>told by mom to look at the ground and don't look people in the eye my whole life to avoid conflict >35 years later>realize eye contact is 90% of human connection and conversation>you immediately realize if people like you or not (especially women) by just looking at their eyes and facial expressionsFuck my narcissistic, crazy, manipulative mom
>>83438472I only learned we are supposed to make eye contact in high school when the philosophy teacher, during one of her rambles, made a remark about how "we must be brave enough to look people in the eye" while looking at me. And by learning I mean I began staring people intensely in the eye with a resting bitch face because I've never learned how to smile. As an adult, more and more people show their displeasure with that, so I started toning it down and looking somewhere else. Now I can't maintain eye contact and always look at peoples chests, which is unacceptable too.
>>83438788I was like this too. You have to learn how to smile. Maybe it's because my life got better that my facial expressions changed. I had RBF until last year when I started a new job. I had bad luck at my last job and everyone complained that I was an asshole and I had a bunch of meetings with higher ups about it until I finally left. My new job was so much better and I really didn't want to build the same reputation I had at every other place. So I went out of my way to smile and be nice to everyone and everyone was really nice back. Eventually it just became a natural habit every time I went to work. It does help I'm not around shitty, lazy people who are out to ruin your day. I'm still pretty autistic and sometimes rub people the wrong way, but nowhere what it use to be
>>83438472She walled quick but GOD she was peak