>yea
>Good
>No
>Yes

you not passing affected the outcome? But it went well?

>>43613910
Not yet. They're trans supportive I'm just too ashamed of being a stupid tranny faggot to tell them.

>>43614113
also I don't pass so it would be a humiliation ritual.

>>43613910
they found my hrt
it went horrible and just got worse from there and i ruined my life
i dont pass
i suspect it did affect the outcome but i will never know.

told them

mother said my name reminded her of a scary book, dad is just reatrded and further enforced he failed entirely. i’d argue he succeeded

anyway i moved across the country and now im a little tranny wife to a guy with a phd and i clean his house and bring him food and i get dicked down 1-3 times a day. so who’s laughing now?

funny enough my grandma wasn’t down with it initially but then she came around and was my biggest ally.

>>43613910
Came out to them at 13 or 14 while in hospital. Dad wasn't even paying attention, mom just said "no you're not, honey" and giggled. It hurt so much that I just said OK and went to sleep. Funny part is that I did pass back then, frequently got mistaken for a girl even when I had short hair.

Ended up repping for like 8 years. Came out again a while ago and it was an actual argument. I don't pass for shit now and the laws changed since so it's basically impossible for me to start HRT anytime soon. I want to salvage my relationship with them but I can't stop blaming them for halting/stunting my transition, I know that's retarded selfish of me but every therapist/social worker I go to tells me they're mega-abusive and that I should run far away.

They bought me some "gay stickers" on their last vacation. At least they're trying, right?

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>>43613910
I sent a meme to the family groupchat a few years ago about being nonbinary and then started diy trt like 6 months later

That was in 2022 3.5 years ago and they call me son and brother now. Been fully passing since about 6 months hrt. Only started going by a different name after 2 full years though, bad choice, don't do that

>>43613910
I think I told them I was a tranny when I was really drunk one time and they've seen girl clothes in my laundry sometimes but I act like I'm still completely cis

>>43613910
yes!
bad, but getting better
ya
yeah, its why its getting better

>>43613910
>have you come out to your parents?
yep
>If so, how did it go?
they were completely unsurprised. in fact they were expecting me to tell them my new name. they were suspecting I had been on DiY hrt for at least a year (I wasn't).
turns out everyone "knew"/suspected I was a tranny except me,lol.
>Also do you pass?
Kinda, for the most part. Will do after ffs.
>Did this affect the outcome in your opinion?
Likely, yes. I've always been feminine and, as I found out later, my dad is a reper. So he was just hoping that I'd be the tranny and not my brother lol.
Eventually everyone got what they wanted. My brother isn't a tranny, there are grandchildren (mom is happy) and the cute boy (me) is a tranny that will make it.

>>43613910
yes
rough at first. Got better
no
no

>have you come out to your parents? If so, how did it go?
i first tried to tell my mom when i was a teenager. she didn't understand and told me how i felt was a phase and she encouraged me to try to feel more in touch with my masculinity. i did try, i repped until my 20's and it made me very miserable. all my life, including when i was repping, she bullied me for being effeminate and gay. so it went badly!

when i came out again in my twenties i was living independently and so it was less like asking her and more like telling. that meant it went better as i didn't need her permission for anything and i would encourage any tranny to get as much independence as they can before coming out. the first thing she said to me, this time around, was that i'd look ugly in make up. she had a very negative reaction and at best could tolerate me as a crossdressing man who thought he was a girl. eventually i had to stop speaking to her for a long time

>Also do you pass? Did this affect the outcome in your opinion?
i am now in my 30s and i pass. my dad is really nice and is proud of me for it. my mom has learned to accept that i live as a woman now even if she is still not very nice to me sometimes. you can tell it makes her uncomfortable when we are out together and people call me young lady or whatever. i think it makes her feel ugly. but she calls me her daughter now at least. she never did before i passed.

>>43613910
Told them, it went horrible, ever since I'm not leaving my room until 2am when they are sleeping

>>43613910
i came out about 2 years ago
I kinda went in a swimsuit w my dad the next say and he realised i had tits so his questions like were chill socially to 100 intense questions the next day
didnt pass then, do pass now.
they had issues with gendering then, but time and me looking good has them not worry ab it at all

only issue ive had recently was having them meet a friend of mine who got on a rant ab jk rowling

>>43613910
Yes I came out, they assume it’s because I was molested and have had multiple medical problems with my genitals (intersex), I pass enough though I have no self confidence in it and they will constantly say mean things about it I’ll call them occasionally but I haven’t seen them in years now… I’m kinda numb to everything at this point

>>43613910
>have you come out
yes, when i was sixteen
>how did it go
poorly lol. i got on hrt at eighteen
>do you pass
yes
>did this affect the outcome
it did not affect my coming out at all but it definitely did affect the overall outcome: a trans friend of mine visited once years ago and some time after they left my father and i were talking and he compared me to them and said something i cannot remember now but the essence of which was: "you're legitimate; you look like a woman, people see you as a woman; you're not like [friend]. [they're] just a man. i couldn't stand looking at [them]."
he's much better about this stuff now, but this memory still disgusts me. why would you say something like that to my face? especially about someone you know is my friend?

they still misgender me sometimes i'm pretty sure, though it is exceedingly rare and sort of hard to tell whether it's really happening or i'm just crazy.

>>43613910
first time was when i was an idiot teenager diying
i wrote a 10 paragraph message saying "im on estrogen"
they responded "we know"
after like girlmoding kinda around them i told them "uhh im a transexual i go by x at uni"
my mum responded by like pop quizzing me about random feminism statistics and i just was like "uhh i had a guy touch me up at the club that sucked"
they like know and don't act weird about it now but like if i lose a remote my mum goes "uhh all boys are the same"
you will never pass to your parents
they wiped your male ass and taught you how to piss with your penis. no matter how well you pass you need to accept they will see you not as a male but as the teenage boy they remember

>>43613910
I had to come out to my parents because I can't drive and they have to drive me to my appointments. Also I'm too autistic so they had to make the phone call for my first appointment for me. I pass as a woman with PCOS. Coming out helped, I think.

>>43613910
I was like "I'm taking testosterone now",
And they didnt really understand what that meant or what it leads to.

>>43618679
>"Hey mom, so I have been transitioning and go by x now"

>"You must pass the feminism quiz to be a real woman."