I finally cheated on my girlfriend and I feel no regrets, just relief. She was my first everything and the relationship's been so good that at this rate we're going to marry, but the idea of never having sex with another woman at all ever for the rest of my life was driving me genuinely fucking insane. I know I'm attractive, I was always just too awkward to ever capitalize on anything.Since getting with my gf, women became a lot less of a mystery and I found it much easier to casually flirt with women when my girlfriend wasn't around. We're from different cities and had no friends in common before we met, so I knew I could get away with dating apps. Got on tinder and started swiping and voila. 3 dates later and I've made out with one chick in the back of my car for an hour and fingered her, had a hookup with another, and ate out the last girl at her place before she decided she was uncomfortable. I didn't even care that I didn't get to have sex. The knowledge that I can pull women that much more attractive than my gf (she's lovely, don't get me wrong, but she's fat and not that attractive) and make them want to fuck me is pure fucking heroin in my veins after a lifetime of never being desired by women. I stopped a week ago and blocked the girls I talked to in order to not get caught. I'm just so glad I can look back and say to myself that yes, I did have the charisma, the pure animal charm to pull women that I wanted. That I lived up to the potential of my attractiveness and had three women give it up on the first time meeting me. That nagging feeling in the back of my head of feeling like a fucking loser all my life is finally fucking gone.
This is probably ragebait, but you're still a major faggot anyway.
Tf2 fans once again proving to me that im right for never liking them and their game
>>83273866attractive enough to pull but too ugly to make your girl insecure enough to workout and get hot for you is so fucking amusing to me. i chuckled aloud. i told my tulpa about it and they chuckled with me. you sorry faggot
>>83273866Congrats. I feel like it would be a waste to not keep it up though. If there's ever a way for you to consistently cheat and not get caught I would say go for it, because now that you proved it to yourself that you can pull, you're always gonna look back and miss it, and possibly grow to resent your fat ugly gf
>>83273866>That nagging feeling in the back of my head of feeling like a fucking loser all my life is finally fucking gone.Take it from a fellow real one, anon: that feeling is finally fucking gone... for now.>pure fucking heroin in my veinsYou really think it's one taste of this and you're done with it for life?
This thread is why you can't trust late bloomers, btw. A natural born good looking, charismatic man fucked a few girls in high school and was able to develop normally. When you don't get the experience of having women like you until you're 20+ you are going to be an addict for life once you get it.
>>83273896we do tend to be major faggots tbf>>83273900she (rightly) assumes i'm settling for her because her personality is a 10/10. never met anyone I can hang out with all day and not get tired of them talk besides her, and we've been together for a year at this point, so honeymoon phase is long past. She does try and dress nice and do makeup, but diet is the one thing that eludes her. If I started giving hints that I might leave because of it, she might get into shape, but more likely than not I think she'd just shut down and self-sabotage unfortunately. She responds better to positive reinforcement than a fear of consequence>>83273910I fear losing what I have too much to risk it. See above>>83273912>>83273936I trust myself to lock in, or at least, do it in places where there is zero incriminating evidence leading back to me (purely in person at parties, no texts, etc.)
>>83273866I'm a virgin but I often worry I'll be like you if I ever do get into a relationshipI can imagine myself feeling trapped and wanting to make up for lost experiences
>>83273866i think about cheating on my wife all the time but the fear of regret and the risk of getting caught keep me from doing it
>>83273951Start going to the gym with her
>>83273954There is unfortunately good wisdom in people telling you to just go for someone you don't necessarily see a future with so that you can get it out of your system. I didn't anticipate my gf having such an incredible personality, so I got simultaneously lucky and unlucky. Chances are though, your first relationship won't last, so its very unlikely you'll be stuck in the same situation as me.
>>83273972I do on occasion. We just live 2 hours apart and are both doing engineering + working, so time is *very* limited as is when we see each other
>>83273866im scared of dating a virgin cause of this. that guys always gonna be thinking about the endless possibilities and never be satisfied, and probably thinks if he can score me he can score hotter women, but a guy whos had sex with 1-2 other women in the past will probably be more willing to stay with me for life
>>83273866The guilt may well catch up with you, OP
>>83273989Oh dude it's over then, she might be fat but she's probably got guys lined up around the block since you're never around. While I relate to your story, you need to absolutely understand that she is also cheating. You can and should enjoy indulging in other women while you're with her. You should absolutely not feel guilty for a second. Once you guys inevitably break up in a few years and she starts telling you all the shit she did in an attempt to hurt you on the way out, you will be glad you did. Also, start snooping her phone immediately.
>>83274014Are you retarded or just trying to trick him? If shes fat and ugly she does not have "guys lined up"
>>83274038Lol. Make a tinder account with the nastiest slag you can find pictures of and see how long it takes to hit 99+ matches.
