A thread for all LGBT people 30 years old or older to discuss life away from the youngshitsQOTT: Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?
I hate my life and I should have trooned out in high school
>>43596169>QOTTNot at all. My career has stalled, and what I once thought I wanted has really come into question.I'm also pathetically a repper, so there are some biological/psychological components in question.That all said, I might be coming into money soon. No idea what to do with it, natch...
>>43596524This but to be fair there were no “trans kids” back then. I wish I went to college instead of military coping, I could have had a shot at not repping.
>>43596563Time to transition
I'm 36 years old and I'm about to start university so no, not where I should be
>>43596524same lateshitestie
>>43596169honestly i expected to die before 25 so it wasn't what i was expecting nobeing 30 sucks not just because im an ugly unemployed neverpasser but because you age out of the world, everything seems like it's poisitoned towards young adults, gov schemes and policies, charity and peer resources, etcyou're basically expected to have it together once you're 30 or fuck you otherwise
>have my masters>have a well paying career>just bought a house>cute girl moving in with me who I might end up dating because she's so cool>only 32I am exactly where I want to be right now. Can't say I've ever been happier.
>>43596169>QOTTI didn't think I'd make it this far
>>43596674>Girl moving in>might end up dating Lmao, oh dear
>>43596703It's not as bad as it sounds I swear
>>43596524>I hate my life and I should have trooned out in high schoolSame :/On the plus side, I trooned at 30 and miraculous starting passing at the 1 year HRT mark. I also have enough money for surgeries, so guess I'm going to Natalie Mars path>>43596626Good luck nona! I know it sucks, but better than waiting even longer.>>43596649>you're basically expected to have it together once you're 30 or fuck you otherwiseEven if you have it together, most people's lives are still a house of cards.
>>43596674>just bought a house>cute girl moving in with me who I might end up datingSo you can't afford the mortgage and have a roommate now?
>>43596772No I can afford the mortgage on my own
>>43596611Right? Maybe. I dunno.>>43596751>trooned at 30>started passing one year markI'm definitely closer to 40 than 30, so I kind of hate you but also genuine congrats. Also...>most people's lives are still a house of cardsTrue and doesn't get less true from what I've seen.
>>43596751>Even if you have it together, most people's lives are still a house of cards.yeah true, i think most of use are one crisis away from everything falling apart, or perpetually miserable and barely outrunning itit's sad and i don't really know how to feel about it apart from deeply pessemistic and cynical which is the antethesis of happiness - humans need hope or whatever, especially when you're expected to pull yourself up by your bootstraps after falling out the rat race
>QOTTNot quite. No bf, no friends, no job, no house, health issues...
Divorced but got together with a beautiful man last Christmas, about to start training for a new profession, broke as shit but happy enough
>>43596169QOTT: not really, I planned on being dead, or free from my GD and Good Family Christian Man, unfortunately God neither purged my GD nor did He kill me. At least I didn't get married, have kids, and then troon out on them; Volcel life ftw.
>>43596169>QOTT: Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?The flavor of "no" depends on how far back you're talking, but no in any case.Transitioned late due to a late egg crack, still can't tell if my spouse accepts me as a woman or not eight years on, questioning my marriage & entire life, and it's getting harder and harder to imagine a future.>>43596751>most people's lives are still a house of cards.You're telling me. I got laid off from my job in tech a little over a year ago and haven't been able to find anything in my field. Everything relevant to me is listed in big cities where I am not and can't move to, and the boomers that be have decided that working from home was such a tremendous success that we should never do it again, for some reason. I've apparently been fucked out of my entire career, we're completely out of money, and we'll soon lose the house. The last year and a half have been a recurring theme of "and then, things got worse." There's only so much the antidepressants can do to make me not want to kill myself.Feels bad, ma'am.
>>43596941>I kind of hate you but also genuine congrats.I get it nona, honestly I die a little on the inside whenever I see younger trans people, even though I'm happy that they didn't have to go through the repping that I went through. The only reason I was able to pass was because I put effort into voice training, makeup skills, fashion, mannerisms, and skincare simultaneously over the course of the year. But anyways, if I can give some hope to lateshits and nonpassing youngshits that it can get better and you can make it, then I think I can be happy with my life.>True and doesn't get less true from what I've seen.It doesn't until around 60s, and even that's assuming you still have good relationships with people (which is extremely rare given a lot of these people spent all their time working, and in the process fucking up their kids and getting divorced along the way).
