So my husband, I've been having this real issue lately. He believes that he can spend the money any way he wants because he earns it because he works for it, and because I stay at home, I can't spend it because the luxuries of being at home with our son, like the power and the water, are my little luxuries that I get. How old is this little boy? He is 25.I have been told that I should just let him deal with the finances because he's a man of our house. Who said that? Who told you that? His mother? No, that was him. He said that because... Oh, he told you that.Okay. I bet he did. I bet he did.Little twerp. You're dealing with a child. That's the problem.And I mean, I try to save money where I can. Honey, honey, that's not the point. Let me back up and tell you the way this should be.The way it should be is when you are married, regardless of where the income comes from, we have an income. We both have a vote on where every one of those dollars goes. My wife has not worked outside the home in about 40 years.She has an incredible income because we have an incredible income, okay? And she gets to decide with me what we will do with our income. Are you hearing these words clearly? None of that's happening here. Just because I earn the income at Ramsey and with the things I do in my life and she doesn't have an earned income personally does not invalidate her power or her right to a vote inside the household.She has the same exact rights as I do. Not only morally and spiritually, but legally she does. And if he thinks he's in control of his income, let me teach him what a divorce attorney will teach him.He's not in control of his income. They're going to take a big old chunk of it and give it to you and the kid to take care of the kid. So he really does not have as much power as he thinks he has in the law, much less morally, and he's relationally bankrupt.
>>532825579You treat your wife this way, you won't have a wife long. Because honey, you may put up with this for a while, but you're going to wake up in a few years and go, I'm done with you.
[Speaker 2]So my husband, I've been having this real issue lately. He believes that he can spend the money any way he wants because he earns it because he works for it, and because I stay at home, I can't spend it because the luxuries of being at home with our son, like the power and the water, are my little luxuries that I get.[Speaker 1]How old is this little boy?[Speaker 2]He is 25. I have been told that I should just let him deal with the finances because he's a man of our house.[Speaker 1]Who said that? Who told you that? His mother?[Speaker 2]No, that was him. He said that because...[Speaker 1]Oh, he told you that. Okay. I bet he did.I bet he did. Little twerp. You're dealing with a child.That's the problem.[Speaker 2]And I mean, I try to save money where I can.
>>532825821[Speaker 1]Honey, honey, that's not the point. Let me back up and tell you the way this should be. The way it should be is when you are married, regardless of where the income comes from, we have an income.We both have a vote on where every one of those dollars goes. My wife has not worked outside the home in about 40 years. She has an incredible income because we have an incredible income, okay?And she gets to decide with me what we will do with our income. Are you hearing these words clearly? None of that's happening here.Just because I earn the income at Ramsey and with the things I do in my life and she doesn't have an earned income personally does not invalidate her power or her right to a vote inside the household. She has the same exact rights as I do. Not only morally and spiritually, but legally she does.And if he thinks he's in control of his income, let me teach him what a divorce attorney will teach him. He's not in control of his income. They're going to take a big old chunk of it and give it to you and the kid to take care of the kid.So he really does not have as much power as he thinks he has in the law, much less morally, and he's relationally bankrupt. You treat your wife this way, you won't have a wife long. Because honey, you may put up with this for a while, but you're going to wake up in a few years and go, I'm done with you.