>>83274014You may be speaking for the average woman, and not to sound like im coping, but that is 100% not the type of person my gf is. I've been through her phone recently out of I guess a sense of projection that she might be cheating, same as me, and nada. zilch. bone dry. she hardly even has any friends. she's a very sweet but awkward person who comes on too strong and scares a lot of people away. I appreciate the sentiment, but she is genuinely different.
>>83274048I doubt his girl uses tinder. A woman like her is too emotional and not confident/vold enough to cheat if she thinks she has a prize
>>83274056So long as you acknowledge that you do sound like you're coping. At least you snooped, this is a good sign for your clarity of mind.>I know other women are like that, but not mine. She's different, she would never do that.
>>83274069To this day, despite a year of me reassuring her I find her beautiful and whatnot, she still dislikes her appearance and body. I obviously cannot say that she has a point about it, but thats to say, yeah, she's not confident enough to put herself out there on dating apps. Plus, she does see me as a huge fucking prize. You would not BELIEVE how she pounces on me sometimes and says how lucky she is to have gotten a guy like me. And on a purely physical level, yeah, she is not my looksmatch in the slightest. Personality-wise, we get along better than I thought humanly possible for two people to get along.
>>83274093you are fucking evil man, fucking evil. you shouldve just left instead of cheating. that poor, poor woman
>>83274130Why are you being so moralfag about it
>>83274143telling someone theyre evil for cheating is written off as moralfagging now, youre fucking retarded, youd kill yourself if you were in her shoes, faggot
>>83274130Not a doubt in my mind that I'm going to hell for this, if there is a hell. But so long as we're here on earth, I don't think it matters too much. I make her happy and she makes me happy, so as long as she doesn't find out, it's no harm no foul as far as I see it. I've finally done something to address this crippling dissonance of seeing an attractive man in the mirror and being unable to reconcile it with how loathed I was by girls growing up for being a high inhib autist. Now that it's resolved, I can go back to business as usual without resentment against my gf festering for "trapping" me and I can walk with more pep in my step knowing that I'm not forcing myself to settle for her, I'm genuinely choosing her for her personality.
>>83274143If the cheating was the other way around you'd be whining about how evil it was.
I have never decided that someone on 4chan needs to hear this more than you OP, you need God unironically.I have been on this site for a really long time, the kids would call me unc or boomer even. But you really need to get your shit together bruh
>>83274093Homey you are 100% not satisfied with your current gf. That's why you fucking cheated. "I just needed to get it out of my system" I'm dying over here. What exactly did you need to get out of your system? Your jizz? You are emotionally attracted to your current gf for sure but you are not physically attracted to her at all. She was your first everything and you were fine with it because they were your first but would you be ok with her being your last of everything? You basically stated that you're not down with that in the OP and that's why you felt the need to cheat. In the thread you said you're settling for her, but there is clearly some part of you that is quite upset with the idea of settling. The fact that you refer to it that way shows that you already actively resent her and are only going to resent the fuck out of her as the relationship progresses. Best of luck stud
>>83274182If it was the other way around in that an ugly guy was with a hot girl, then no I wouldn't whine, I'd say it's a reality everyone saw coming and that steps should've been taken to avoid
I lost my boner during sex cheating on a girl from sheer guilt once
>>83274173if she makes you so happy you wouldve never felt the need to cheat, you will want to do it again considering you still see yourself as "above her" in terms of looks.you are still settling cause you clearly see her as ugly, she is a safe option because you get along with her and probably won't find that in someone else. you should just leave and try and find someone youll be happy with physically and mentally, this poor girl is definitely better off alone
>>83274203>Would you be ok with her being your last of everything?Honestly right now? Yes. I was not okay with her being my only of everything. I don't think I would've been okay with it no matter who it was. It was never about how attractive she is. She's got a good face underneath the fat that I can appreciate. I imagine she'd be a 6/10 if she lost weight. The problem has always been that I cannot stand the idea of only having sex with one woman my entire life because knowing that I'm finally desirable in my 20s after being shunned all my adolescent years makes me feel that I have to act on it. This makes me weak and immoral, I know. I don't care. I would have been deeply, deeply unhappy with her if I smoldered and stewed thinking about all the opportunity for young, hot pussy I passed up because I was committed to the idea of a happily-ever-after. Meanwhile my gf had two exes who treated her well, they just grew past each other. And I'm supposed to just accept that I don't get to have anything approximating that when I'm so much more attractive than her? No. I would feel indignant and resentful. I did feel exactly that before I cheated. Now I just feel relieved. The playing field is equaled and I've acted on my potential. It's like if you had a button in front of you that would give you $10,000 right then and there but somewhere across the world, you'd send someone into a depressive episode. It's not kind, but hey, they'll live.