>>43597039One of the biggest life regrets people have is working too hard. I could honestly make double my current salary, but the cost would be me losing out on a lot of time I could be spending with friends and people who genuinely care about me and understand me. The rat race is such a scam, just stop racing once you feel happy enough, and enjoy your free time.
>>43597137>At least I didn't get married, have kids, and then troon out on themI’m about to do this
People who troon out after having kids are a special kind of shithead
>>43597355Filtered. Fuck off
>>43597161>I got laid off from my job in tech a little over a year ago and haven't been able to find anything in my field. Everything relevant to me is listed in big cities where I am not and can't move to, and the boomers that be have decided that working from home was such a tremendous success that we should never do it again, for some reason.Fucking boomers with hating work from home. It's like they legitimately think it's still the 1950s. Most unproductive group of people I've ever seen. We literally need a trans collective that can provide employment insurance and employment resources to each memeber. It shouldn't feel like our life is over if we lose 1 job, especially when we are willing and able to work.
>>43597355It depends on if your life is in order. If it is, then 30s are actually a bit better than 20s. If it's not then it feels like the world is starting to collapse on you.
>>43597374There's nothing wrong with transitioning after having kids
>>43597451Ok, John
>>4359616913 years od hrt and wished Id never started for half of it
>>43597374>People who troon out after having kids are a special kind of shitheadYou can't really blame them, they usually wait due to external factors. Simply put, if being trans was completely socially acceptable, then you probably wouldn't get nearly as many John 50s
>>43597451Scary..
>>43597461It's actually Jane (27)Single dad btw
>>43597508Oh and I'm 35 now and my kids never had an issue understanding my transition
>>43597435>trans collectivelolol>that can provide unemployment insur---BWAHAHAHAAHAHAH please stop!
>>43597527(You)
>>43597307nah i mean i've fallen into the unemployment trap of being out of work for too long due to ill health, which i need money to treat so it's a bit of a catch 22working your life away can go fuck itself but i need something though - money gatekeeps access to a life worth living, especially if ur a tranny
>>43597508>>43597514Based good father. Ironically kids have an much easier time with this than older people do
>>43596169i lowkey want to kill myself, so thats where im at. slowly killing myself through alcoholism instead. might stop if i get some privacy and a boyfriend.
>>43597555I shouldn't have been so insensitive to unemployed people, but do you really listen to yourself? What person with a pile of money would say, yes, let me risk my pile of money insuring that trans people, of all people, might one day become unemployed and make claims upon my pile of money? I mean seriously now. They'd may as well light their money on fire in a bonfire.
>>43597749I honestly thought it was going to be harder, I still remember explaining to my then 5 year old and she just said "Ok Daddy can we have pizza" and that was it.
>>43597789Unemployment insurance already exists in the USA, and the unemployment rate is like 5%, so your only offsetting for a small group. Charitable organizations are also tax free, so a donation made to the org would reduce your taxes. Contributions would be completely voluntary, and moral hazard managed by an employment resource network attached to it that would reduce the amount of time anyone stays unemployed. This is really not that odd of an idea, considering farming co-ops are created all the time to smooth out variable harvests. People just seem to misinterpret the mechanism for how this would work and be set up, while also being sustainable in the long run.>They'd may as well light their money on fire in a bonfire.Might as well say the same about all insurance. I mean, all of us are always healthy forever, right? Why waste your money on insurance, it seems irrational.
>>43597911Lol, ok troll you got me to bite again.>unemployment rate is 5%Of the entire population, not trannies>contributions would be completely voluntaryOh, so what unemployment insurance policy just has "optional" premiums? Just dont feel like paying, but make a claim anytime... sounds right?>all insuranceOk, you're slowly getting warmer. Young, healthy workers who pay into the system offset the older sicker claim makers. Without that pyramid it collapses...especially with voluntary contributions.Would you create a life insurance pool for Stage 4 cancer patients? How long do you think that would stay solvent.
>>43597825People forget that kids have much higher neuroplasticity than adults, its just easier for them to understand it.
I am 30 years old straggot femmanMy life is going to shit and I can't do anything about it
>>43598077>Of the entire population, not tranniesSo 7.5% given my calculations.>"optional" premiumsDuration of your insurance can be 0.5 x number of months contributing>make a claim anywaysClaims get denied>Ok, you're slowly getting warmer. Young, healthy workers who pay into the system offset the older sicker claim makers. False equivalency, older workers make more than younger workers, and there can already be a 5 year employment threshold to qualify for the org.Honestly you just dont get how the numbers work. Now go spend about an hour or two cherry picking google searches, or stop talking, your choice.
