Yeah dating trans women can be quite a Sisyphean task. Dating in general honestly though I've struggled a lot more in relationships with trans women, are you a man OP? If so I'm sorry I can't really offer you much advice, I'm afraid trans women that like men are either evil bisexual women that will break your heart and emotionally torture you for months before and after breaking up with you when you've already developed a trauma bond with them and can't let go (Yes I'm very hurt okay this happened to me and people I care about many times, this is absolutely a personal bias but I've been proven right time and time again) or straight trans women, which from my very limited experience a significant part of them tend to be a bit hateful and unpleasant. I'll tell you though, as someone who has find my ideal girlfriend of my dreams (which also is a trans woman so it's relevant) It's hard and there definitely is a struggle, even after having found your soulmate, but it's the most rewarding experience ever. I really hope you don't do anything bad OP, you deserve happiness, you've suffered enough you deserve to find your ideal woman that will be loyal and love you unconditionally.

>>43589817
>are you a man OP?
Functionally yes. I have some very woke views however.
>trans women that like men are either etc.
The first part is exactly what happened to me with the first girl, yeah. The 2nd part is why I was only able to try to date bi women - the "straight" trans women I've met have all been even more blatantly awful or basically only wanted a relationship for sex.

The first girl made me feel for a brief moment like I 'got' my dream girl and it was all gonna work out. Getting that again would make everything I've been through worth it. BUT, I don't think that person can exist, cis OR trans, since I only started considering trans women to broad my scope. It's a literal 100% track record of every woman I've met who even starts to approach 'my type' being a lesbian, or bi but with lopsided standards. Even if they exist odds are extremely high I never meet them, or if I do they'll already be in a relationship. And on top of that I have nowhere new to look, and nothing to work towards that doesn't feel like it'll be a complete waste of time if I never find that person. I'm also almost 30 now and it's only going to get worse with the only viable solution I can see being to become that guy dating women a decade younger than him.

At this point I don't even view suicide as a thing to do out of sadness. Moreso akin to walking into a store and seeing there isn't anything you'd ever want to buy and deciding you should just leave. People have said I deserve XYZ but at this point it means very little because the underlying message behind it is "someone else should be there for you" and never "I want to be there for you".

Even if I wanted to wait things out, realistically I would only ever get to have someone who wants to be there for me if I put 110% into everything else in my life. Evidently the mental state I am in now is "unacceptable", but that has never been a problem I've had with others, so I don't know why I would ever accept that for myself.

>>43590028
>for a brief moment like I 'got' my dream girl
This is a known suicide bait tactic that women to use.
"Better to have loved and lost than to have loved at all."

It's clear that Alfred Tennyson was talking about someone dying, not a breakup. Women and those posing as "women" are holes and creatures. No conscious or moral-being would suicide bait just to get their rocks off or for the feeling of superiority, all while moonlighting with their boyfriend to cuck you.

Have my support in the form of rage. Something that feminized, trans, gay, whatever sluts and holes won't tell you because they gotta save face.

If it's romance you like then do things for the sake of romance, not for some hole. In fact, it's your fault for having such low standards. Learn to determine when someone isn't worth your time, earlier. Problem solved.

>>43590274
reformat your post, reddit spacer

>>43589713
im sorry vro you deserve a freebie to murder cheating rapehons without consequence

>>43590274
This kind of negging 'support' crops up from time to time, but it's always buried under like 5 layers of assumptions based on nothing. I never did anything for hole, and was deeply uncomfortable the few times I've tried casual sex. My standards definitionally cant be low if basically no one meets them as is. In fact they keep getting higher to try to cut off more chaff and prevent similar experiences. But at a point things get too high, the kind of person you specifically look for stops being feasible, and you're faced with the decision of taking risks or dying alone because people don't meet some fantasy standard. If I was content to die alone I wouldn't even fucking bother at all, none of this shit would bother me. But I'm not devoid of emotion or the desire for connection, so that isn't the case.

Trying to flip it into some "you should just know better" shit is retarded. Me knowing better has no bearing on the right person existing. People already find my ability to read others to be uncanny. I won't magically spawn people into existence just by becoming a borderline psychic and turning away the very small handful of people who showed ANY promise. ESPECIALLY as a man. No one is realistically going to pull up on my doorstep and ask me what they'd need to do to prove themselves to me.

>>43590473
Ideally we would simply be able to force someone through the same shit they caused, and to feel the same things they made others feel, but we don't get to do that unfortunately. I don't view death as a real comparable punishment desu. I mean, to me it sounds better than what I've already been through and am currently going through, so it can't be all that bad. Fear of death is just a fear of losing things really. If you have nothing then why would you still be scared of it?