I think a lot of guys won't understand but you'll find one who does eventually sorry

>>44229820
>I don't care as long as he's having fun I don't mind him using my body
>I guess he's just like everyone else I've dated just in it for my body
It's not a him problem. It's a you problem.

>>44229820
he doesn't want to feel like he's raping you

>>44229820
You should’ve told him that from the beginning. 99% of men want someone who enjoys sex. You should break up with him and let him find a girlfriend he can actually be happy with.

>>44229820
hi anon, im like you in that im not interested in sex but i would be willing to let a boyfriend use my body (conscious or not) just to keep him happy and satisfied so he doesn't need to cheat or open the relationship. i don't understand why they wouldn't be happy with the arrangement? why does our enjoyment change their enjoyment at all? they get the sexual need taken care of, we get to stay in a relationship. literally what's the problem?
i don't get it either. sorry for ranting in your thread. i feel you though and i don't get why people say our approach doesn't make sense.

>>44230096
>why does our enjoyment change their enjoyment at all?
normal humans don't have rapist sexuality.
>they get the sexual need taken care of, we get to stay in a relationship. literally what's the problem?
the problem is that most humans are not rapists. your proposal is deranged.

>>44230130
there's full consent though

>>44230163
>go ahead and fuck me baby, I'll just lay here clearly not enjoying it because the alternative is you leaving me

>>44229820
Come on, do you really not understand that most (normal) guys want an enthusiastic partner for sex and it's an important part of building an intimate close relationship. What's hard to understand about that? If you're asexual date someone else asexual so you won't have this issue.
Ace people like to go on about men only wanting sex or wanting you for your body but I think it's probably just really hard to understand how important it is to a relationship if you do have sexual attraction

>>44230185
yes? some people don't enjoy sex. are you saying they should stay lonely forever instead of making things palatable for someone they otherwise match up with well? that's just cruel

>>44230222
>are you saying they should stay lonely forever
yes, actually.
date someone that is just as asexual as you. can't find? tough luck. stop forcing others into a deranged arrangement.

>>44230222
Date someone else who doesn't like sex you insufferable idiot. It's important for the majority of people, why should you expect your way to take precedence over their needs and wants? Jesus

>>44230247
because it's not actually important for other people. sexual needs aren't even real, people just convinced themselves they need sex to live. so as long as you can get a man to orgasm periodically he'll be happy enough to stay with you.
>>44230240
you're evil.

>>44230275
for most people sexual connection and emotional connection have so much overlap that the whole mess gets lumped under Intimacy. It's a real need, which is why libido mismatches can destroy relationships

>>44230275
Yeah well I'm a man and I'm telling you it's important to me, and I know that, and I'd not be content with that arrangement. I'd don't just want a nut I want connection. Good luck with that approach it's not gonna work out unless you find a dude who just wants to cum but odds are he will probably be a selfish dickhead in other areas too, so again, good luck

>>44229820
>>44230096
>>44230163
i agree. the tops in this thread need to convince them selves that the bottoms they fuck are into it to feel validated. its their own insecurity thats why they are so triggered

>>44230275
>you're evil.
I'm not the one asking people to adopt a rapist sexuality. YOU are.
>sexual needs aren't even real
Retarded nonsense. You're sick. Most people are not.
>so as long as you can get a man to orgasm periodically he'll be happy enough to stay with you
Welp, you're just finding out the hard way that this isn't true at all.

>>44230316
nta but this is crackpot nonsense.
i love being fucked by my guy and my enthusiasm fuels his as well and makes the fucking better for both.
stop projecting your inadequacies onto everyone else.

>>44230339
im not projecting, im supporting the anons who got dogpiled by insecure tops. idk why you are attacking me instead of them? i have nothing mean to say to you about what you said besides that you called me crackpot for no reason

>>44230325
the human body literally doesn't need sex to survive. asexual people are as romantically functional as sexuals if not more functional. sexual needs aren't real, touch starvation isn't real and loneliness isn't real. they're all fabrications. clearly this truth upsets you though which means for us asexuals, the game is to understand this silently and "resolve" the "needs" our boyfriends have so they stay with us without them thinking about it too hard.

>>44230388
>the human body literally doesn't need sex to survive
the human body literally doesn't need human connection (aka a relationship) to survive either.
so go ahead and be lonely.
>the game is to understand this silently and "resolve" the "needs" our boyfriends have so they stay with us without them thinking about it too hard
So the game is to shout lies in public like "touch starvation and loneliness aren't real" but silently try to trick others into fulfilling that need for you.
And you dare call me evil?
I hope you die bleeding out after you were raped and dumped in a ditch.

