hi fembot here, do your parents try to help you find bf/gfs? my mother wanted to set up an account to catfish as me to help me find a boyfriend, has this ever happen to any of you? told her she should just talk with her friends instead and just see if any of them knew if anyone was around my age and would be interested in talking, any experience moids? does ur mom try to help you?
>>82568878How old are you? No that's super weird maybe she thinks you're retarded. It's good for her to see what sort of responses you'd get though. If someone offered to do that for me I'd say sure, great good luck pal.
My mom knows that I don't ever want to have a girlfriend (or any friends) and she doesn't really care.
>>82568878Nah, I would be a bis embarassed if she did, as a guy.
>>82568878No. Mother thought her sons should spend their entire lives being sexually obsessed with her
my mom tried to set me up with one of her friend's daughters but the friend stopped her and said 'come on would you have dated anon? Don't put that on *daughter's name*' Yeah I heard. They both kinda chuckled and that was that.
nope parent's left that up to me and my bro to figure out since they didn't know anyone to introduce us to
>>82568878>do your parents try to help you find bf/gfs?i think mom mentioned something like this many years ago but i was still very bitter and hateful so i almost told her to fuck offshe never did afterward, but at this point, i wouldn't mind the companywe most likely wouldn't work out because she doesn't know many people with my tastes so...>et up an account to catfish as methat's wild, she sounds desperate>just see if any of them knew if anyone was around my age and would be interested in talkingmuch better move right therebest of luck in your search, anonhave a great night
>>82568878i remember i was talking to an indian guy whos parents offered him an arranged marriage and had a folder of girls from him to choose fromnot a moid so idk if my own answer is welcome but my grandma from another state wanted to set me up with her neighbours autistic son who was some garage metal drummer and my non-blood related aunt tried to push me to go to clubs to meet a "husband", dumb fucking onlyfans whore
YEAAAH well there's a looker, how're you darlin'? Don't tell yer ma but sometimes I just like to get you sideway, you know? Like really give ye the pump until you're beggin for it to stop. Then I'd lay you back and be salivatin' to taste every part of you down there like a kid lost in a candy factory. I'd give you the old :P~~~~ then you know like one of these ones here *disgusting drool laden slurping and tonging sounds* *SLURP INHALING SPIT* yeah I'd show you a real good time pet. Let me know if yer interested.
no, and everyone in my family was shocked when i got my Practice Adult Relationshit in grade 12, because they didn't know it was an assignment paid for by the school
>>82568878my parents already accepted i'm not giving them grandchildren
>>82568878No one has ever tried to set me up with anyone, my sister once told me to go talk to a girl on her cheerleading squad but never actually introduced us so it seemed really awkward to do so. She also had a friend that would tease the ever loving shit out of me and I always wondered if she liked me or just liked playing with me, if my sister told me she was into me I might have worked up the courage to try something.Also my mom would tell me waitresses were checking me out. 95% of the time it was probably her trying to boost my self esteem. There has only been 2 times that it might have been true.
Moid here: I grew up rich and they said "women will only want you for your money", so no they didn't.Joke's on them now I have no money or women hah
>>82568878My family forced me to marry my cousin.fuck
>>82568975I'm so fucking jealous. Im way too old to be here and still in love with my cousin. Like third cousin. Dreamt about her again last night....
My mother tries to set me up with single mothers because I am 'stable'. I am not going to reward single mothers for working my ass off to own a house and be debt free. Even my mortgage is paid off now.
>>82568989GEORGIA HILLSSWEET VALLEY IN THE MOUNTAINTIME ALONE WITH COUSINSWOO BOYKEEP'N IT IN THE FAMILY
They don't because they barely have friends either lol.They probably would if they knew of someone
>>82568887>How old?20s>super weird maybe she thinks you're retardedshe knows im super lonely and depressed>If someone offeredfelt like a waste of time so didnt want her to bother>>82568902>sexual mothersorry, you had a very sexually controlling mother anon, sounds like it gave you some weird fetishes, hopfully she didnt just blueballed you atleast>>82568911>come on would you have dated anon?owch im sorry anon, proud that ur still here after that>>82568923>bitter and hateful so i almost told her to fuck offat her? or just in general? if shes been a good mom u should go apologize to her anon>best of luck in your search, anonthanks u 2
>>82569007Upper Midwest. Sorry . And she groomed me
>>82569057>hopfully she didnt just blueballed you atleastShe did. Only way out is suicide. Or alcohol
>>82568878LOWER YOUR STANDARDS AND DATE ME. Stop rejecting incels. Settle for less.
