Would you give damaged and traumatized women a chance?
>>82875619That's the only kind of woman I give a chance. Fembots, I'm single.
>>82875619I'm battle-tested for BPD chicks and handled daily crying and outbursts for 2 years.
This is just a fashion statement.Im severely traumatised and i look like a normie. I dont even have a single tattoo. Just lots of self harm scars and i struggle to talk
>>82875652>Just lots of self harm scarsDescribe them please. I promise it's not sexual for me. I mean, it is sexual and I will masturbate to the description but let's pretend otherwise.
>>82875645This.But yes 100% I would. Damaged women are fairly easy to take care of, they just need positive re-enforcement and to not be a wimp when dealing with them.
>>82875619I dated a traumatized girl from here, she wasn't very nice desu. Won't blame the trauma itself though, just the way she handled it.
>>82875645>I'm battle-tested for BPD chicks and handled daily crying and outbursts for 2 years.Any stories? What were they like
>>82875682I find that most of the traumatized girls here aren't that bad. I keep looking for worse but I think they only lurk and never post.
>>82875670Just scars on my arms and thighs. I have deep ones, i can run my fingers over them.On my right arm there are several scars all in a column, they are dark, almost looks like an intentional tattoo. I was abused as a kid. A man raped me 10 months ago, it was the worst experience of my life, way worse than as a kid. I'll never try to date again
>>82875711The big problem with mentally ill 4chan foids is that none of them fucking treat their shit. I've got my share of brain skill issues too but I actually take it seriously and seek treatment. Their conditions deteriorate, they relapse into bad and self-destructive habits etc.
>>82875721Why was it worse?
>>82875721How big are the deep ones?Men are dangerous. It's hard to tell who is safe to be around and who isn't. I don't blame you for never wanting to date again. If I was a woman I'd never even try or I'd brain wash myself into being a lesbian. Maybe one day you'll find a decent person or just find life easier.
>>82875721I hope the best for you anon, and hope you find the best person for you.
>>82875619does she have 2cb for yo babyy
>>82875733I don't care as long as they let me take control. If they give me power I can just push them into a better direction. Relapse can be a two steps forward, one step back situation if you manage it right. Most of them don't know how to get better, they try meds or therapy and it doesn't work or they aren't able to keep at it. It's all fixable to some extent.
>>82875691>What were they likeBPD girl's love is the most intense love you can feel and their wrath can be just as intense if you don't manage it wellThis one was kind of dick-ish but I didn't know what I was dealing with at the time>be in bed with girl>she says something mean so I jokingly say "wow you lose face privileges">she gets mad, loses it>starts yelling at me> I turn away every time she tries to see my face and laughing and on my phone (thinking oh this is a joke)> she eventually takes the sheet off of the bed>grabs the pillow >stomps off to the other room>I realize this isn't a joke but think it's hilarious that she's taken it this far so try to calm down before asking her what's going on/ explaining everything>hear her scream for her dog>she tells him to get from under the bed> I sober up a little and ask why is he under the bed> she tells me he runs and hides when she gets like thislater I figured out what was going on and that I can't play stupid pranks like that. I did it to another girl later on to see if I would get the same reaction and she blatantly ignored me, that's when I realized it was not normal behavior.
>>82875745My uncle raped me age 13. It really fucked me up, and i started sleeping around at school with older boys, i drank alcohol with them, and did drugs. But ultimately i managed to realise i was being used.The guy that raped me 10 months ago gave me an infection so bad, ive needed hospital treatment for the past year. The meds im on are so strong. All i can do is sleep
>>82875747Deep. I have keloid scars on some of them. I can remember when i self harmed and was calm, and self harmed whilst crying uncontrollably. Im not ashamed of them at all, it means i survived really tough times in my life.Men are legit frightening, they're much stronger and the only thing stopping them is their own personal morals and opportunity. Its not even close, the best self defence is never to be in that situation again. So i just wont date.>>82875752I just want this infection to go away, and then i can begin to heal, physically and mentally. Done with dating. I still dream of being fucked, but irl, never again. One guy tried talking to me in the street a while back and it was hard not to cry, im just not in the right state of mind for it
>>82875909Is it horrifying that I want to date you and be very nice to you based solely off of your trauma?