>>83274203>>83274227Obvious retarded copers, possible virgins. The options are>you are settling, you cheat>she is settling, she cheats>you are both perfectly matched and in agreement on this and both morally strongOP is taking the only path to victory. Get a Personality gf who you actually like being around (VERY fucking rare and hard to find, a tolerable girl is way less common than a cute one) and then fuck other sluts on the side. The only reason you would possibly not do this is because you cannot do it.
>>83274303>Get a Personality gf who you actually like being around (VERY fucking rare and hard to find, a tolerable girl is way less common than a cute one) and then fuck other sluts on the side.i may as well just fucking kill myself man, if you are even a little below stacy-tier, even virgins will treat you like shit. no one will ever love me for my physical appearance and personality, i may as well just fucking die
>>83274326You being a tranny notwithstanding, all you have to do is shoot for an ugly man. OP did this, and was able to do this, because he was attractive. He said this about 20 times itt. We have to take him at his word for it, but if he's able to fuck multiple sluts on short notice on top of having a gf then it's probably true. If you just get with a shy 5'4 average looking dude then you're completely safe. It's as simple as making sure he has no other options. This is trivially easy because being able to pull multiple women in parallel is a privilege reserved for the top 50% of men at best, if I'm being generous.That is to say: it's your fault for being chad-only. Your dream of chad (but he's also a pure virgin) is indeed pure fantasy.
>>83274367>OP did this, and was able to do this, because he was attractive.Not to jerk myself off, but to give a comparison to go against, I have been compared many, many times to luigi mangione in terms of appearance. Straighter nose, more pronounced brow, and a very similar smile is about 90% of the way there, barring other small differences in features. And we all saw how women lusted over him.If you get someone even a point or two of attractiveness below mangione, you're probably fine when it comes to cheating. >>83274326
daily reminder this faggot posts a thread like this every other day. this board is 99% reposting autists
>>83274400free da homie
Morals aside, you sound like an NPC. Validation from tinder?
>>83274485Sexual validation considering I lacked it all my life. I don't even know of a single girl who had a crush on me throughout growing up. No one ever admitted "oh I found you cute in 6th grade" or some shit like that. I get it from my girlfriend, yes, but unfortunately its not a quality thing for me, its a quantity thing. I've known my personality was always good enough to keep people around, it was always the initial attraction that I've never had success with until my gf.
>>83274576Ah yes. I hadn't understood-- you're using tinder for SEXUAL validation. Never mind, you're not an NPC: I can tell I'm in the presence of a real red-blooded male! A bona fide Casanova!
>>83274636Where the fuck else would I get it then genius? I don't feel like repeating myself so read >>83274293 . Call it immoral, call it weak, call it NPC behavior, I don't give a damn. It's been something that's been eating away at me since before I got into a relationship and I don't think it ever would have gone away either. It was just one of those things for me.
>>83274056wow jesus must be fucking real because someone said so, funny
>>83274658I did not call it immoral or weak (recall: 'Morals aside,'). Actually I suspect the root of the sexual malaise that caused you to cheat is an intellectual deficit of which you are vaguely aware, and this is why you're projecting onto me with that sarcastic remark. You have an impoverished theory of mind and a degree of narcissism that anesthetizes you to your girlfriend's affection. Probably it is not so impoverished as to provide immunity from the fact that when she shows affection to you now she is humiliating herself. Que pena!
>>83274802>Probably it is not so impoverished as to provide immunity from the fact that when she shows affection to you now she is humiliating herself.Women deserve this and worse, you are a simp if you disagree
>>83273866Personally rather than cheating, by now I would have overwhelmed my fat gf with a 10/10 personality with affection such that she would have gotten bored of it, slowly broken up with me in her head by being tired and less responsive, and finally get asked "do you still like me", responding yes to her, to which she says she doesn't and that it's time we part ways but she still kind of loves me.
>>83275008I tried this but it didn't work, then I gave up and just got distant and mean with her and that didn't work either, now I just engage with her 90% mechanically in order to not lose my easy scheduled weekly fuck meanwhile cheating on her. This is not a foolproof solution and you can easily wind up with a girl who feels really attached to you and "close" but also kind of disgusted with you.
>>83275017>This is not a foolproof solutionI am consistently obsessive and off putting in a very specific way. It's like there's a negative return to the girl's attraction to me the more time we spend together and it happens every time. You should dom her into domming you as a side project. Make her make you eat her out, have her pin you by the wrists, call her mommy and so forth
>>83274920>deserveunderage b&
>>83275057>You should dom her into domming you as a side project. Make her make you eat her out, have her pin you by the wrists, call her mommy and so forthVery plausible shit anon, I might do this
>>83273866You're a massive piece of shit and I hope she finds out.