>>82568878I met a lady that wanted to introduce her daughter to me. I felt too weird to do it. I could try asking her if her daughter is still single?I've worked with a lady that said she would introduce me to her daughter, but she lived in another country.My mother said she wont do anything about me being single, and i doubt my father would.Guys i've worked with have talked to their friends and asked women if they are looking for a bf (me).Normie women are too much for me, i need a failed normie gf.
>>82568878No wtf. My mother barely cares if I'm alive or not and she hasn't had a boyfriend in almost 15 years.
>>82568878ya my mom keeps trying to set me up with guys mostly the sons of her friends so that would just be awkward but also there all Filipino and there just not my type so it's really not helpful because it will never actually work out but sometimes she even sets up actual dates so then I feel pressured to go and I have to be nice and act interested even though I know I'm going to ghost him but it would just be awkward if I said I was only there because my mom forced me like I'm a kid
>>82569231Are you Filipina yourself? Hell i'd be happy if my mom set me up with any date, I just need the experience.
Filipines it's like 21 and you're done. They know you're a burnt out slag by 25 with no hope even 40+ guys don't want you then. Just accept it's over.
>>82569295ya I am and dates aren't actually fun or anything if you aren't going to have a relationship>>82569461that's literally not true I don't know why your being so mean you literally don't even know me
Also masarap your way to the lead in a beauty contest in a sequin coated dress and bust a delicious rhyme or two on the microphone MC femcel in the house yo yo yo wassagotta go cebu later
>>82569480>you literally don't even know meWhere you from? Luzon south like what Pasay or airport by the river or something? You make yourself sound poor like one of those tin roof gals. Are you all Cavite and need a dentist?
>>82569480Oh I know they won't be fun but I have really bad anxiety so I need to experience it to get over that so I don't fuck up too bad if/when I date for real.
Dates can be fun if you're with a good person doing something fun regardless. It doesn't even really matter if they're there. Hit up greenbelt and buy a sandwich platter or something.
>>82568878I don't leave the house and don't live with my mother but after an impromptu voice chat and like VCing with almost no one on discord for multiple years I realize that I have full blown social anxiety with active pain from the anxiety in my chest and my remote job has been enabling this social anxiety.I think a date in person would be like jumping into cold deep water.Probably my only salvation is somehow finding people to voice chat with that are comfy.
>>82569482???>>82569496I'm from fucking canada>>82569505oh I see well I hope you can get more confident maybe you can use tinder or some dating app to just talk to girls and that will help I know there hard for guys to get dates on but even if you just talk to them then maybe that will help
>>82568878This is some kind of oyakodon fetish post, right?
>>82569544Getting to know people online is fine but it's the same situation: 4chan, social media, dating sites means horrible fucking losers and washed up scummy deadbeats only interested in you for sexThe key is to find something you have in common or can do with people. Games with clans/guilds, or multi-player groups. Activities like art, music or even photoshops. Join up and get to know people in those activities and you'll have enough fun it doesn't matter if you go on any dates.
>>82569551>I'm from fucking canadaUh, well listen buddy I'm from Canada too and let me tell you, there ain't no such thing as filipines in Canada. Do you have any idea how hard it is for me to get fresh dilandan or kalimansi? In manila like EVERY SHOP has these for cheap because they grow all over the place but here it's a luxury.
Best we have here in Canada is like filled with pines or something.
>>82569562No it's sinigang gang now.
>>82569551Tried dating sites years ago and it destroyed my self esteem so I never went back. It's too late for me now anyways. I won't turn down anything that comes my way but I gave up trying to find love a long time ago.
>>82569626It's never too late just live and learn. You need to adapt, try different stuff until you get lucky and one works. Sometimes you can even keep trying the same stuff that didn't work before and boom you get lucky and it works this time. Never too late for anything until your final breath.
