How do you cope with aging? I am shortly turning 30 and its dawning on me that I sincerely will never have anything close to the life I wanted. I always dreamed of me turning myself around, becoming more attractive, living in a more interesting city filled with hot young people, getting a friend group, maybe starting a band, and most importantly FUCKING a lot of beautiful cool aesthetic artsy girls. I love young artistic city type girls so much. There is just this certain slice of youthful sexually charged life that I never got to experience, and never will get to experience now that I have aged out of that demographic. This has become excruciating for me - I think the vague hope of my life being able to look like this 2/3/4 years in the future always lingered in the back of my head, but now that there is no way to realistically look at my future as a mid 30s man and see a path to this life style.., I am feeling intense remorse for everything.
>>83261224im a twenty seven yo virgin and live e my parents still they still creep me out and i would like to pay off my loans and live on a sailboat instead or my own land cause i sleep in a tent but i would not feel like i abandoned them since they are mean and dumb and creepy cause they should decide to be nice and smart and normalinstead of judging me even morei think ai gives me a lot of opportunities and i would like to teach hindi courses and build courses for kids which work with ai which is what im going to switch gears for doing selling courseware works great for me since i can do it anywhere in the world and while i live in a sailboat or offgrid i can also sell media editors and make free vibe coded softwareim not afraid of people stealing my ideas since i want the market to be diverse and rich with lots of free ideas about how to use ai and sell ai capabilities i also believe robots will be able to repair cars within two years which i could set up and flip cars so i wont be poor when that happens
>>83261325You could have at least cropped the picture retard
>>83261224Why did this happen to you?Instead of wasting your life dreaming about change you should've put in the work to make that change happenYou can still turn your life around, it's going to be harder but you've still got time, there are guys in their mid-40's doing a 180 turn in their livesYou won't be able to re-experience your youth but you can still make the rest of your life easier and more bearable
>>83261513>their mid-40's doing a 180 turn in their livesit's called a mid-life crisis and it ends horribly, OP should simply give up as it's over for himunless he found a cure for aging, but I doubt that
>>83261224if i were you id give up on dating young women and id start dating hags aka women over 22
i am autistic khhv and live in the suburbs and was coddled by my mother. i am too anxious to drive to a city. if i was born into a different family or born into the city then i would be social and have lost my virginity. i spam my discord tag online because i have no hope of meeting people irl since im getting older now and no 20 sometihng year old girl wants to talk to a 28 year old. not even any "femcel" girls online want anything to do with me. the most iv ever gotten is nudes. all of the things i espected to happen to me were ultimately just delusional fantasies i guess. i'm probably goign to move out when im 30something and killing myself
>>83261560>it's called a mid-life crisis and it ends horriblyYeah finally getting a grip, quitting drugs and alcohol and finding some stability in life is such a crisisI'm not talking about some middle class normalfaggot with a family and a decent job who desperately wants to relive his youth
>>83261513>Why did this happen to you?Insecurity. I was dealing with major hair loss from a young age. It destroyed my confidence. Ive largely reversed it and live life with solid hair now, but my formerly receding hairline made me feel impossibly disgusting
>>83261224I'm 29. I've given up on trying to improve my life. I'm not going back to college. I can barely do anything.
>>83261224>more attractive, living in a more interesting city filled with hot young people, getting a friend group, maybe starting a band, and most importantly FUCKING a lot of beautiful cool aesthetic artsy girlsI sort of had this at the tail end of uni, moved to the city, had goth friends, fucked a few girls, no longer have this though, still in the city and sometimes go to gigs.
aging with some kind of second nature or biological aging?
>>83261224I recently turn 30 years. I feel older, like at 60 years person mentally not because life experience or knowledge . But because i got nothing; no gf, no Friends, no cars, no House etc. The older you get your access to people get thinnier, and It got more harder to satificed your social needs. I quit 4chan for about 2 years, got back because depression got to hard on me, i have literally no one to Talk, when i talked to someone they pay little attention or they didnt just care, or abuse my generosity (i like to invite for dinners and eat, but It always i, that invites, but dont get invite.) i notice It. No one care for me. Iam saving money to buy a motorcicle and travel, that sound stupid and very femmenine but IS that or suicide.
>>83261764>>83261224Living in a big city is the cure to inceldom. I was stuck in the suburbs with my parents 50 miles from my local city for most of my life. In my late 20s I decided to do some travelling with my wageslave money and went to Tokyo for six months. I managed to have sex with two seperate girls while I was there and I made A LOT of new friends. I would get the inner city trains (Yamanote Line) from where I lived (central Tokyo) and meet them. Living in the city completely changed my view on life. I used to think I was just a broken weirdo. But I realised that it was just the environment I was placed in. Sadly, I'm back living in the suburbs now with my parents because the trip killed me financially. But it was so fucking worth it.