>>43597374I thought it was optional and it turns out that it is not. The choice is now between troondad and a dad with horrible mental health and suicidal ideation.>>43597477Yes this exact scenario used to play out with gay men all the time, they’d marry women and have children and wouldn’t come out for decades. Now it hardly ever happens because gay men usually feel comfortable to come out by college.>>43597514Thanks Nona that’s reassuring
>>43598175No no, you've convinced me of your genius. Can't wait until you set up the worlds first ever Tranny only unemployment insurance fund. Groundbreaking, really, can't understand why no insurance company thought it through before.
>>43598328(You), enjoy
>>43596524tfw came out to my mom at 15, she was supportive and said she had trans friends in college so she knew getting on HRT was important asap. I said nah, I want to finish running cross country in high school. From 15 -> 18 when I finally got on HRT I had grown from like 5'6 to 6'1 and I gained a lot of masculine facial definition. I lost a life because of sports and I want to kill myself for it
>>43596169QOTT: no, not really. I'm in a good space over all but pretty disappointed with myself
Jesus the misery porn in this thread. Am I the only one who just went to college, got a degree, and then got a good job?
>>43600268Nope. I was thinking similar things, then saw your post. I was thinking about how I should never share anything about myself ever again because my existence makes trans women upset or something. I can't even comprehend it because I'm privileged in pretty much every aspect of life. I can't talk about myself here, everyone is venting. I forget that most queer people are dysfunctional.
>>43600325an anonymous image board is like a bar, its for talking about shit thats getting you down. There is a space for forced positivety and hugboxing, and that's called Reddit
>>43600268Idk other than my terrible mental health and impending cat five troonout I guess other things went ok? All of the good things are non-/lgbt/
I never really came out as a big fag in a big dramatic way, I just told my mum I'd met a nice guy and that was cool
>>43596626starting your masters? Im 31 but only have bachelor's in CS, the market is so bad rn thinking of going back:/
>>43596169Disgusted I became old enough for these threads to be relevant.
>>43600325No one asked you to be a fucking martyr
>>43600325It might not get many (you)’s but if you did share it honestly might help people see that things can be ok.
>>43596169>QOTTfor the most part, yes.I wish I had finished with buying a house but we're on track with that too. Career-wise idc that much. I make decent money and it's not worth it to work a lot harder for a marginal difference and for the line to go up.I certainly got a lot more from my list of things than I was told I would. Definitely not bad at all for a "fake" tranny who also committed the "crime" of avoiding the retardation known as "college". I will turn 37 in a few months.t. married srsoid
>>43598411not putting cute boys on estrogen should be a crime, lowkey.
I turned 29 recently, I don’t know if I’m comfortable being unc yet, I certainly wasn’t a cool young person
>>43596169>QOTTNot exactly but I’ve been met with an incredible streak of favorable luck so I’m not complaining:>>43596674I’m sincerely the girl in this situation and I’m extremely excited about this :3
>>43601515I appreciate that anon you're very kind thank you
>Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?naw, I thought I'd be dead a ways before now. Depending on age polled. I am in some odd AU where I'm disabled, my parent killed themselves instead of me and one of my closest friends died one after the other, I'm a fairly functional adult with a child, and there's an attempted fascist takeover of the government.
>>43596626>I'm 36 years old and I'm about to start university so no, not where I should beprops. I always admire people who go to school after the usual age for it
>>43602039I went back to school for an arts degree and kinda dropped out.Part of the reason was I was becoming more bigoted interacting with the college than I was after years on 4chan lol
35, 7 months on hrt and with an amazing partner the same age who is also babytrans. My life is actually amazing rn and all that prior suffering was worth it. Now I spend my nights playing Tarkov with the love of my life. Never kill yourselves.
>>43602168Glad you've found happiness. I love being 35 also. I was so miserable at 25 and 15.
>>43602168i love you!
>>43602168>lateshit agp transbian posting the most r/traa meme in existence>>>/r/eddit is down the hall and on the left
>>43603541>/r/eddit is down the hall and on the leftnta but this is extremely funny given that you are in a thread literally inviting people who are more likely to be lateshits.the whole rest of the fucking board is down the hall and on the left. no idea why you're here.