>>82875909>i started sleeping around at school with older boysWas any of it worth it?
>>82875941>Deep. I have keloid scars on some of them.Do you ever show them off? They are proof of having survived so yeah be proud of it. Some people go through much less than you and don't make it. You're a fighter. Do you think you'll be ok with never dating? Being alone forever is painful.
>>82875941What would you now say the green flags and red flags are in men?
>>82875946Not really, i think some men are built that way. Im only small so i trigger something in men, its either to harm me or protect me. Last 6 out of 7 men have harmed me, so my luck is shit.Also i noticed when ive told men about my past, they change, they become more... idk, touchy with me, which is the opposite reaction i want. Im way past that sexual trauma phase where i want to be pinned down, i realised i was being used for sex. That doesnt make my brain light up anymore. Idk what makes me happy. Idk. I cant even inagine a man just being respectful. I still have sexual needs, i have no fucking idea how to meet them
>>82875963Yeah i show them off lol, i have sleeveless tops, shame its so cold all the time. Its shit, i suffered, no good. I think about all those men, how many would be there if i called them up and said i need to be taken to the hospital. Probably 0. That helped me realise a lot.Right now i havent been on a date for 6 months, im so proud of myself. I will give it until 2027, then I'll see how i feel about meeting someone, right now i need this infection gone, the meds help a lot, they do, but it isnt cured and idk what happens next, they keep extending the time i take them. But at least im out of hospital, i have my blankets, i play my games, and i just generally get through the day. Also i stopped wearing as much make up. Feels kinda nice desu, no more wet wipes.
>>82875619I married one. Surprisingly it went well
>>82875969Ok so this is a way of working out what he wants. Plan to meet, but a low key date, not an extravegent one where things are booked, just a basic date like playing pool, or hot drinks.A day before, cancel it and say why. Say you feel anxious, upset. But also keep talking the whole time, so he doesnt think hes been ghosted. See how he reacts. If hes angry, calls you names, massive red flag.If hes comforting and understanding, thats a green flag. Abusers get angry when they think someone they can abuse will get away.
>>82875975>i have no fucking idea how to meet themYou need to find a guy who is ok with you being more or less in charge of what happens and when. That way you can initiate everything and make sure the safety rails are always up. It takes trial and error figuring out what will feel good and what won't, what makes you scared and what doesn't. Most men aren't going to be ok with that unfortunately but some are. I used to do something similar with someone and they seemed to be getting something out of it, or at least she wasn't getting traumatized every time. Starting online might be easier than starting in person, more distance and easier to remove them from your life if you're getting scared of them.
>>82875619They won't give me a chance, that's the problem. I am an incel.
>>82875969Green flags are patience, never mentioning sex, not doing dates that involve drugs or alcohol. Ask him what he values more in a relationship, honesty or love. See how he responds, theres no wrong or right answer, you just want to see how his brain works. Red flags are drugs, stay tf away from drugs, he will absolutely try to make you do drugs, then fuck you. No good. Also if he tries to guilt trip you in anyway, massive, massive red flag. He wont take responsibility after harming you. If he paints himself as always a victim, its lies. If he's too comfortable too soon, red flag. If its too good to be true, it is. Men are shit, just about finding the one with the least about of baggage. Also never be alone with a man until you've had multiple dates in public. Make sure you take a picture of his passport or drivers licence. If hes genuine, he'll be fine with that.
>>82875975what would you describe your personality like? You could be unintentionally attracting them due to your behaviors. What kind of man do you go for?
>>82876044>never mentioning sex, not doing dates that involve drugs or alcohol.How often do men try to rush into sex?
really depends in what way but i don't have high standards considering i'm a shutin neet who is an alcoholic and regularly abuses drugs (so i can take a break from alcohol)you could never tell if you saw me in public (rarely happens) though, i dress cleanly and look decent enough but i am absolutely fucked up in my head
>>82876066NTA, but I imagine they just know psychologically that she's a damaged whore with no prospect for a serious relationship, so she's always rushed for sex.
>>82875619yuck. no. not my type
>>82876044>Make sure you take a picture of his passport or drivers licenceWut. I know I haven't been on many dates but if a girl tried to copy my ID that's an instant red flag. Like this bitch is going to file rape charges against me the moment I leave. I get you've been hurt so it's a trust issue thing but that goes both ways.
