i have 0 personalityi wanna talk to people and socialize and make friends but im just never able to talk or listen or say anything interesting to people
>>82880566That's too bad, anon. Look like death is the only answer for you
>>82880566same xdxdxxddXDDDDoh except the part about wanting friends
>>82880595mayhaps>>82880596i used to think that but only due to extreme levels of shut inwhen you realize your life is going on so fast with no experiences or memories it makes you want it moreand if you actually go around people youd want it even more
>>82880610i would love to magically fix your life and give you extremely helpful advice but I have none >never able to say anything interesting lol so here's a few empty platitudes: good luck!! i hope you succeed and make many friends and be happy forever from the bottom of my heart...
>>82880633thanks nonny im mostly just here to vent desu
and whats more pathetic is that all the friends i had before feel like they took me in out of pityhalf of them is because we were stuck together at schoolthe other half are online friends so me being there isnt that bothersome and other online friends i had feel like they just want to fuck me or make me their gf (im a discord femboytroon) if there was no sexual appeal they wouldnt have given me the light of day..
im just a dull personalot of the time im ok with it but sometimes i seethe when i see people being social and having fun while it feels impossible for me..
Sometimes it just is what it is... anyway, you play games or something? If you get a gaming friend, you can just play the game, and then you'll have something to talk about automatically. I guess it could work with other stuff too?
>>82880877i have one that im very dull with and he probably just wants to fuck me thats why he hits me up to play vidya then sends porn after we're done
>>82880896well that sounds pretty ass but is the game fun at least...? also did you ask him why he's sending you porn...
>>82880566Thats definitely true I was bored even reading your post. tough
>>82880938>also did you ask him why he's sending you porn...we used to goon together before, we still do occasionally...
Just look up popular comedians and podcasters and emulate their personalities/mannerisms, boom you have an amalgam of the best content creators inside your own skull that you can weaponize to your heart's content
>>82880566Just find a random thing you enjoy and learn a lot about it. Simply consoooooming media will make you cultured.
>0 personality Just copy a cool character from a movie or thing you like. For me, it's Frank West but I don't 100% act like him.
>>82880938>>82880944just to clarifyim not mad about the porn im just questioning the validity of the friendship.>>82880949doesn't really workit has to be backed by life experiencesi listen to people on YouTube all the time and it doesn't do anything to my personality>>82880956i do enjoy alot of things just cant talk about any of it and if all youre talking about is internet/media stuff its kinda lame..
>>82880969>doesn't really work>it has to be backed by life experiences>i listen to people on YouTube all the time and it doesn't do anything to my personalityI guess it only works for legit autists, huh.
>>82880969>if all youre talking about is internet/media stuff its kinda lameJust try to befriend other nerds into the lame shit you like? I'm autistic and yeah normal people find it annoying that I won't shut the fuck up about music, but if I find other music-obsessed retards then we get along just fine.
>>82880944lol, good luck with that. why isn't he a good friend though? do you like doing stuff him?
>>82880990>why isn't he a good friend though?kinda feels like we're indifferent about each otherjust hop in a game together and play so it doesnt feel realthe only reason he maintains the friendship is because he's horny or something
>>82880969>doesn't really workSkill issue I guess you're just retarded then sorry no cure for that that I know of, just get jacked and intimidate people into liking you idk
>>82881025well he can't be horny 24/7, right? maybe he just likes playing with you...? idk, can't really know. if you have fun with him and all, isn't it worth something?
>>82880566If you have a discord just send your info and practice with random anons, so far it's worked somewhat well for me even if I don't talk every day to them. would you like some assistance?
>>82882256id like it if theres a server of spergs i can join and try to socialize on VC1 to 1 stuff arent the same i think...
>>82880566>>82880707its because your are on teh PHONE all DAYgo collect insects
>>82880969>i listen to people on YouTube all the time and it doesn't do anything to my personalityWRONGevery second you spend on pootube makes you worsego volunteer at an animal shelter or something. literally anything else.
>>82882300>go volunteer at an animal shelter or something. literally anything else.im getting a job sooni was hoping finally getting a job will be the turning point of my life but that remains to be seeni managed to go through uni and school making 0 real friends though...
>>82880956This is the correct answerStarting hobbies made me able to talk to people better and actually develop a personality. And no, none of my hobbies are social whatsoever and none of them involve people, getting more gooder at more stuff makes you a more gooder person basically.