>>82569611I know your talking to me so why do you never reply to me and your posts make no sense>>82569589ya like every asian grocery store only has stuff from China or Japan or Korea or India>>82569626sorry to hear about that I hope you find someone
>>82569551>>>82569482 (You)>???uhh you know, masarap music, tight beats followed by the drop where you bust a delicious rhyme???
>>82569691>I know your talking to me so why do you never reply to me and your posts make no senseI guess you're not getting the jokes do you not know Tagalog enough?>masarap = delicious, masa sounds sort of like "master" and "rap" like rapmaster masarap>cebu = island and city in central/southern philippines, sounds like "suh boo" but makes sense if you read it as "see-b-you".They're English-Tagalog-Filippine dad joke puns.
Now come tag a log with me, don't get lost follow me to have some fun I'll show you how we staple labels on the logs and stuff.>basically, just reduce your IQ points by 100 and it starts making sense
>>82569691>ya like every asian grocery store only has stuff from China or Japan or Korea or Indiafilipines people are pretty rare and luxuries themselves sometimes around here
>>82568878Your mom is just a little weird but it's pretty normal for moms to invest in stuff like thatI think my mom has finally given up after I consistently expressed frustration with her asking me about my love life and after I told her I have no desire to get married
>>82569747My guess is maybe she wants grand kids.
>>82569747>>82569765she already has one from my brother, i just kinda told her how i wanted to kms at some point because "le loneliness" so now she is worried about me and wants to help out
>>82569722ya I got the Tagalog I just didn't know why you put the random words in there>>82569732>>basically, just reduce your IQ points by 100 and it starts making sensethanks because your basically saying I have more then 100 IQ points>>82569739ya I guess
>>82569788>i wanted to kms at some point because "le loneliness"IF YOU ARE SO FUCKING LONELY THEN DATE ME. FUCK YOUR STANDARDS
>>82569788Ah. It is natural to have cravings for intimacy, sort of a human thing but it's really just a mammal thing. Rainy season it gets cold so we have the instinct to huddle up and stay warm. When nobody is around at those times it creates that "something is wrong" sense of dread.
>>82569803>thanks because your basically saying I have more then 100 IQ pointsWOOOOOWIEEE are you a genius? I think ... I ... EAUGH it hurts ouch ouch ouch sorry can't do it pain pain in the brain brainur so lucky ms genius brain
>>82569765You don't say>>82569788Mommas never have enough grandkidsBut also that yeah
>>82569574>>82569574>>The key is to find something you have in common or can do with people. Games with clans/guilds, or multi-player groups. Activities like art, music or even photoshops. Join up and get to know people in those activities and you'll have enough fun it doesn't matter if you go on any dates.I will try. I am very lonely and this person adding me and the voice call and removing me actually hit me hard. I knew I was bad but didn't know I was that bad socially. I felt like a fucking retard.Getting in some comfy chat that isn't filled with people who have some hostile clique or braving the outside to find similar interest hobbies every once in a while sounds achievable.
>>82569835>You don't sayplz no
>>82569804anon, im actually a guy, i just wanted anons to actually engage in a discussion with me
>>82569639I'm still waitlisted for therapy so hopefully that can help me a bit but it didn't before so I'm not very hopeful.>>82569691Thanks, I hope you do too. Might slowly try to be more open to a girl at my local chinese restaurant, I think she might like me but she is so far out of my league in every metric that it wouldn't feel right. I guess I could compliment her outfit or something and feel it out.
>>82569845>I am very lonely and this person adding me and the voice call and removing meWhat like on discord or something?heinous9591talk is cheap though
pvp rewards? that tracks. why would life skills have any value attached to them
>>82569845>Getting in some comfy chat that isn't filled with people who have some hostile cliqueI don't know you have to sort of assume socially that's how it goes. People jump on the opportunity to exploit anything, and they'll make stuff up if they have nothing else to target. +1 personal score for them they don't care if it damages the community -100. The social environment we exist in is a balance resulting from that.You kind of need to look at it in the big picture. If it was easy to make friends, if people let their guard down they'd be targets easy to exploit and take advantage of. So it's natural people have their guard up.
>>82569813it doesnt seem to come and go for me sadly, just a constant dread, but if being with people does help alleviate it, i might try harder to socialize irl
If you're a guy though that's chill and cool, unless you're gay but even then. Awkward is more reserved for a young woman like 19 or something who I have nothing in common with.