>>43601316BSc, going into a niche healthcare profession after a million years doing shit work.
>>43603701you can be a youngshit or a midshit who just transitioned a while agolateshits belong on their containment site, >>>/r/eddit
>be me>start trooning out at 30>fucking sat on the idea of trooning out for 4 years because I thought that was the smart thing to do given the gravity of the decision>couldn't rep the thoughts away>4 months hrt>feel hopeless every fucking day>Only thing that gave me the drive to break out of repperhood was people on discord saying I should troon out just because of how I look unsolicted (1 foid, 2 dudes, one of the dudes was even throwing money at me)>still have no clue why anyone would think I would make it I look like a kpop faggot reject>conetits coming in, and I 100% have visible gyno now>told myself I didn't need to pass I just was taking it to be an even prettier prettyboy, but then my brain started feminizing, and it's freaking out that I don't have a woman body.>Wish every day I could travel back in time and troon out as a teenagerI hate it all, I hate everything, there is no hope.
>>43596169>QOTT: Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?Oh fuck no buddy we are pretty much in the darkest timeline with the only exception being that I have a loving partner. I won't even go into details because I hate myself that much.
>>43601621Trooning out was unironically part of my midlife crisis.
37yo perma repperEverything going well desu. Good job, good income, own my house, financialy secure. Several good friends and close with my brother and like being an uncle. Just have never had a relationship because intimacy makes me dysphoric so I pretend I'm asexual.
>>43596581Honestly fucking youngshits have no idea how good they have it trannies were so fucking hated that they either passed, or didn't exist. I was thinking to myself how did I wind up trooning out at 29 instead of when I was a teenager oh yes.... trannies were so fucking taboo they were never spoken about, never showed, never mentioned the concept of transitioning was NEVER PRESENTED. First time I met a trans person was when I was 19 in college, and even then I thought they were intersex, and the doctors just worked some magic to nudge them one way or the other at birth. I didn't know anyone could transition. Then one day I was like wow, I always hate myself for looking like a man why am I like this, so I started doing some research and learned about gender dysphoria, and I was like oh wow that sounds like what is going on with me. Then I found out what transitioning is, and that you can transition, and at that point I was 26. Basically it took me 4 years to troon out from when I learned you could troon out. I would've trooned out way way sooner if I knew I could troon out. I think the concept of trooning out was hidden away unless you were like chimping out and being sent to the psychward as a kid for wanting to be the other gender... and then this arcane concept of transitioning was presented to you...
Does almost 30 counts too?t. Almost 30
>>43605058May as well you are basically there if you are 29, the zoomers already call you unc.
>>43605017Not even hrtrepping? I don't know how you do it, but power to you man. I'm kind of afraid I've set myself up for failure for unrepping myself because now I'm all in on trooning, and if I don't make it after like 2 years hrt + ffs + effortmaxx I'm gonna have to rope.
basically the fact that the concept of transitioning was thrown in people's face enmasse at a young age turned the tide for a loooot of little trannies. If they told me in school when we had the birds and bees conversation that trooning was a thing I would've 100% trooned out before I ever got out of the public education system.
>>43601608Ehhh, I'm not down with that. I've known some prettyboys that are content with that being a phase in their life (which boggles my fucking mind), and they look forward to true manhood. But the option should be given.
>>43605075I mean HRT repping only works for a year or two untill you start to look uncanny and you need to just commit to it. It needs to be all or nothing and commit to the choice I think. Having said that it depends on your environment and who you know. Trooning is the right choice if you're in an environment that accepts it I think. Like I dont think there is any winning move with this condition its just about which drawbacks and issues in life you feel better dealing with.
>>43605145Naw I've seen a prostrat. There's some gatekeeping tranny on this board that larps about being a twink that looked fem just off of pio, truth is they are on E, but they had keyhole surgery super early on. Just looks like a fucking twink, no boobs or small boobs, and I feel you could get away with boymoding forever.
>>43605145Honestly it hit the point where it was like, I am miserable and I want to rope every day, so I may as well try.
>>43605176which is completely fine yeah. You need to do what feels right for you in your situation. All choices have positives and negatives and its about what issues you feel more comfortable dealing with.
31 soon, going back to study for another master's, could be worse. Health is still shit, still depressed, anxious, OCD, BPD/CPTSD, but I try every day to get better.
