>very lonely person>romantically and intimately starved>on the spectrum>there's a woman at the office with an incredible ass>I mean REMARKABLE>out of a doujinshi, doesn't look real>she's kinda quirky, has developed a bit of a reddit personality>my brain, starved for affection immediately develops limerence for her>barely interact with her, still obsessed>notice it's becoming a problem, notice the obsession, recognize the limerence>I've dealt with limerence multiple times and will likely deal with it again>take action by separating myself from her, intentionally planting negative thoughts about her, and recognizing her as a limerent object as much as possible>it takes time, but it works>last week she asks me for a favor that I can easily take care of on my own>before I even answer she's speed walking to me to join me>alright>I'm awkward and quiet, just try to move on and get it done with>this causes me to a take a step back in my limerence rejection, but I manage to recover>today she asks me for the same favor>I see the notification, get up without reading the message>do a big stretch, open the message, type out a response>she's at my desk before I can even send it>I get what I need to do the favor, she's gone>alright, I'll go knock it out, I can't get caught waiting>as I'm passing through a door I hear her jogging>she squeezes in the door right behind me "sorry, sorry I fell behind">I get her what she asked for>she won't take it>clearly acting to get to me to walk her back to her desk>alright I'll play along I guess>she doesn't even stop before we get into her department's office>I have to say "here you go" and get her to take the stuff>can't stop thinking about herDON'T DO THIS TO ME DON'T DO THIS TO ME DON'T DO THIS TO ME
>>82474283why not take a chance you stupid faggot
>>82474328Pursuing someone in the workplace feels very irresponsible.
>>82474283Just remember, she already has a bf, and she's just being friendly, and you will annihilate your social standing by misinterpreting friendlyness from your coworkers as flirtation
>>82474328>why not take a chance you stupid faggot*Gets reported for sexual harassment and fired*Great plan cuntbag
>>82474356Thank you for helping me stay on the straight and narrow.
>>82474283Stop being a little bitch, got lift some weights, it'll clear up the retarded brain fog you're exepring and fix your shitty limerace. Don't take the actions and words of foids at face value, they have agendas within agendas.
>>82474283I need a little bit of information about the office. What's the demographics like there? Mostly old people? Mostly women? Are you two of a similar aesthetic or culture alignment? She may just see you as one of the few options she has for a friend. Women aren't good at building friendships. Where men will find common ground and bond very quickly, women need a lot of time to build friendships. She's most likely just trying to force you to interact with her so you become more friendly in the future. Unless she's actively making attempts at flirting, this is pretty standard platonic behavior.
>>82474361How is inquiring about her relationships status harassment? Life is not pol's parody.
>>82474439Holy shit, I've been fired for innocently saying that a girl was cute, in casual conversation, completely said as a surface level compliment with no sexual intent whatsoever.You're a braindead cunt with no sense of the real world. Shut up.
>>82474351do you two work in the same team or is she a direct superior of yours?if not, take the plunge, it's not unheard of for people who do different kinds of work in a company to date or even marry
>>82474367I'm actually autistic. Limerence is unavoidable.>>82474409I see what you mean. She's pretty isolated, and while I think she likes some of the people in her department I doubt she relates to them.
do you want anything from her that isn't sex?if you just want sex, you should leave it alone.if you actually want to be friends and know her, might as well start talking more.
>>82474451for some reason I doubt that was the reason you got fired
>>82474623Due to my effort to avoid limerence as much as possible, all I want from her is sex. I have very little interaction with her outside of when she forces it through requesting favor of me (which are relevant to my job don't get it twisted) so all I really know about her is how incredible her ass is. I'm sure if I did actually know her as a person my perspective would be different. I just genuinely do not know her past her ass. I'm not typically like this, but my perspective of her has been warped by trying to avoid her as much as possible.
>>82474283What if she's boring as hell? Sounds like you literally do not know her personality or anything. Your limerence is all from looks. Looking sexy doesnt mean shes interesting by default. Dont trap yourself with delusions
>>82474283>be khhv autist>have a crush on a girl at my office>she looks at meDON'T DO THIS TO ME There you go zoomie, made your post legible
>>82474630It literally was the exact reason I got fired. You're fucking retarded. Wouldn't be the first time either. Cunts like you always try to get me fired. Every job I've had some STUPID CUNT fixates on me and tries to get me fired. Don't believe me? Don't care. Kill yourself whore.