>>82569914>it doesnt seem to come and goIt will, it's 90% only when days get shorter and rain starts. Super bad here in Canada for that because winter sucks so much it's like pitch black all day.What you should find is, focus on shutting down any negative thinking. If you're thinking things like "this is pointless", "i'm stupid", "nobody wants me", "there is no point", "i should give up"Those thoughts all build up your inner negativity. Like stacking weights on your shoulders, eventually it's going to get so heavy you can't climb a flight of stairs.If you stop allowing that weight to be added and remove some weight throwing useless weights away, it'll get easier to climb and you'll feel way better.Focus on positive things you want. Ignore negativity, even internally.
>>82569948>shutting down any negative thinkingbeen a part of me for so long, hard to even know how to stop it fully at this point, massive overthinker growing up and just numbed it with the internet, genuinely have no idea how to do this or even start
>>82569966It gets programmed right into your brain, but it's you doing it. You're in control. It's hard at first but just take immediate action. Respond to it, stop yourself. Mentally correct it. "I need to stop thinking this negative shit."You will 100% have an impact. It sucks but it's like having to clean your ass. Everyone goes, that's you know, life. Everyone needs to clean their ass. Facts of life. Clean that negative shit out of your head. Everyone has these thoughts, most people just get good at stopping and controlling them. Never to late to learn.
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>>82568878My mother has actively discouraged me from dating or even socializing with girls my age since I was very young. Now I'm in my early 20s and she's wondering why I've never dated lmao. This is a pattern with her, she sabotages her own children's futures and then is confused as to why my siblings and I have basic life things we greatly struggle in.Fortunately I have a very close childhood fren who is basically my family that I can lean on for help finding a wife
>>82570027My sisters have already sworn off relationships or having kids because of my parents(for other reasons), and its kinda a tossup as to whether I'm going to be able to have kids someday, so my mom is likely not ever going to see grandkids. Her behavior is rather confusing considering she talks about us giving her grandkids and dating n whatnot often.
>>82570002autism and adhd inattentive type, even as a kid i would try this but just sometimes i couldnt change what my brain was thinking about unless i was distracted by something. its mostly fried now from the internet, so it might be more possible now, ill work on it and see if i can help rework my brain
>>82570070You can't "stop" it. You're going to have a thought like "i suck" or something. What matters is how you respond to it.Think of your brain not as one thing. Not just as you being "one" person like "I" or "Self". Think of it like a whole fuckload of porn sites all linked together on the internet. You've got like, grandma I'd like to fuck, dwarven ballbeard porn, 2d porn of someone fucking a 2d cardboard cutout and getting really bad paper cuts on their dick and shit like that.Just because the internet has fucking gMILFs and shit doesn't mean you love the idea of fucking grannies with teabag sagger titties and boils and tea biscuits and crumpets and shit. Fuck no! All it means is yeah, the fucking internet has a lot of fucking weird shit on it because anything goes.And so that's your brain.You aren't going to get all the granny pussy porn off the internet. It's just not going to happen. You won't be able to remove fatty pancake porno soaked in maple syrup and hothouse smoked back bacon bundles paddling in a canoe down the river porn. Get fucking real bud.If you don't like it, just don't fucking look at it. Don't read about it. Don't think it and if anyone does tell them how much of a disgusting rancid udder maggotcunt dogfucker they are. And FOR FUCK SAKE DON'T RIGHT-CLICK SAVE AS.
>>82568878>do your parents try to help you find bf/gfs?Not at all, pretty much on my own really. I asked out girls before on my own. They don't seem to want me anyway. So I just do my own thing and don't bother trying to interact with the opposite sex.
>>82569551>I'm from fucking canadaNear Toronto? And if so, do you want a white boyfriend?
>>82568878My parents never tried helping me find a gf.I think they might secretly know it's over for me since I'm mentally ill and they have never asked if I'm ever going to get a gf or anything like that.
>>82568878No. My mom actually threatened to beat up any girl I talked to at school.