>>43605050Yeah big same. Trooned at 22 but like as a teen I thought trannies were like men with breast implants... ofc school wouldn't ever bring it up lmao
I look like this pooner but with a slightly longer chin and a brow ridge. Not the same pheno, but my lips and nose and eyes and eyebrows are like same shape and distance. Is there even hope for me, because I'd say this pooner passes really well.
>>43596169>QOTT: Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?Bi MStill using 4chan? Expected, although I gotta cut down lol.Married and planning for kids? Unexpected, didn't plan to get married or have kids until a few years ago.Wife is a bi fujo? Expected goal reached, ideal partner. Hope to do MMF soon.Strong friendships? Expected.Living in condo exactly where I wanted to live when I was a kid. Mostly expected.Not really throwing big parties anymore post-covid and in my 30s? Kind of a bummer, didn't expect that.Comfy job? ExpectedMost of my personal creative projects unfinished? Expected, unfortunately lmao. But I still like working on them.Pretty good overall.
>>43605058yes, just add the 9 months of fetus
>>43596169 I'm over 50 transgender womanAs far as finance I'm collecting retirement and have a small company . Kinda upset the the community has gone, underground like during the rave times , and 90s when you needed a membership card to get into places of LGBTQ gatherings. I thought it would be more mainstream by now.
>>43596169>Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?I think I'm living the dream. But I'm insane.37 years old bi m married to a woman who doesn't know I'm bi. It's not like I'm some down low closet case with an insatiable craving for dick and pussy though. I'm monogamous. I figured these things out about myself too late in life to act upon them. The more important part of it is being honest with yourself you know? I could be the other bisexual stereotype and constantly tell people that's what I am. Even though I've never been with a man. But I can finally admit to myself that I find men attractive too.
>>43605717Big eyes and big lips really help. If your brow ridge and chin are bad maybe FFS eventually.
>>43606013I heard a stat that 1/3rd of gay bars closed during Covid. Queer spaces are going away, I think largely because zoomers don’t go out as much, they’re inside on their phone hitting vape pens instead. All cloistered social groups online and in private. It’s sad.>>43606017How do you think she would take it if she knew?
>>43605281Got a bf/gf? 30 is still pretty young.
>>43606099I'm sure she would be a bit confused and surprised. But if ever it came to that I'd reiterate basically what I said here. I'm monogamous and I'm committed. Even if you didn't know every little thing about me you knew what kind of person I am. The only thing that has changed is that you know this about me.
>>43606099It's a bigger number then that, I would say only 1/8 places are left. But then again the normie places are starting to shutdown to. 80s 90s, everyone was full of life self expression and indivuality. I'm on the east coast NJ,PA, NY the LGBTQ community was kinda big because of the bigger cities and people living outside the bigger cities. It's an easy drive to Philadelphia, Manhattan, Trenton, Hoboken, Poconos and the Jersey Shore. It's like the dark ages, religion persecution, oppression, and closed mind thinking. Seaside heights to cape May is packed right now but there like zombies, with no swagger. They just walk around not really talking to anyone. Strange times
I never thought my transition would go this well. starting life over at 30 is difficult (forced to leave and NC very abusive family situation) but I now live a completely different life: I have friends, party, hang out, book clubs I'm going to start my masters and sex work is going well ish so put an ease on financial stress. it's been hard, was homeless, struggled for years to make it by while manmoding etc etc and I'm prone to trauma crash outs still but it's less and less like survival mode
>>43606408 Sex work is a dangerous Job, are you sure you're over 30 ?
>>43606187Yeah I have had a partner for 8y almost :)
>>43606445what do you mean am I sure? yeah early 30s. dangerous ofc but it's good money. and there's ways to mitigate danger and just keep your wits about you.
>>43606511It just seems like a very competitive, territory, environment. You have other sex workers looking to take you out , their pimps and Johns maybe crazy psycho. No to mention all the STDs , in the USA they will arrest sex workers. Doesn't sound stable , that's my opinion don't get me wrong there's a lot of transgender sex workers out there.
Nearly 30 and I practically demolished my life transitioning at 18. Now I live in a shoebox apartment with my boyfriend of 7 years, and we barely scrape by. I live in the tiny town I grew up in, and although I pass pretty well, everyone knows I'm trans, as it was quite the public scandal. I haven't been able to get a job in 4 years. Burger King won't even hire me. My boyfriend is very handsome and charismatic but he has bipolar and epilepsy, so it has been a struggle for him to keep a job. Last job he had he built a pretty solid rapport with his coworkers, but as soon as they found out he was dating me they all started avoiding him lmfao.