>>82474658I literally know nothing about her, but that's my point. That's how limerence works. I'm sure she's lovely, it's not her fault that I know nothing about her. I recognized early on that my brain was fixating on her and took action to limit my exposure for the better. I've experienced limerence many times, I know how ugly it gets. I'd rather avoid it in a situation where my job is at risk.
>>82474649That's really dumb. You've wound up making her a sex object in your mind because you ignored it reduced everything that makes her a person.I don't think this is a result of limerence, this is a constructed problem.
>>82474709I think you got fired for being unhinged. Anyone else would have been fine calling that girl cute, it was just the last straw for you.
>>82474351It is, I did it once and got fired for sexual harassment lmfao. I wasn't even crass or anything and just asked if she wanted to get a drink with me outside of work, she reported it and I was fired. Not fun!!!
>>82474776If you've experienced autistic limerence then you would understand why me forcing her to become nothing more than a sex object for my brain is preferrable to entertaining the romantic desires of limerence. Limerence is obsessive and uncontrollable. It's easy for me to sneak and peak and move on. It's not easy for me to compartmentalize romantic obsession. My actions would be far worse if I allowed the limerence to materialize.
>>82474283be so wage cucked you cant even ask a coworker out on a date who could end up being the love of ur life
>>82474283You need to internalize one thing autistic losers fail to internalize. If a woman is actually interested she will let you know. Even if you are an autist she will let you know. Everything you described is one sided and you hoping for something to be there. There is nothing there, at best she sees you as a friendly beta orbiter candidate.
>>82474921I know, that's why I try to limit my exposure to her. I am self aware enough to know when I'm experiencing limerence.
>>82474945You kinda are but you are secretly hoping there is something there. I know cause i was like that back before i got old and mellowed out. Just avoid her and next time she asks for stuff tell her you are a bit busy with other stuff. This is the polite way to get her off your back.
>>82475014>You kinda are but you are secretly hoping there is something there.That's literally what limerence is. I KNOW that there's nothing there. Limerence causes me to uncontrollably imagine the possibility of connection. I genuinely cannot help it. I don't think you're grasping this. I am disabled. I am literally disabled. I cannot help but feel that way, no matter how hard I try to stop.
>>82474848I'm sure but it isn't a dichotomy. It isn't just sexual obsession or limerence. You can learn and grow.
>>82474848I get what you mean.. romantic limerence is far more dangerous in making you obsessed.
>>82475024Just tell her you are busy for once. You are just becoming a simp who does her shit for her. She will show interest if she truly wanted you but if you shake her off and she never asks again you know why
>>82475072I can, but I also have a lot of work to do in my actual job and would rather take the easy way out of something that is generally irrelevant to my life.>>82475124Oh boy. It gets bad. I've done some very embarrassing things because of it.>>82475146Unfortunately my job requires me to say yes. While she's going out of her way to ask me over other people in my department, so I could technically pull a "can you put in a ticket," doing so over a task that takes less than five minutes would be psychotic. I am a bit of people pleaser, though.
>>82474283office lady pencil skirt butt and thighs erotic
you fucking crab bucket niggers. OP you can't do anything that'll rub HR the wrong way but you can say stuff with plausible deniability to gauge her response (this is called flirting). after that you still need to hold off until it reaches a breaking point. If she doesn't escalate then it's a lost cause.