>>82568878as a depressed moid, ive met many older women who've said id get along with their femneet daughters, like theyre trying to set me up
>>82568878Why wouldn't you just set up the accounts or try meeting guys online? I don't really get why you need your mom to do this for you
>>82570173>I asked out girls before on my own.more effort than ive put in, so ur already doing better than me>>82570543>parents never tried helping me find a gf.if ur young and close with them, couldnt see it hurting to ask to see if they are willing to help>>82570707sorry, seems like a few robots have suffered similar fates with controlling moms, thats crazy bizarre that ive seen so many posts on here for that exact issue>>82570719>older women who've said id get along with their femneet daughtersi had something similar once with my mom in the past, and one of my friends, i got super scared and panicked over it, trying to be way more open now>>82570807>Why wouldn't you just set up the accounts or try meeting guys online?i do, just the ones i match with, im not interested in or are very uninterested in me>I don't really get why you need your mom to do this for youi never said anything about needing my mom to do this for me, she offered is all, she wanted to help me since she knows i struggle with connecting and finding someone im genuinely interested in
>>82570863>just the ones i match with, im not interested in or are very uninterested in meWhat apps have you been using? What about them doesn't interest you? Have you evaluated your standards? You could try finding guys through games or even here, might be easier than using conventional apps if that's what you're using
>>82568878how close are you with your mom? it seems like youre rather close with her. i wouldnt be comfortable doing something like this with my mom
>>82568878Where are you from? What would you want in a bf?
>>82568878what kinds of mental illnesses do you have?
>>82570876>What apps have you been using?all of the major ones and some random ones too, tinder, bumble, hinge, ectWhat about them doesn't interest you?guys are gross, fatness, being a sexhaver>Have you evaluated your standards?i have, they would be reasonable like 50 years ago i think? just not cut out for modern dating styles>through games or even heretried both but maybe i could try games more>>82570891>how close are you with your mom?honestly its hard to gauge. she knows i struggle a lot and is very supportive of me, idk how to measure it, if i wanted to i could prob guilt trip her into doing almost anything, really tho i try to avoid using her like that>>82570908>Where are you from?east coast>What would you want in a bf?female, not a sexhaver>>82570935>mental illnesses autism, depression, adhd, the classic internet diagnosis
>>82568878Not really, but my whole family is becoming very annoying with the idea that I'm old and should get a girlfriend already (I'm 20yo). I kinda feel bad for my grandparents cuz they really hyped (? about the idea that they MIGHT see my kids (which ain't happening any time soon).I guess that i have it better than most anons, some of yall stories are crazy. Gl to everyone with whatever they got going on
>>82571000>What would you want in a bf?>female,you might be a lesbiancel fembot
>>82570863>more effort than ive put in, so ur already doing better than meIts been over a year since I went out on an actual date. Had a boba tea date with her then never heard from her again. After that I asked out two girls. Same phrase different girls "sorry I have a boyfriend.". Recently during this week had 3 girls say "Hi" to me while I was working. I find it weird that if I do the approaching or say something to a girl I find cute/attractive she'll say no to me. But when I don't approach or say anything they want to talk to me or strike up a conversation.
>>82571000>tried bothhow did finding guys on here work out of curiosity?
>>82568878no, though my mom occasionally makes comments to me that she wants to be a grandmom (I'm 40/m and have been single most of my life)
>>82571000what kind of moid would you like to date
>>82571014>Gl to everyone with whatever they got going onthanks anon, best wishes to you too>>82571037>boba tea date never been on a date before, is the date a nice memory looking back? even if it went nowhere?>>82571050weird/disinterested or fissled out>>82571086picrel makes ur comment quite funny anon, like ur just clueless about it and dont care, hopefully you feel the same way>>82571127look at ->>82570908 msg reply
>>82571166partially. partially clueless in that I'm bad at attracting a partner, and partially that I don't care because my parents had a shitty marriage and I'm afraid of starting something that's going to end up like them.
>>82571166have you told your mom u are a lesbot
>>82571246like if I approach a relationship with a 'don't care' attitude and it fails, I can say 'well, won't turn into my parents relationship'
>>82568878my mom said she'd try to set me up with girls my age from her work if I got a haircutI said I wasn't doing that, girls have dated me before when my hair was worse and, while I didn't tell her this, I think a certain type of woman is drawn to her occupation and it's the type of woman I absolutely do not want to become romantically entangled withfemanon, if we dated it could get both our parents off our backs
>>82571000>lesbianYou need corrective breeding.
