>be me>28>father diagnosed with cancer back in March>chemo has turned him into a ghost of himself>used to fix everything, now needs help with everything>sit with him every night while he sleeps more than talks>miss the lectures and bad jokes more than I thought possible>don't know how to say goodbye, so I keep saying "you're going to be alright" insteadWhat should I do to carry his legacy, robots?! Or I am doing it already. Sorry as I'm a complete sperg.
>>83277793haven't lost my father, but maybe he already knows he's leaving and is just hoping for you to say goodbye, or that you're gonna miss him.Maybe you don't even have to say so. Just let him know he will be missed and that he was the best father you could ever had.I hope you get over this sooner than later, when it finally happens.Remember missing someone is part of life and must not tear your world apart, even if that person is your father
>>83277793Is your father terminally ill? He might have chemo brain so he can't think properly because of the chemo. When my mum died from cancer and doctors stopped giving her chemo because it was hopeless, my mum suddenly became sharp minded again, even though she was set to die soon. My dad survived cancer and during chemo he was ridiculously unresponsive and comatose but he regained most of his cognition once the chemo ended.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-chemotherapy_cognitive_impairment
>>83277793So sorry to hear that OP. I'm terrified of it happening to my dad someday. You sound like you're doing everything you possibly could just by being there with him. He's a man, he knows you might not have the words.
