How do you get over your boomer parents being fuckups? Mine got divorced when I was in my teens, my mom didn't work again and basically spent down 500k worth of assets, she now has a 1.5 million inheritance in property and will do the same thing if given the option(I'm trying to pressure her not to but it's like talking to a child who's out of reality). I'm probably going to have to pay off her credit cards again as she already had to do a transfer of high interest debt onto her house and I dont want it repeating. My father got remarried and had another kid, makes a lot of money from real-estate but it will probably go to his new wife and kid.I didn't really understand it at the time but both were pretty terrible and continue to be pretty terrible. I ended up with graduate degrees and make a decent amount of money on my own but shit was way more unstable and dysfunctional than it ever needed to be for completely nonsensical reasons. I can't help but think this experience describes the US as a whole and the boomer dynamic.
Here's what helped me. It took me years to come to this realisation on my own parents who hit every boomer cliché.It's their fault when you're just a child, they are responsible for you and you were dependent on them during that time. But as soon as you go from boy to young man, it starts to be a lot less their fault. And as you get older still, like into 20s and beyond, if you are still trying to blame them for your situation it's not their fault, it's yours.Does it suck that you got a really bad start in life? Yes. Does it suck even more when you see parents like squander the wealth they inherited from their grandparents and continue this "life for today" mindset without a care for their own children and grandchildren? Absolutely.But you have to focus on what's in your control. Your parents could just decide to sell the house to get a lifetime cruise deal and give the rest to the local church that's helping to set up brown people. You can't do a thing about it, it's useless to worry about it or let it occupy a large space in your head.If you're having worries about wealth/financial security, the best thing to do is not to simply wish you had more money but try to imagine the kind of person you need to become that earns more, and take actions that help you become that person. Accept that this process will take years and it won't be easy (otherwise every retard will have done it).Last thing, and this is what motivates me. I have sworn not to repeat the same mistakes as my parents. Spend as much time as you can with your children, nieces, nephews, etc. Give a shit and take an interest. Have something to pass down to the next generation. It can be a roof over their head or just things that actually matter (not old trinkets but something valuable).Boomers have some bizarre habits, like butchering old trees for no reason. Now that I have my own garden I tend to it properly, with the intent others will get to enjoy it after I'm dead, that gives satisfaction.
>>533817043I work in engineering and make a decent amount(top 10% of individual earners at least) but I have zero confidence in any type of longterm stability in the job market. Economy has been in slow motion collapse for years, asset holders are who will survive long term.
>>533817515>asset holders are who will survive long termI hate that this has always been the case historically as well. Nobility was just the ppl who owned enough land. The landlords of tomorrow will be a sort of nobility too if they arent already
>>533817515Sounds like your investor + homesteading arc is about to begin.
>>533816368Boomers brainwashed you into staying a kid/teen thru their media. It’s their money, if you want it, steal it. Or make your own money instead of relying on them.
>>533816368>watch fifth element 2 days ago>see a thread here with a fifth element thumbnailThis sort of thing keeps happening to meI watched bone temple and i saw a thread with a bone temple thumbnail the next day. Thats only one example. Is this a coincidence? Its making me schizo out
This doesnt happen when I watch things for free using a VPN on Russian sites, only when I use my parents Netflix account or similar while at home
>>533817515The idea of being a salaryman for a company somehow being "more stable" is another lie that boomers believed. I believed it too for years early on when I started working. It's believable in an era where people worked the same company for like 40 years. It's impossible to do that now. Even when you're content in a job, you still have to move to get raises just to keep up with inflation. And those "we're like a family" speeches mean nothing when they just casually lay you off because a computer said so.But also assets aren't the be all and end all. Farmers here, despite the subsidies, still get fucked on taxes (taxes on their business, on their fuel and so on) and hit with rising costs and being squeezed by bigger players, so while they are "asset rich" (they inherited land), they are cash poor.Now what you're saying (about being in the 10%) earner, it means you can already start to buy your way to being both asset rich and cash rich. It just takes time, and even longer if you had to start from zero, but still doable. I had to start from zero and made a lot of dumb decisions, like effectively bailing out my parents when they got themselves into dumb situations. And I'm not talking about a few grand here, but six figures, so they can get healthcare and stay in their own home. Now it was their own decision to decide to not to work and continue an expensive lifestyle and when I told them I can't keep doing this, they went and got a reverse mortgage on their home (so now some company owns some %), they also just decided they're not going to pay property tax. Which, the state won't care about until the property is finally sold when both die, and so the state will be getting their cut before anyone else + interest. And it's at that point I just said fuck this, I'm done. I need to just focus on myself, and I bought a house and moved away and I only see them at special occasions (like Christmas).
>>533816368By understanding that they’re human and just like you, they also got saddled with a lot of baggage before they even started to become self aware. It’s fine to be angry at this, but you need to break the cycle anon.
>>533816368You put them both in a home the first chance you get. Fuck boomers to death, they all deserve it.