I am 35 and I will NEVER get a bf it's so fucking over for me
No. My life is better than I could have ever asked for, holy shit. I thought I would be rotting in the gutter by now.
>>43605717>>43606031
>>43605717>>43606930I look like the pooner but kirkified
>>4359616938- life’s going well, I’m probably about where I could have hoped to be. I’m a working artist, have a long term partner, plenty of friends and see my family regularly. I don’t have kids; they were never a priority, but I think my younger self would have assumed I would at some point at some point. Honestly I think it’s the state of the world and the US in particular that’s more fucked than I could have imagined as a kid.
>>43596169>qottHonestly, no. Mid 30s, married and first child on the way, plus owning a house. Wife knows I'm trans and has been nothing but supportive and continuously pushes me to transition because she can't stand seeing me unhappy with myself. Shame about my egg cracking so late but I had to deal with a mountain of childhood trauma and what little time I didn't spend partying or sleeping I spent distracting myself and dissociating. Life's pretty good right now though. Working on your mental health is hard but can be worth it anons and nonas
>>43596169>30 years old or older to discuss life away from the youngshitsMy callouses are beyond comprehension. Even after a 15 minute hot water + epsom salt foot bath, my pumice stone crumbles against my heels without doing anything at all. Luckily I have my foot cheese grater.
>>43607103That sounds like stuff’s going well for you. Glad you’ve got a supportive wife and family. Gl whatever you end up doing :)
>>43606697Same but 36. People have only ever wanted to fuck me. No man or woman has ever wanted to be in a relationship with me and at this point, I think it's way too late
>>43608167>>43606697Dying alone gang
>>43596169>start hrt at 30>manmode for 5 yrs>Have a good job that pays for surgeries. >get ffs>girlmode socially (still manmoding at work/id)>meet gf at 35>life is going ok>live w/ parents in blue state. gf lives 2 hrs away in a red state. visit once a month.no idea what im going to do long term :\
>>43597374I blame transphobic breeders for forcing people to repress and have kids instead of being themselves
>>43605112I was obviously half joking but yeah, I meant the option should be available.I'm not a tranny, just a very femfag (very technically speaking). Got myself on AAs at 14 and E at 17. I was lucky that I could access the grey market and my parents signed off later on (17 was the lower limit in my country at the time).Now at 30 I'm looking at srs lol.>and they look forward to true manhoodOh, I get that. But just wanted to be a very cute man. I got what I wanted but too many won't/can't.
>>43596169Hiiii youngshit invading your space real quick just to say i LOVE yall and if any of you are looking for a tiny mid 20s transbian im right here :3 sooooooo
>>43609972oh hell yeah
>>43610000SCORE
>>43596169>Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?hahhahahanah i feel stunted asf like arrested development at in my 20sl but im finally progressing
>>43596169>Me age 13, well if I have to be a boy I'm going to make the most of it ( I did)>me at 23 I need a vasectomy I can never see myself getting married and I'll probably be dead by 33>Also me oh hey that chick i was about to hit on while drunk turned out to be one of my childhood friends that moved away (she thought she was going to sell me something before recognizing me)>34 wife, mom happy as a clam and I still get to go out one day a week to get crazy when I want to, ended up marrying that girl
Going through old photos before I trooned, and I just naturally look like a tranny. I trooned because I felt it would give me a more balanced apperance, I would never be able to be chad I have big feminine lips and eyes, and tiny tapered chin. The masculine parts of me are my nose and browbone that is it.
kek even claude ai agrees I'd objectively look better getting rhino and brow work done because of how weird my face is even if I didn't have gender identity issues.
>>43610916Are you sped?
>>43610955Not sped at all are you? AI isn't inherently bad, and it would line up with people insulting me in the past by saying I looked like a tranny with bad plastic surgery in the past before I ever trooned.
>>43596169>QOTT: Is this where you expected to be in your life right now?no but i had the advantage of expecting nothing since it was foolish to think i had a future since... as long as i remembercould be a lot worsebiggest problem is the executive dysfunction and emotional instability secondary to it, but that also means im dysfunctional enough to not be able to get an impulse-friendly method to off myself, most likely
>>43596169I'm 35 and still going strong with my high school sweetheart. Bought a house together and play vidya everyday, we are inseparable
>>43610975Ok retard
>>43611075Maybe you should use it to generate a more thoughtful response, you already lack originality.