>>82571166>is the date a nice memory looking back?I think about it from time to time. Looking back on it I often wonder what I could have said differently or not say at all. >even if it went nowhere?From what I remember, She didn't want to "settle" let alone she wanted to "change me". The way I dress, the way I look, etc. She just saw me as a potential hookup because of the way I look. But that's the thing you can't "change me" because that guy is lie.
>>82571251>>82571269 69, nice>>82571275see ->>82569860>>82571253>approach a relationship with a 'don't care' attitudesounds like a healthy way to approach things anon tho hopfully you can find someone to you can let ur guard down at at some point
>>82571291See >>82571275You still need corrective breeding.
>>82571290>often wonder what I could have said differentlyi get like that alot too on my past, its such a bad habbit, hopfully we both can learn to just enjoy past memories for just what they were>>82571296o yes, corrective breeding with a girl, you are soooo right anon, sorry i doubt you
>>82571291I have...the few times I got into a relationship it hasn't worked out. Maybe I'm just fundamentally flawed
>>82571327It's more like wtf the did she see in me for her to just say "okay lets go out." Then afterwards she doesn't want to engage with me anymore. Asides that at least it was a drink date rather than pay for an expensive dinner with her.I can recall texting her back an all but no reply back just left on read. Eventually I just blocked her. Her friend reached out to me an asked me what was up. I just flat out told her it wasn't going to work out between me and her for the way she has been ignoring my texts. I wanted nothing to do with her.Currently I have been focusing on work rather than the opposite sex. Despite one girl in particular who keeps saying "Hi" to me every week when I come visit her store.
>>82568878My mom thinks I'm gay despite the fact I've dated women before. For a long time she kept pushing me to date but I think she finally realized that I have no time or energy after all of the other stuff I need to do day-to-day.Also your mom is being weird. >>82569057> 20s> Knows you're lonely and depressed.Gonna be real with ya. While I do think her pushing for you to date someone is weird, especially going as far as to pretend to be you. However it seems to me like you really need to get out of the house and talk to people. If you don't know how to, then see if you can find a life coach or something. Not the super girlbossy or sigma types or whatever is out there, but like someone normal who has it together and is willing to help.
prob last reply since im tried and its almost 6am, thanks to anyone who helped with advice or shared alittle about their experiences, most appreciated >>82571380>fundamentally flawedi mean we both use 4chan so, its a given tho that doesnt make you less deserving of anything, best of luck>>82571528yeah people are weird and flaky, its hard to deal with, part of why i prefer anonymous boards now, dont gotta worry about it, get that money anon, best wishes>>82571539>your mom is weird.yes but also BARELY compared to some of the other anons here... she does come from a place of care atleast and is trying to help me in her own weird way>life coachhonestly should try to find someone interested in helping, was thinking of using Craigslist again for looking for something i could do that isnt weird and easy for me, could look for someone willing to help with that too for it also
>>82571661>get that money anonWill do, just focusing on myself and putting money in places right now for long term and the like.
>>82568878No. They complain about not getting grandkids but never did anything to help or even teach me how to interact with women
>>82571771>>82571086my experience. got zero advice from both of my parents and they had a craptastic relationship.
>>82568878No, no one in my family does, although I'm 18 so they probably think I still have hope. Even though I gave up on everything already, waiting for some salvation to come like an idiot. (I'm a dude obviously)
>>82568878>hi fembot here, do your parents try to help you find bf/gfs? my mother wanted to set up an account to catfish as me to help me find a boyfriend, has this ever happen to any of you? told her she should just talk with her friends instead and just see if any of them knew if anyone was around my age and would be interested in talking, any experience moids? does ur mom try to help you?No, my mother thought I was gay until I told her I ran into girl online who lied about her age and was actually 11. She was thrilled I was trying to get a gf. Tells me women don't really give a fuck about the whole age of consent thing except for optics
>>82568990>I am not going to reward single mothers
>>82568878No and I'm glad I wouldn't know how to talk to her. It would fucking suck and my mom knows I'm weird anyways she's said it herself.
