>>83437179
It's often forgotten in the pop Stoicism of today, but the Stoics were ethical naturalists and the entire reason for their emphasis on emotional control was so that you could fulfill your duties and obligations to the gods and society. The opposite of being a pushover

>>83437179
>Pushovers
Affect, not react
>Stoics
React, not affect

Things happen, and the stoics faced them head-on anyway
Because what else can you do?

My Dad is an example of a pushover who believed he was stoic
with my "step mom" or his long term gf he would let her say basically anything to me and my siblings and just stand by watching it happen. If he was confronted about this by anyone he would say he was being "reasonable" and not looking to start any conflict. He was a coward hiding behind this idea of being the level headed reasonable one, but had zero principles.

Not standing up, and not having principles is not stoicism. It's cowardice. Conflict is a natural part of life and should only be avoided if you have literally nothing to gain from it.

>>83437179
You have to be ASSERTIVE to get the things that you want!

>>83437179
simple - boundaries. Cry if you're going to cry, but once you have your wits about you then you can change whatever it is that hurts. If it's a perseon and they're making you feel bad you go "hey, that makes me feel bad." they go "oh okay." If they keep doing it you're all "if you keep doing that I'm going to remove myself from the situation" and they go "oh okay." if they keep coming after you and you have to defend yourself then that's showbiz, baby. A pushover would yield or bend before any of these thresholds happen - they wouldn't change something they don't like, tell people how they feel, be willing to remove themselves from a situation, or stand their ground against someone who means them harm.

>>83437179
Psychopathic schizo is master race.