>>82876054Im very passive, i struggle very much with setting boundaries. Im either fawn or freeze.When my uncle raped me i completely froze. Im also very easily led. I smoked meth because they guy i was seeing smoked meth, then i dated another guy who was very anti drug, so i stopped. But he drank a lot, guess what i did. I just want to be loved, i want someone to look after me and just not make me do bad stuff any more. I wish i could be married and just feel secure and heal enough to have a family. I need my heath better, if i got pregannt now id literally die no joke. Im not gonna be any good to anyone if i dont recover. So lots of rest for me, take my tablets on time
>>82876208>i want someone to look after me and just not make me do bad stuff any moreI'll make you do good productive things if you want
>>82876054>What kind of man do you go for?I unironically like nice guys, the type of guy thats romantic and sweet and will be kind to me. I attract thugs with tattoos who get into fights. >>82876066Very much so, they are pushy the same night. Some have tried to fuck me in their cars. One guy was talking to me when i went for a walk, and he seemed nice, he said he wanted to meet someone special. I needed a wee, and he said "oh my place is near here", so I went into his place and he made me a hot drink and we watched some film. Then he starts touching me, telling me how beautiful i am, and trying to stick his hands by my pussy. I told him no, no, no, no. He then took the back of my head and made me suck him, but i was crying at this point, and after a couple of minutes he stopped, he didnt cum, he just kept apologising, he said he was sorry and we would go out to dinner. I just got my stuff and left. As im walking to the train station another man stops me and tells me im beautiful, and then a car pulls up and tries to make me get in.I just got the train home, and had a bath. I havent been for a walk in that area since.
>>82876208>I smoked meth because they guy i was seeing smoked meth,If you're female, do you want to smoke crystal and fuck for 18 hours?
>>82876112Then i would never be alone with you. If i go to the police, who are you? Fake name? No address? No way, thats not how im gonna be, I'll let you see my ID, so whats the problem?I have never been to the police, not for my uncle, not for the guy last year. I wish i had that confidence. Anyways if you cant see why its important to know who you are, then what can i say. People lie all the time, that's why prolific rapsists can attack 20 women before they are caught, its only until the phsyical description matches several times that the police realise whats gone on
>>82876247>I unironically like nice guysI dont buy it. I feel like you idealize a relationship with this type and then when you actually date a kind dude they end up boring you and you end up self-sabotaging by cheating on them with the deadbeat thug types you claim to dislike. Many such cases.. Fellas.. never date a chick who says "you're the nicest guy I've ever dated" major red flag
>>82876263He is right, it's a massive breach of trust and I couldn't be with a woman like this,.and I have never abused anyone with my life. In fact, I have been abused by women which is exactly why I wouldn't trust you with my information.Sorry, nona, you are probably fucked as far as finding a nice guy.
I have 2 of them and they can be very hard to deal with if you lack patience and aren't willing to understand their issues.
>>82876263>I have never been to the police, not for my uncle, not for the guy last year. I wish i had that confidence.Those people all have the chance to victimize more women and girls now, and you could have done something to at least try and stop it. Are you British or something?
>>82876439>Are you British or something?Yeah why?
>>82876323>>82876112i honestly don't understand. Youre happy to stick your dick inside a random woman, but wont even tell her who you are? Why? Makes no sense to me. I would also show my ID
>>82876455>Youre happy to stick your dick inside a random womanWhy are you making assumptions? I knew my gf for an entire year before fucking her, and she doesn't even have a driver's license so she has no room to ask me for mine
>>82876446There's something in the water over there.
>>82875645yeah same here. gave me the mentality that if I can survive that, then I can survive most fucked up chicks, I feel
>>82875909jesus christ man. I feel fucked up some days as a male SA survivor but that's on another level. I genuinely feel for you anon and hope things get better for you sooner than later.
>>82875953Missed this. Erm.Idk what to say. I dont have any contact with anyone from school now. I still kinda had friends, and boys still wanted to date me. Looking back i had a reputation and that would bother me more now than then. I felt like i was better than everyone else because older boys liked me. But they didnt like me, they used me.Ultimately i wish i had never been hurt
