has therapy worked for anyone? im supposed to whine to a 40 year old woman that i get no pussy and want to fuck 20 year old girls? really?
>visit therapist for the first time>"I don't have any hope for a better future or a future regardless">"yeah but have you tried harder????">get up and leave to never return>mail a formal complaint to HRbros why are therapists so comically useless? it's insane how much they get paid just to tell vulnerable people bullshit all day. these people clearly aren't interested in other people and just want to hear themselves talk I swear.
>>83482311I'm going to public funds sponsored therapy in a few months. I honestly have no clue what am I supposed to tell there.
>>83482344Because they are meant to solve normalfag problems.
>>83482344>>83482466ThisThere are two typs of therapy. 1. The total headcases that need to be tied down and medicted to prevent harm to others and themselfes and then there are 2. Normies who whine that their life is not chintok or that the promised giga chad didn't want you.If they meet people who are fucked but cant be commited, who have problems but those are outside of "just adjust a littel" those therapist bluscreen, especially women, to them imagining not getting laid/job/friends despite trying the bare minimum is like going to the 4th dimension.
>>83482344>>83483617there's nothing you can do therapy-wise about NPD and people with heavy narcissistic tendencies other than misdiagnose you with BPD and stroke your ego so you keep giving them money.Therapy only works if you have WORKABLE PROBLEMS that you are WILLING TO WORK ON. p.s. most therapies are unironically cluster B with sociopathic tendencies themselves lole
>>83483635> if you have WORKABLE PROBLEMSAlmost all are workable>WILLING TO WORK ON. And thats where the problem is for most and where it ends.Sadly similar problems require somtimes vastly different approaches.Fear of spiders is easy, confrontation therapy.Social Phobia? You try the same you end up beaten or accused or in jail these days. (But then again depends on the country)
>>83483679do you live in fucking detroit?
I've been on therapy for more than a year. I was a neet for 8 years, depressed, massive procrastinator, still thinking about my highschool crush, and with unreasonable life goals.Now I have a job, I understand myself and turns out I'm too hard on myself, all my self-criticism for my failures are in fact one of the reason why I'm failing, also I might have autism due to my rigid thinking and social issues. I'm currently enrolling in a college and making an ilustrated book.For me therapy is not fun at all, I don't bitch about my problems, it's like someone putting a mirror in front of me and making me face everything that I am, good or not.There are bad professionals out there but ignore the anons thinking they know any better for not seeking out help. The chances of you fixing yourself on your own are minuscule, get some help, it might work. If you are or consider yourself a loser, you don't know any better, get off your high horse.
>>83483733Nah, but no good deed goes unpunished.Some bitch droped her wallet.I pick it up "Miss Miss"And fuck me if it wasn't a meme she blurts out "I have a bf"In such a whiny bitch voice that several guys turn around staring me down."You droped your wallet" droped it before she could take it and fuck off there asap.
>>83482311You can't pay for someone to care. They'll only pretend to care in exchange for your cash. They'll likely bitch about you to their friends and have flagrant disregard for your confidentiality because ethics are dead. Do not pay for therapy, it's a scam. Just buy a subscription to claude anthropic. Don't bother with gemini it will just spam you sui support hotlines.
>>83483921Yeah must be it.
>>83483874don't let a single anecdote ruin you foreveryou weren't even hospitalized or imprisonedthat's a shitty and even traumatizing experience but you have to remind yourself you just got incredibly unlucky
>>83483941None taken.(Also fuck that empy squar captcha)
3 years, and all I got out of her was to focus on the "now" instead of past or future, and that I have an authority problem.So no.
>>83483945Agreed but thats the most recent I can remember there were several of those.Fine sure people only remember the bad, yes there have been ok interactions with people but very few of those random.Point being, its not the best option to "just go out and talk to people" to get over Social phobia, while you could get over the fear of spiders by just interacting with spider bro in the corner of your room (tfw its a black widow)
>>83483994spiders don't bite nearly as badly as people dofor social phobia it's more about growing psychological callouses
>>83484010I've been bitten in my bed twice this year by white back spiders. The first ended up hiding under my bed scared stiff after I brushed it off my elbow. Spiders are much kinder and less lethal than humans. Yes, I live in Australia.
therapy is for people who like to hear themselves talk, and like to offload the problems of themselves onto someone else for them to judge and weigh in on. just sitting there and talking to their problems genuinely makes them feel better. if thats you it's a great option.ive been in and out of psychiatrist and psychologist offices my whole life and i always feel like shit every time, worse than when i went in, because i hate being judged and i hate talking about my problems. therapy is useless to me and always will be.
