the other night i got out of my second job at dusk. i had to stand between two large parked cars while waiting for an opening to cross the street. then i heard from behind me, "excuse me... excuse me?" i turned around to see a man telling me, "i just wanted to tell you that you're cute and beautiful." unsure of what he might do, i thanked him. before i could turn around again, he asked, "i was wondering if you would go out with me sometime?" i lied and said, "no, i have a boyfriend." and thankfully, he just said, "ok, have a nice day." and walked away.i'm just wondering what he expected. why did he think that approaching a woman he had to have seen for a maximum of 10 seconds before approaching her would make her feel anything except fear? yes, he was polite and kept a small distance, but i was standing between a truck and an suv, with my only escape from him being stepping into traffic. all i can think is that he can't understand why he's rejected when approaching total strangers because he's being "nice." and he might have had innocent intentions, but i have no way of knowing that. it's just been bothering me for the past few days. i know every woman had a story like this, but i just don't understand why men don't understand that they're being creepy.
>>82506907>creepy>>82506907>approaching
>>82506907>reeks of tel aviv AI postdead internet theory
>>82506907>yes, he was polite and kept a small distance>it's just been bothering me for the past few days.and you stupid bitches wonder why people dont ask each other out anymore
>>82506907Assuming this isn't a larp, your feelings aren't his responsibility. Why should he care that you're a coward? Not his problem. Besides, caring about the feelings of women as a man is just a great way of being a virgin for the rest of your life. Since a man must approach, he is going to make some women uncomfortable. If women wanted that to change they could do it tomorrow but they don't so they won't.>i just don't understand why men don't understand that they're being creepy.Because, again, he hasn't done anything inherently wrong. If a guy you thought was the hottest you've ever seen did the same then you wouldn't think it's creepy. Therefore, there isn't anything inherently wrong with what he did.In any case, how is he supposed to know what you think if he doesn't ask? We know that women decide whether they are open to sleeping with you the moment they see you, after all, so it is not impossible that approaching a woman you have just seen will result in sex. Do you understand that most men will be virgins their entire lives if they don't approach women?
>>82506907They are just clueless bluepillers, you need to present them to the blackpill, they are just miming Chad thinking it will work out the same way for them due not having proper blackpill knowledge anon
negative attention is better than no attention
Non-defective people can determine if someone is attractive in under ten seconds. It's not a cognitively difficult task for us. You probably shouldn't be outside near traffic if you have personal problems this bad.
>>82506907stop telling men to stop giving foids the ick. start telling foids to stop getting the ick.
I don't care, I'll rape you.
a man being creepy is literally just a foid being made aware that a sub5 exists without a professional ( education/business ) context being involved.
Least obvious bait threadKys
Op ignore the above stupid replies (and future below stupid ones) you're not gonna convince freakass incels they're actually the problem. They're too stubborn and incapable of realizing that. Carry pepper spray just in case shit hits the fan, stay safe
>>82507313>Guy is polite to a woman and leaves without issue.>He's the problem.woman moment
>>82507319Never heard of a woman named "matt" but whatever? And im saying IN CASE shit hits the fan. I have the survival instincts of an apple and even I know not to trust any random ass stranger you meet in the dead of night. Basic stuff you're taught when you're little
>>82507345The only problem here was the OP freaking out for no reason.
>>82506907>non Chad aproached me!>creep!Read any women's smut fiction, scenes when woman sees Chad of the book first time. Every scenario goes, there is no bad place and tume, and Chad's look sweep woman off her feet at the first glance she knows>this is it
>>82507811Fiction isn't the same as reality, learn the difference
>>82507826>let's write fiction about things woman don't want and sell it to them109% proof business plan. Would invest.
>>82506907How is him being upfront creepy?
>>82507313>>82507345holy fucking tripfag
Do I really have to be the first anon to ask what the man's race/ethnicity was?