>>82474283Holy shit this is the most relatable thread in forever. I know exactly how you feel OP I also have autistic limerance and the same debilitating issues. I also had to deal with women being friendly and accidentally misinterpreting it and it literally ruined work for me for years. You're 100% correct in avoiding it, I don't know if you had it as bad as I did but if I could go back in time I could have saved myself so much emotional trauma. Oh and I was also obsessed with her ass too kek
>>82474283i wish my office had youngs qts where tf do you robots work
>>82474351Actual reddit psyop
>>82474451>I've been fired for innocently saying that a girl was cuteYou're obviously ugly
>>82474283I can kinda relate, but my god are you overusing the word limerence in this thread. Like, at least alternate with other words or phrases to get across the whole obsessive desire phase you go through. Anyway, I sorta went through a similar hurdle myself, although it started in middle school and ended in high school. Find a girl, like the way she was with me in conversation (which wasn't easy considering I wasn't at my social butterfly phase yet) and then eventually fall head over heels for them. The difference for me though is I was aware of these feelings and of the jealousy I would harbor upon seeing someone I'm interested in give attention to others. Analyzing everything they do and who they do it with. Intensely studying the times they would be in and out of class, who they hanged with during, etc. all disguised as harmless questions out of nowhere. I would feel that nervous, but hot feeling in my chest whenever I was around them. Almost like some sorta obsessive high just by basking in their presence. Welp, life has an interesting way of convincing you you're wrong. Or maybe I just developed enough jealousy and scorn to realize it was pointless. Some of them silently rejected me. Others got into relationships with mutuals of ours, essentially making me feel semi-cucked. After a while of experiencing these moments, I interpreted the reason as me being unattractive and lacking in social awareness. When the sun went down enough to make the sky and lighting a moody blue, I would put on my headphones and blast Deftones albums alongside other artists that captured my feelings. I embraced the idea that it was a pipe dream and burned out all affection I had for whatever girl. Eventually, after an especially tragic event, I found myself entirely convinced of this truth and it changed the trajectory of my life forever.
>>82476769Now here is where I suppose a funny curve ball was thrown. After high school, I was able to mingle with adults a little bit more aware of how the world works. I am guessing that being out of the high school phase really does force people to adapt and be more open minded, at least for the most part. Any who, after finally biting the bullet and believing in my current circumstances being a firm staple in my life, my approach towards everyone in general shifted. I didn't treat women any differently then I treated men. I just recognized everyone the same and allowed myself to be compassionate to a degree in those I encountered. Being a good listener growing up was pretty helpful and my diehard desire to rationalize everything that happened made me fit to paint the bigger picture for those who came to me for advice. In other words, I was a fairly decent person to keep as company and I think I was also considered a good friend. Welp, while I was going about my life, I was mildly accepting of the idea of not being designed to have a partner. Mildly as in the pain of it was terrible and aching, especially when watching anime or reading manga that had romance in the forefront. But I also kinda became addicted to that pain. I felt terrible and like a total underdog, but that sensation of feeling terrible was good. Maybe it was some sorta elaborate self-pity that became motivation. Or perhaps a cope that replaced the lacking passion and happiness in my life. Some sorta form of dopamine to envision scenarios where I wasn't the hero of any story. I was the scrapped background character that didn't even make it in the concept art book released years after a heroes story was released. Since these feelings didn't affect how I treated people and I was just genuinely trying to be nice, I didn't notice that some of the company around me thought better of me in ways I couldn't have expected. Girls around me thought I looked cute. Crazy, right?
>>82476876I even got hit on in drive thru's (They would leave their snapchat or phone numbers on torn receipt paper). I still didn't really grasp it and figured ignorance, even if pretend, was better than risking an encounter with disappointment. Although, after enough exposure to people interested in me, I finally caved and went through a path of needless romantic pursuits. Well, I'm thankfully single now and can say for certain that I'm the best I've ever been. I still treat everyone equally, but I don't have any strong desire to date anyone. I sometimes wish I could experience that addiction of being an underdog, of being a side character in my own life, but those feelings aren't reality. I more mellow and it's far harder to experience any form of strong emotions. What I wouldn't give to feel my heart beat out of envy or bitterness. The feeling of being backed into a corner, no, of not even being allowed in the same room as everyone else. Those raw feelings of being an outcast resting on my shoulders, being able to feel like I'm the Atlas of my own world. Feeling the weight of that bitterness rest on me, but the pride of knowing I can be better as a person, that those negative emotions won't bend me. GODIn hindsight, I was just a practitioner of emotional edging to the highest degree. God, I wish I was able to hit that high. If only...
Oh, you poor bastard. Being taunted by the existence of a hot foid that one can never fuck is absolutely hellish.It's almost impossible not to have a crush on them, despite how illogical it is and the non-existence chance of plowing it.Even if a miracle happens and you get her, it's shitting where you eat and dooming your future at the job. It's torture.