>>43611153You don't deserve one. I already know there's no getting through to mouth breathers like you so I'm just gonna tell you what you in a way that you can understandI mean since you need an autocorrect bot to tell you something as obvious as if you're ugly or not, you'd probably need one to tell you what any thoughtful response would actually be saying
>>43597435I mean why does it have to be literal insurance when it could just be a tranny cabal that helps get members into jobs and the regular system takes it from thereOr is that just so-called “mutual aid”
>>4359616930, decently happy and am trying for difficult stuff so not stunned the sky hasn’t opened (yet), got some super solid friends even if they’re too spread out for my likingMain thing is not having a partner, been out of the game a loooong time (since before covid) due to family health crises and don’t really know how to get back in And that partner was before trooning
I am watching right now "Queer as folk" (the american version from the 2000s) and it is making me ponder about my lifestyle as a bisexual. I am in my 30s , and I feel like I am missing something in my life. I have friends in a small city I live, but none of them is LGBT (Except for one that lives like 500 miles away from me). In fact I am the only LGBT person in my family.Apart from the people I dated, I have never done anything LGBT in a social context, like going to a gay bar/nightclub, or using apps like Grindr, or karaoke, or watching a musical or a Pride Parade... Is it normal to feel kinda incomplete?Sometimes I wish I had gay friends to socialise on weekends.
>>43612317>is it normal to feel kinda incomplete?for a certain type of overeducated/overthinking person, yeah
Everyone hug your pets extra hard for me. I just had to put down my 18 year old cat tonight.
>>43604790>you can be a youngshit or a midshit who just transitioned a while agoI feel like back in the 00s, we mostly had the good sense to not create this much useless hierarchy and then police it. I wish more of us would realize we're all in the same dumpster. Maybe i'm just hopelessly old-fashioned. I still see even the most irritating and bigoted trans people as basically family--just family I don't like that much.
>>43613789I'm so sorry it's always hard :(
>>43613789>Everyone hug your pets extra hard for me. I just had to put down my 18 year old cat tonight.I'm so sorry, anon. Sounds like you need the hug.
41, trans’d 19 years ago. I have no money but I’m pretty and happy lol. I could use to have more friends, but I’m very blessed to have a bff who gets me, and we have fun every week. The only thing I truly feel that I’m missing is a partner. Seems straight mtfs never luck out. At this point I’d settle for an ace woman just for the romance.
I'm 24 but I have a question for >30 anonsI've been in and out of school since I was 18. Right now I have an associate's, I just got out of a year of studying computer science at a university. I've just changed my major to social work. My life feels so aimless right now. I haven't achieved any of the things I wanted to do when I was 18. I haven't recorded any music that I'm proud of, I haven't finished university, I just got out of a nearly 4 year relationship earlier this year so now I'm back to sleeping around with whatever other trans women will sleep with me. I keep looking around and finding people who are as old or younger than I am having much more passionate and fulfilled lives than me. I feel like I am more mature and intelligent as I was at 18 (not to mention more comfortable in terms of gender dysphoria, having been on hormones for years now), but with that loss of naivety comes a loss of passion and wonder, and my actual material conditions (living with parents, no career, in university) haven't changed. I'm scared that I'll reach 30 and still feel as aimless, anxious, and unfulfilled as I do now. Does life make more sense as you get older into your late 20s/30s, or was I supposed to do that when I was 18-22? Have I already lost my chance at growth? Do you ever get the passion that you had when you were 18 back? Am I just in some sorta mid-20s slump that I'm eventually supposed to come out of, or is this genuine failure?tl;dr - I'm a mid 20s burnout troon, am I ngmi?
>>43614111As a gran-tran, I’ve had several bursts of motivation and creativity through the years. Almost like different lifetimes. I now think that’s normal for people. Trajectories are kind of important when it comes to a career, but don’t think that applies to anything else. I’ve seen people meet their forever guy/girl in midlife. And some of the greatest literature etc was made by seniors. Instead of the mantra ‘it’ll get better’ assure yourself instead that the future will be different. Be happy to be surprised.