>>44230403
lol why are you getting mad in an asexual thread? you are already on the 99% majority of sexual people so imagine raging at a 1% asexual about loneliness

>>44230403
i think you misunderstood? id be delighted to date another asexual but most men are sexuals who think they need sex. i know he doesn't need sex but he thinks he does. so i play along and let him utilize my body to resolve the "needs" he thinks he has, so he stays happy and stays in the relationship.
there is mutual utility in having a relationship. on the physical side ill cuddle with him sometimes if he wants but i won't trick him into anything for my physical benefit.

why did you turn violent with talk of rape and dying??? what did i do to deserve that

>>44230339
Based anon taking sense

>>44230442
no one said anything about mutual enthusiasm for sex. im just irked by the specific tops coming in here attacking the asexuals. theres nothing wrong with sexual people in general just them.

>>44230457
I mean I don't think it's unfair to argue against OPs assumption that there's something wrong with wanting your partner to enjoy sex with you

>>44230472
if op is hurt and confessing why would arguing help them?

>>44230457
Asexuals who date a very obvious sexual person and complain about them expressing their dissatisfaction deserve to be attacked.

>>44230438
>i know he doesn't need sex but he thinks he does. so i play along and let him utilize my body to resolve the "needs" he thinks he has,
why do you think this? it seems pretty strange to judge your partner's stated needs in a relationship as false. wouldn't you be more fulfilled in a relationship where both of you were on the same page on this?

>>44230484
You prove Sexuals are violent and cruel people.

You're an animal.

>>44230484
i mean sure but op is pretty open about feeling desperate unlovable so idk what good that will do for them

>>44230483
Well for one thing it could help them with avoiding another situation like this in the future

>>44230483
if you're hurt and confessing something that doesn't make you immune to critique. a lot of people who post vent threads on here have extreme victim complexes even when they describe situations where they're clearly in the wrong. i don't think op is an abuser or manipulator but their thought process is self-centered, unkind, and likely to lead to toxic behavior, which is why people are giving them a reality check. it's easy to get caught up in your own feelings and not realize that you may be inadvertently harming other people — in this case, by trying to preserve this relationship, and portraying their bf as "in it for their body" because he wants loving and consensual sex.

>>44230509
avoiding the situation by training them to think sharing their feelings will get them shunned? people vent about their boyfriends leaving them all the time but just because op is asexual you think you need to teach them a lesson as if they dont already know

>>44230530
thats all fine i genuinely agree with that but the thread escalated way beyond that and i cane in and got attacked for "projecting" just for trying to call them out. totally toxic on both sides tbhon

>>44230500
how is it violent and cruel to say that you shouldn't date someone with completely different needs and expectations from a romantic relationship. i don't think people who don't want kids should date people who want or have kids. is that also cruel and violent?

>>44230532
receiving nothing but validation isn't a healthy way to process your feelings in the long run, even if it feels better. it's also not something you can really expect when posting your situation publicly online.

>>44229820
U r not compatible

U view him as an ornament

>>44230547
>you should be attacked for providing for someones sexual needs and expectations instead of refraining from dating because of your asexuality because of my personal distaste for people having sex in whatever way if they're not hooked on it like a drug

>>44230593
u r retarded

Asexuals:
>I love my boyfriend and I'm compromising for him in the only way I can by letting him fulfill his sexual needs using my body, but he isn't happy with that and I'm sad it isn't enough
Sexuals:
>You're broken. You're disgusting. You deserve to be alone forever. I hope you get raped and dropped on the side of the road and bleed out.

And they say asexuals are the problem?

>>44230722
Can't you just date another asexual and then everyone will be happy?

>>44230789
asexuals are like 2% of the population and most of them are afabs
we're trying to compromise for men, we can't just go date women

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I do the same thing except I had a sex drive at one point and I don't know why I completely lost it over time I think there's something wrong with me and now I just lay there and take it and feel nothing :(

>>44230813
Fair enough, it's a tough lot, but unfortunately I think you'll just have to accept that a lot of guys out there probably won't be super into dating someone who isn't into them at all sexually. Sorry

>>44229820
if your able to get a boyfriend in the first place then youre already fucking privledged and have an easy life, stop whining and complaining

I mean are you at least trying to show affection during the sex, right?

>>44230722
>you should be attacked
i didn't say that. i said you shouldn't date people you're incompatible with.

>providing for someones sexual needs and expectations
you're not providing for their needs, if someone's need is consensual and emotionally intimate sex, which is the desire of most people who aren't rapists. "i'll just lie back and pretend it isn't happening" would be hurtful and unpleasant to most people. imagine if your partner had to dissociate through kissing or cuddling you — wouldn't that make you sad?

>instead of refraining from dating
i didn't say you should refrain from dating altogether. you could just be upfront about your asexuality and date people who are 100% okay with that dynamic, instead of dating people who want sex with an actively participating partner.

>because of my personal distaste for people having sex in whatever way if they're not hooked on it like a drug
i don't care about how you have sex in the same way that i don't care whether orher people want to have kids or not. i'm saying you should date people who have the same desires as you, or at least willing to work with your desires, so your relationship is more likely to work out. or you could just not do that and keep getting into unpleasant relationships with people you're not compatible with, idk, i'm not your mom. this really only affects you anyways.

if you keep hitting yourself in the head with a hammer and then complaining of a headache, consider the obvious solution.