>>83263633Assuming you are white and somewhat tall, this is just a racial thing. You wouldnt have nearly the same experience in American or European cities
>>83263704>Assuming you are white and somewhat tall>in American or European citiesyes he would, if he's White and tall
>>83263704>Assuming you are white and somewhat tall, this is just a racial thing.I'm 5ft6 buddy lol. But yeah I am white.
>>83263633honestly my guy it sounds like you just wage and then stay online all night at homeand when you're in tokyo you weren't waging and then being online all night after.gotta go out to meet people no matter where you live, simple as.
>>83263770I'm tired when I finish waging. I just wanna go home and zombie out. I will admit I had loads more energy to get out there and socialise when I was in Tokyo. But I work a 9am to 6pm shift so I really just wanna sleep most of the week. There's no escape other than just becoming a NEET or reducing my work hours (not possible in my current job) so that I have more time to be social. I'm also an introvert by nature and need time to recharge. Work offices, target meetings and all the other bullshit tires me out greatly.
>>83263633>>83263704Honestly even if you're brown or a 5'0 manlet that's kinda true. If you live in a geographically isolated area you won't meet anyone and won't make any friends or find a gf. If you moved to a big southern city in Brazil chances are you'd lose your virginity within a year. Replace southern city in Brazil with Tokyo/Osaka and it's the same.
>>83261224>How do you cope with agingYou should have been eating a good diet, working out and lowkey doing a skin care routine.If you didn't do any of this in your 20s, you are going to get the negative effects within 5 years.The most brutal twink death
>>83264293Then why not just move to the city?
>>83264445Well idk about the rest but probably because moving to a big city is expensive. In my case I live in a small, third world shit hole that's very expensive, I'm poor atm and there's no opportunity for me to emigrate legally.
It's not the part about being alone that scares me. It's the health problems that await me, especially since I don't have insurance. I recently injured my back and ended up disabled pretty much since I can't work. I'm only 30, what the fuck am I going to do once the money runs out? This is only one problem, God knows how many other problems are coming my way in a couple years.
My dreams and aspirations are the same as yours but I'm younger. Thank you anon your posr motivated me to change my life before it's too late. I will probably not do it but who knows. Maybe this will be the time i actually commit to turning my life around and fucking 18yo alt sluts
>>83261224I'm 32 and also wasted a chunk of my youth, but I'm looking forward to the rest of my 30s and so on. I think it's fine. You've recognized you're lacking in places and know what kind of goals you want. You just need to put together a proper plan to actually attain your goals, which are still plenty attainable.Although just wanting to fuck a bunch of young girls is a bit immature. Maybe you still need to grow a bit.
>>83264688why can't you get a degree and work and get insurance and build up more savings?
>>83264803>>83264803Because I'm in pain all day
>>83264851Is perma-disability not an option? Is there really no kind of treatment that could help some?
>>83264856I have one last chance with a spinal fusion, but there's a chance that can leave me in a worst state, so it's a risk. Unfortunately, once your discs start going out, that's it, you're pretty much fucked, not even aids is this bad. Also the government doesn't see this as being disabled, they'd just send me to be a door greeter at a walmart or something since I can still walk. Take care of your back, anon, I don't think people realize how life ending a herniated disc is, it will end your life on the spot, except it doesn't kill you, it keeps you alive while you're in severe pain all day.
>>83264345It it too late to start at 26
>>83261224I think i look better at 28 than i did a few years ago. I do regret spending most of my life indoors though. Like i want to be outgoing and make friends, but where?
>>83261224I wasted my youth as a shut in neet. wasn't really worth it.
>>83264726I was gonna say the exact same thing then I saw your comment. Were in skynet already
>>83264766>which are still plenty attainableWhy humiliate anon? What he wants is dead and gone
>>83265429Same. Its hard to know how to forgive yourself. Giving up on the best years for nothing.
>>83264688Apply for disability its pretty simple
>>83261224you can learn more things, knowledge only goes up until you get dementia
>>83261224Those coming of age movies are a lie, most people end up having maybe 1 to 2 girlfriends. It was never real and expecting it means you are destined to be disappointed
>>83261224I don't even know man. You get older and I'm not old enough for it to cause a huge crisis.
>>83261224Just turned 28yo. I feel the same however I try to cope with the fact that the hand dealt was mediocre. Coming from a poor family and having zero jobs opportunities in my shithole means you were never meant to be anyways. There's a lot of stuff I could've done don't get me wrong. Nothing stopped me from learning music, some instrument, the gym, drawing, code, whatever. But I hate learning so much. I wanted to reap the benefits without ever engaging in that painful and time consuming part of life.