>>82506920>>82506984>>82506912Youre not supposed to talk or look at women if youre ugly, let alone approach them. Theyve been quite clear about that, they view non 1% men as sentient furtniture or dosgusting orcs and pnly wish for us to work to death or die in wars far from their sight>inb4 muh its only le internet women maymayNot really, my female colleagues say the same thing.Also approaching is street harassment
>>82506907looking forward to your next "why aren't men approaching women anymore" thread
>>82506907>he just said, "ok, have a nice day." and walked away.what colour was he
The proper way to do this is:1) during normal daylight2) surrounded by other people3) in a setting in which the other person is not cornered or placed in a dangerous or undesirable situation if they immediately walk away4) immediately state your intent clearly without masking: "I noticed how attractive you are and couldn't help myself asking if you'd mind me saying that?" followed up by "Would you mind if I gave you my number? I'd like to take you out for a short coffee date or similar if you're interested. I didn't want to suggest something on the spot."5) without giving a Hobson's choice where the only option is to accept or take an otherwise undesirable alternative.
Usually if you attempt to "trap" or "catch" someone like prey or force them to do something they normally wouldn't, they won't like it.
You always want to offer as many escape routes for them as possible to gently dismiss or decline without any tension. This demonstrates you're a considerate person and not a sociopath.
The natural defensive reaction for all human beings and animals is if you feel "forced" into a situation or making a particular choice, you will immediately and strongly reject it and attempt to escape. Your assumption will be a negative motivation by the person forcing you into the situation. Excessively negative, unrealistically so.
>This person is trying to force me. They want to hurt me and don't want me to know what they're planning.
If they say "no I wouldn't mind" about the number, tell them your name and give them your number. They might give your their own in response or they may not if they're uneasy about the prospects. You've successfully introduced yourself, being upfront and confident about your intent and desire to get a chance to speak with them on a date. You've also provided an "out" where they can simply not give you their name or number, refuse your number, or accept your number then never contact you to discuss a future date.They might even say "no I wouldn't even mind if you made a suggestion now, I'm free at the moment!"READ THE ROOM.
If you approach someone like in a restaurant, make sure it's as you're leaving and make it as brief as possible. For example:> "I noticed you earlier and I wanted to try ask you out. If you're not interested no worries I was just on my way out."Asking wait staff is pretty clumsy because although this happens a TON and is probably uncomfortable for them. Consider the fact you might be a returning customer and the awkwardness of that. In some cases they may even have "don't date customers." Then they might tell you "I'm a bit busy now but my shift ends at 7" or similar. Sometimes they'll hit on customers too although rarely.
>>82506918it makes me sad how nothing on the internet is real anymore
Key is try to use the most gentle approach possible and really READ THE ROOM. "Are you hitting on me?" with her reply "Maybe!" followed by "Maybe, or maybe not?" with her reply "A bit." leads right into your opportunity."Oh you were then? Seriously?">"Yeah, just a bit though. You're a cute guy.""What if I just hit on you, would we keep going back and forth or did you have something in mind?">"I'm not sure, I'd probably like to not just play ping-pong all day.""Could I offer you my number then? I'd like to ask you out."... writing brain-dead obvious shit here.
>>82509277You're not real either, faker.
>>82506907Females often get raped or murdered by guys they know in other words guys they choose to be with but females are so brainrotten that they blame the guys who never even got a chance.
>>82506907just out of interest, if I see a complete stranger and she is so beautiful I am convinced it is love at first sight thing and I have to give it a shot, what do I do, strike up a conversation and try to befriend her first? but then won't you say "you just wanted to be friends to get into her pants"?or do you think men just shouldn't do that anymore
>>82506907>social awkwardness>low IQ>don't attribute to malice what can be best explained by incompetence
>>82506907>Muh muh why does <gender> this <gender> that, some person was BAD. Can you believe it, some people do bad things? I never saw this coming, but but... this <gender> so <gender> <gender> muh <gender>I don't know why do some people like you exist?
>>82506907Imagine being so fucking weakminded that you dont even want to appear creepy.Being creepy is not a crime, being creepy just means she is not interested, in this case you move on to the next.Creepy or not that man shot his shot and he would have forgotten you 3 hours later.
You realize thats what everyone that had a partner did as recently as 30 years ago, right? How is that creepy? No wonder you dont have a boyfriend. Stop believing all men are rapists or creeps. He wasn't a creep. He approached you respectfully and disengaged upon request. What more could you have wanted? Did you pass because he wasn't hot or something?
>>82507345>>82507313we had a tripfag just like you 10 years ago called doj or some shithe was equally pathetic and lame as you are
>>82506907Im glad you can read minds well enough to make those judgements
