>>43517469
Yes

Yes

>>43517469
yes, you should

>>43517660
>>43517658
>>43517638
idk, it feels like I'm going to have to ghost every cis friend I have at this rate desu, but it really annoys me seeing transphobia like this because I can only imagine how I'm talked about when I'm not listening...

>>43517696
>it feels like I'm going to have to ghost every cis friend I have at this rate
iktf, lost all my 'friends' (more like acquaintances) like this over the past decade, it's gotten especially bad these past few years with the media hellscape cuz now every cissy has an opinion on us and think they know us better than ourselves
sometimes retards compartmentalize you as 'one of the good ones' and you can work through it if you've got a solid friendship otherwise (and if u can compartmentalize yourself), depends on the person heavily tho

confront him about it first then ghost if it doesnt go well

Confront him, see how he acts

>>43517469
explain what he did wrong and then tell him you're cutting off the friendship. ghosting is for emotionally immature losers and no one learns how to be better thru it

>>43517469
if she was so passing, how did she get misgendered? but honestly, i've accidentally misgendered people in conversations before even if they were cis, not intentionally of course and i'm a tranny myself

>>43520593
>>43520602
>>43520611
I just don't like policing how other people act
like what's the point? He's still going to hold the same opinions even if I ask him not to say it, and he's a literal asmongold watching gamur chud so if anything, he'd just become more resentful from the experience

and if I'm going to ghost someone, then why should I put myself through the stress of confronting them first? It won't make me feel better, and if I ghost someone then I have no reason to care how they feel after the relationship has ceased.

>>43520641
sorry I forgot to mention that she was a voicehon + a tall fat maxxer (fem proportions just 6 foot tall and very large as a result)

Have a discussion with him, do you not value him as a person?

>>43520686
see >>43520679

policing their language won't change how they think, so I'd still feel uncomfortable talking to them

If she passed he wouldn't have misgendered

>>43520611
implying people who misgender others in front of their trans friends want to learn to be better or that op owes that to them

>>43517469
If you think words matter more than actions then you shouldn't have any friends to begin with

>>43520847
his words implies that he doesn't see me as a woman but rather a mentally ill friend, it's quite humiliating and upsetting.

to tell the truth, i've always known this deep down, but today was a painful reminder, and I have to wonder, is being around someone like this holding back my transition?

I wouldn't
I'd mentally categorize them as someone with the maturity and restraint of a six year old, and that would probably lead to less time around them. Shaming a person for that action isn't effective outside of a group setting. Even then it's not a convincing reason to rewrite the primordial shit like the catharsis from acting like you're better than someone else. The big question I'd have is like, "What do you get out of that?"
No matter what you do a confrontation is going to make him feel self righteous and defensive, it takes a special kind of retarded not to see exactly how socially repulsive that behavior is. Being made to look at that is uncomfortable for a person who thinks bonding takes place over other peoples woes, and there's always a chance that bringing your view of things into the conversation makes him think that you're doing what he's doing, trying to show him you're "better than him" for not needing to spit over the name of a stranger. These kinds of reactions are just a natural defense people have, once they learn enough words they realize how they have to improve on the strategy of stomping their feet, making a face and saying "Nuh-uh"

Either way you're already thinking of the relationship as something shallow and dishonest, assuming that you're no different than the outsiders they're willing to shit on "for fun"
That's going to affect the friendship no matter what, the question is whether you want to play an active part in how they think you think of it. They're going to assume they're right either way, to be clear, but you might get something out of making your thoughts known.

>>43520679
I guess if hes that type of person chances of a successful resolution are kinda low
but you never know, maybe hell come around
sure it might be stressful but it might save a friendship
follow your gut in any case

>>43520679
>I just don't like policing how other people act
telling someone why you're ending a friendship isn't policing their actions

>>43521058
it will just be an opticsnuke from his perspective:
>i tried befriending a tranny once, i gave him a shot but he sperged out when i misgendered a crossdresser.

No.

>>43517469
no, everyone does that it's no big deal tbf
you could even misgender cis women but who would even care ?