>>82880566It's not that you have 0 personality, you probably just have social anxiety. You're thinking too much and worrying about saying the "right" thing and what other people want to hear that you forget, or dismiss, your own thoughts for fear of being judged or seen. The good news is you'll always be this way because some traumatic event in your life, even if it wasn't all that traumatic, led you to believe you weren't worth listening to.
>>82882272group social dynamics are different to just one on one conversation but putting your self out there is a step in the direction you are seeking. do you have hobbies/interests you want to sperg about? I'm getting into Warhammer lore and Larping in threads to combat my habitual lurking behavior
>>82882371this is kinda how i feeljust getting nervous and going nonverbal while a lot of conflicting thoughts fill up my mind making me unable to think of what to say or listen to what people are talking about.... >>82882409i like retro games and programming mostlyi like other stuff but those are the main ones...
>>82882320Ok my hobby is learning about nazis, war crimes and how the government is full of corrupt pedos. If I drop a single pearl society is gonna crucify me, imprison me or at best just treat me like a weirdo. You are not allowed to have interests. Only topics in the clown world are work, sports, cars and cooking.
>>82882430maestromaestro180Feel free to message at your own pace, conversation and socializing is a journey not a destination
>>82880566I relate to this the most, the pain is immenseEveryone who I consider friends in real life and online just don't like you, they look down on you, you are always on the bottom. They call you boring, stupid. It truly hurts my feelings and I believe the best thing is to retreat away as you can't serve anything of worth
>>82882313>i managed to go through uni and school making 0 real friends though...this is because you were on your phone and everyone else was on their phoneabout half of people are like this nowthe other half are on their phone also but got put into friend groups by their parents at young ages so they have that at leastwhat most ppl on 4chan dont realize is, most "normies" didnt start out any different from them, but their parents worked hard and befriended other parents to set up playdates and birthday parties etc in early school so their kids got a good start socially. most loner people here simply have loner parents. getting a pc isnt going to get you anywhere if you just sit on it alone watching videos and playing single player games. you could look for a vidya club in your area or at least play longer term multiplayer games like turtle wow where you can actually make internet friends over time cause its not all new people every 30 mins.
>>82882486unironically if you go talk to the guys who hang out on the street drinking from paper bagged cans they love to talk about conspiracy stuff. not necessarily the friends you want but w/e theyre fun.
>>82880566>I want to talk to people but I'm completely self absorbed and can't even listen to what other people say because I'm just so fucking important!!Okay, faggot.
im honestly surprised people havent just started putting up flyers for local vidya discords on grocery store pinboards and telephone poles. seems pretty effective as a way to get the word out and make a community, and i cant really think of how you would do so otherwise these days. social media isnt really local like that anymore cause no one uses facebook and everything else is delocalized, as in theres no "people near me" function on youtube or twitter. so yeah idk start a local game club if there isnt one i guess, could be fun although you will probably meet people who are a LOT weirder than yourself. always remember, for every 4chan poster there are 1000 people who feel too awkward to post even here.
>>82880949I listened to joe rogan and conan o'brien like every morning for that for a year and I don't think it had any effect on me.It's like I'm like some sort of a black hole. I suck in everything and contribute nothing. I'm a good listener but I just can't talk. I can't contribute to conversations unless someone directly takes it out of my mouth and asks me questions and my input.
>>82880566You sound like a friend of mine desuI brought him along to clubs, bars, any kind of social events and I wingman for him, try to introduce him to folks but he just can't do itHe's a decent guy, a little nerdy but he's a genuinely decent guy
>>82884572you literally only practiced listening though...thats like saying "i listened to thousands of hours of music and i still cant play guitar, wtf?"you have to at least sing along to learn much about performing just from listening to music...likewise you need to do some talking to get used to it. what you could try is just to record yourself talking for a while, maybe playing a game and rambling about it, or just streaming to nobody if you like. i have a friend who makes yt videos where he plays pokemon and fire emblem and reads all the dialogue out loud in funny voices and he has a pretty good time at it. funnily he was actually pretty shy back when i met him in 8th grade, but he decided to work on it hard during highschool, doing stuff like making videos imitating billy mays ads and running a meme campaign for class president, which he actually ended up winning. (he was still khhv though kek, and he actually got way angrier about that still being the case even though he was class president. but he probably shouldnt have worn an increasingly odorous trenchcoat every day...what works for meme campaigns isnt really the same as getting a gf. but anyway...)
>>82885509damn good point
