Still can't stop thinking about the fact that I was in a situationship 2 times, but both times the reason why they didn't become more was because I'm too mentally ill and they couldn't handle me. You know it just makes me doubt that I will ever find love. It's already hard to even find someone who I like, but finding someone who likes me and is able to handle my mentall illnesses is like impossible. My only companion is my dumb idiot shark plush
>>43559001>situationship
>>43559001>finding someone who likes me and is able to handle my mentall illnesses is like impossible.My friend, what if I told you that you can work on your mental issues so that they don't become a problem in your future relationship?
>>43559001Lol what did you do thisntime nona?
>>43559011I've been working on it for like more than 4 years, yet they are not getting any better. I would go even as far that they are only getting worse because people are consistantly leaving my life, so my trust issues are just getting worse and worse + I got cheated on in one of the situationship
>>43559017I had a crash out because the guy just didn't want to show me his alt accounts, but I already knew that he cheated on me once, so I just had a huge crash out about it. After that he said that he wants a day of break, but then never came back
>>43559020>>43559027Okay, you can legitimately work on this. But you'll have to think of it like a sport. You're practicing and practicing, working on your mental health and learning how to control it. But when game day comes, you gotta remember to use what you've learned.You're in danger of freaking out and driving away a guy who DIDNT and WOULDNT cheat on you by being accusatory. You need to slow down and think clearly. If you know for actual sure, like with proof, that he cheated then just dump his ass. If you don't, calm yourself down and try to trust him.
>>43559053There was proof of it, and he even addmitted it, I just gave him a second chance, but he probably cheated on me for a second time. But he disappeared so things between us is over, he said he wants to take a day of break, but that has been almost a week and he is still not back, so I just gave up.>But when game day comes, you gotta remember to use what you've learned. I've learned cbt and dbt, yet it's not enough. I have autism, bpd and depression and it's just not something that I can eliminate from my life a 100% of the times
>>43559102>I just gave him a second chanceYeah, don't do that. Literally torturing yourself at that point. Even if he was 100% faithful after cheating that first time you would never get over it.>I have autism, bpd and depression and it's just not something that I can eliminate from my life a 100% of the timesSounds like excuses. I mean, yeah, you can't expect it to just melt away and you never have to think about it again. Even as you get better at controlling it, you might have flare-ups for the rest of your life. But you CAN get better at dealing with it. It will take effort, lots of it, but you CAN improve.
>>43559135>Even as you get better at controlling it, you might have flare-ups for the rest of your lifeYeah so what I said was right, because then my partner needs to be able to handle my mentally ill side, even if I get better at it, it won't go away. Finding someone who is even a little bit alright with it is hard
>>43559169Get good.Be upfront with your partner about hangups you have and why. (Been cheated on before)Trust him.
