Mentor Editionprevious: >>44352234Goal of the thread: Name a personality trait you value in other people, and a way it manifests in their actions. What could you do that would embody the same trait?Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!NOTE: This general is slow moving, so sometimes people reply to you cross-thread! Be on the lookout!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact (perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
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i'm looking for a friend who is striving to make their own life and/or those of others better at any cost.my discord is ambrosiawarmth -- come say hi
>>44488475yay, new /sig/! ^_^ love u guys
>>44488475nobody taught me how to use emacs :(
bump, more tomorrow
>>44472222>worth trying to get helpYeah, but it's all just so many things to take into account and deal with. Gets me overwhelmed.My hope is that things at least start getting a bit better (and maybe lastingly improve) when I get on meds.Insurance is independent of work here.>expand upon not really wanting to involve friendsIn general, I don't like asking for help with things, even in a professional context.Other people have their own problems, their own lives, so I don't want to "force" others to do something for someone like me. Someone who has difficulty replying to simple texts by people that apparently are my friends within a month.Further, the really deep conversations are almost exclusively reserved for the anonymity of this site.As for my family, they don't know anything about what's on my mind. They didn't care when I was just a kid, so any interaction with them just feels hypocritical or like an act.>shAny sh behavior is bad and has some root cause, yeah, but until now, I haven't been able to identify any specific thing that makes me have that behavior. Could be undiagnosed stuff, as I don't have any intention of punishment. It's just a very strong burst of... rage? Desperation? I can't really pinpoint it... and I may lose control for a split second.>foodIt's not just being low energy and not having time, sadly. I live in a shared flat (have been for over ten years, never had my own place) and by now I absolutely loathe running into others when I can't really stand it at the moment.But food is so expensive now too, so there's even less incentive to cook.Perhaps if I lived alone, I would cook more and spend less time just sitting in front of my computer when at home but that's not really affordable right now and I'd have to clean up the absolute mess that is my room and do a bunch of other shit.Over all, trying to fix my life seems like a huge clusterfuck puzzle of circular dependencies and I'm not able to solve it.
>>44488482I joined the server they're not approving my admission
>>44492725>>44488475and the>GOTTLeadership in leaders. Good leaders are very very rare and most (middle) managers suck at leadership.The way it manifests is when a good leader understands and brings out the best in their subordinates, knows how to use them to their full potential and makes them able to overcome the toughest challenges for the good of the group/team/etc., while handing out appropriate punishment or reward.And holy shit does my bussy get wet for good leaders. (ot: MLW could park my ass on a mountain top all day and I'd happily crawl 2 km back to main, wagging my imaginary tail all the while, just to hear a "good boy" for hitting my shots.)Leaders lead by example, but even when I'm absolutely not a leader in any way, I can be a good example to other people in how I treat other people.
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I miss when things were fun.
