everything, really. She needed constant affirming.
>>43517082This is the sort of thing you problem solve with your partner about instead of objectifying her as a responsibility to maintain. I've had partners with BPD, bipolar, cptsd before and found that a few simple things like being proactive (rather than reactive) and communicative, actively promoting a sense of security and stability, understanding partner's emotional needs, and little things like leaving gifts or letters for when I'm not around. I understand this is not an easy task nor is it something you must do, likewise for staying in the relationship. You have no responsibility to her. But framing it as "I tried to date a tranny but the mental health / BPD / clinginess" is objectifying and disrespectful, it does not sound like you were good to her and that goes for any partner you have in the future as well.
>>43517082Wow she's literally me
>>43516619Trannies are for fucking, not for dating
>>43517214No please date us i need a husband
>>43517224I'll tell you that I'll date you if you let me fuck your ass
>>43517193gay ass dicksucka
>>43517082My cis ex was exactly like this. It was unrelenting and drove me insane. I'm not great with words of affirmation in the first place so it became impossible to be around her. Luckily my current trans gf has like 1/100th of the intensity about it. If you're like this, please internalize it more instead of constantly placing a burden of affirmation on your partner. Trust me, it will drive your partner insane if you don't. Having my ex ask me "do you even love me?" dozens of times a day made me fall out of love with her, ironically enough.