>>43612317>Is it normal to feel kinda incomplete?I thought it was fairly common for bi people to want to have experience with both "sides" of their sexual orientation, and queer culture (given that they are a part of it). I don't know though. Sounds like a very nice and harmless thing to want.>I am watching right now "Queer as folk" (the american version from the 2000s) and it is making me ponder about my lifestyle as a bisexual. that show was one of the contributors to cracking my egg as a little gayden in 2003 or so. my sister had the VHS tapes.
I turn 32 tomorrow, I'm unemployed, and my st4t broke up with my last month, because and I kid you not>I'm afraid of next steps :(I'm still upset about it. Like I didn't choose to get laid off you fucking asshole. I explained to him I would help around the house while I look for a job, and he said it wasn't alleviating his anxiety. Genuinely such a pussy.
>>43614503St4t seems like a meme to me tbqh. Do you pass? There are tons of 30+ year old dudes who want a trans gf
>>43614524I do pass. He does as well, he's also been on T longer than I've been on E (11 years for T for him, 8 years of E for me, but he's also a little older). I'm mostly interested in ST4T though because there is that shared experience of dysphoria, and helping to overcome it.
>>43596169I should have trooned out sooner. 30s have been relatively chill bc I got lucky in the height department. Basically a govt funded trad wife bc I'm a neet and my bf has a good job, so I just clean out apartment. I got neetbux bc I'm such a turbo autist that it's just easier to gibs me dat than have me fuck everything up at every job forever
>>43614823lowkey hopefuelt. rooning at 30
How is your dating life in your 30'? Any chance of marriage?
>>43614911Yes! 30 year old girls are the only ones deserving of marriage!!t.25 year old
>>43596524I know how you feel so fucking badly I repped until 25 and I'm 32 now I don't look awful but the fact I don't look awful starting at 25 makes me realize had I started at 18 or found 420chan and self medded when I was a teen in general I would've passed well
>>43614911I got one partner for 2 years at age 30 and I currently found another partner for like a few months so far at age 33 I fucking pray someone loves me for the rest of my life and things work out it would make me so unbelievably happy and I still think it could happen even though my heart has been broken a few times the worst was a 5 year relationship in my 20s
>>43615087I had* let me clarify I do not have 2 partners
>>43615022more hopefuel <3t. >>43614882
>>43614911got married at 32. I'm now 36 but we met when I was 28. We would've married earlier but the pandemic restrictions made wedding impossible.
>>43613789There there
Anons? I will turn 30. I'm a NEET and I'm getting neetbux from the gov. I wasted my 20s... I miss the good old days, where I could hookup with other boys, without fucking dating apps. We had so much fun. I was never good with girls, at least I tried it once, but I actually hate pussy.Everything went to shit. I miss sex so bad
>>43614911Depressing, as it is for all people.>Babytrans are infuriating since they fetishise older trans women looking after them, keep having babytrans meltdowns, and are probably going to join a polycule and leave for your local queer state anyway because all modern babytrans are either mental breakdown trans or hypersexual ruination trans>Straight cis people are often single parents. You are also now in a demographic where every cishet person is either an outright bigot, trans accepting, or supposedly trans accepting but never ask how they treated LGBT people in highschool>Older women online propaganda means people 18-26 look up to you for maturity and stability since they have none in their life, you are a sexual trophy to them as long as you pamper them and cook for them>By now you are likely stealth (if not, you should be), the moment you reveal you're trans to date anyone, people will know. You'll just hear sly boymoder jokes or 4tran memes, and gradually your social group starts transitioning and acting mentally ill because everyone thought they never had a chance until they met you>Every man you date who insists they aren't trans and goes through the song and dance of being offended you'd suggest such a thing when they reveal their feminine aspects to you, is now a legitimate risk of discovering they/their gender identity and dragging you into babytrans hell a few months or years into the relationship>Cis lesbians are well aware of their privileged position relative to a trans person. Knew a trans woman who was beaten in front of her daughter by a cis lesbian partner. The cis lesbian bit the trans woman's breasts so hard, the implants / her breasts ruptured, and she had to go to hospital. No custodial sentence.>Everytime you're in any kind of social group for 30+, the admins lack a spine and the age barrier begins lowering to let in the first 28 year old "old soul" and then slides down to like 22-24 and now it's just a babytrans zoomie group
>>43614911lollmao
>>43614911Awful. I got out of a relationship 3 months ago and been on one date since.
I'm 32 and I'm so tirednot sure how much longer I can do thisdivorced, gorillahon, poor, mentally illI'm exhausted and just want to sleep forever
>>43614503Pooners lmao