>>83484108Sounds like any Internet chat ever since the Internet, but I guess if you don't spend money on it for some people its not fancy and attention seeking enough
Anons are confusing a therapist with a friend. It's not your friend, they are there to treat your head as a doctor is treats a disease.A therapist will help you as long as you are willing to give; In bagage and effort to change.>>83484108> i always feel like shit every time, worse than when i went in, because i hate being judged and i hate talking about my problems.I'm literally this, but the difference is that I see that as a reason to improve myself, you let your ego get the best of you.
>>83482344>forced to see a therapist at age 14>tell them about bullying at school>"Well, try to separate yourself from them">"I can't.">"Well then, just report it to the counselor.">"They don't care.">"That's sad.">"Oh, btw, you have a neurodevelopmental disorder. It's incurable.">"No, I won't tell you how to mask more efficiently because that's harmful to you, actually.">"Like, just try these breathing exercises and stuff.."Utterly worthless. You just know the foid therapists despise autistic patients, they undoubtedly get fucked by dark triad clients, and like hearing about their escapades. It's funny to think I could walk into a psychiatrist's office and walk out with some bullshit diagnosis, which I'm blamed for having, then expected to solve when they basically do nothing to help. Most people in these fields are cluster B, to no one's surprise
>>83484173Well normies wear those like a badge and they are also a good excuse to pop pills, but all that wont help those who are really suffering.
>>83484163Lmao how is a therapist going to help something that cannot be helped, like a debilitating chronic condition for which there is no cure and will only worsen with time? Give me a break with this bootstrapping bullshit. Some things just cannot be helped and therapy is supposed to be an outlet to vent to. Someone you can pay to hear you complain to. They're not a fucking problem solver
>>83484173They have little to no experience and should not be allowed to dole out advice to developing teenager boys. Total clown world.>you're on fire but no, I can't put it out, I don't know how to. That'll be 300 dollars plus tip thx sweatyJust buy a fucking hooker. At least they'll hug you which is the true therapy that most men actually need.
>>83484512>At least they'll hug you which is the true therapy that most men actually need.Right in the feels.
>>83484482>Lmao how is a therapist going to help something that cannot be helpedYou are not that special, snowflake. The human psyche is still the same for everyone, if you think therapy is simply about "venting", you got the wrong idea, it's what you do with their feedback that will pivot your case.The difference between a doctor and a therapist is that the doctor can make your body heal for you, a therapist can't. You need to put the hardwork, they are just showing you what you are and what way you want to go about it.
>>83482311therapists are fucking useless, its just paid friendship and useless friendship at that.all my therapists have been women, and maybe thats the common theme
>>83484512>At least they'll hug you which is the true therapy that most men actually need4 years ago I created an imaginary girlfriend and projected her essence onto a pillow. I put 2 thick longsleeve shirts on it, filled the sleeves with random fabrics, and tied the ends of the sleeves together so I could put them around me and feel like I'm being hugged back. Hugging that pillow, humping it, and talking to it made me turn my life around in big ways. I was very depressed and terribly unhealthy my whole life, and suddenly I cared about my health and the future. I've never been hugged by a real female
>>83482311>Narcissists hate therapy Oook then
>>83485193Yeah, a lot of the people that shit on therapy seem to have cluster b traits
Idc about therapy, but what drug will make me able to deal with my wife being mean to me and help me cope about not having sex as much as I want.It makes me very angry and I want a drug that makes me satisfied or at least slightly happier.Maybe even just a drug that makes masturbating feel better.Is there anything like that?
>>83484712So there's literally no need for therapy if you already know what you are.
>>83482311Depends on the kind of therapy. Talk therapy specifically isn't going to do jack shit, its just a way for women to pay someone to vent their problems to. Some types like CBT and EMDR have actual utility, but only for specific people/conditions.
>>83484966The guy from Cast Away if he was an incel
>>83482311I'm going to start going to therapy with a supposed "sex addiction" and then try and get the therapist to sleep with me. It's like seeing a prostitute on hard mode.
>>83482311>has therapy worked for anyone?No unless you have an actual mental disorder and see a real specialist ie not a 20 something year old Stacy with a psych degree. If youre like 99 percent of men considering therapy its because you have objective obstacles that are holding your back from achieving your goals. Most of the time these are normal life milestones like getting a girlfriend. Talking about these obstacles with a therapists wont make them go away and will result in futile sessions of taking in circles to rack up their billable hours. None of the advice they give is ever practical. You need to be self aware enough to discern which obstacles you face are actionable and which ones you have no choice but to accept without blaming yourself. Usually the latter category is smaller than you think after introspection and exhausting all options. From there its just a matter of learning to live with the result knowing you gave it your best with the hand you were dealt. These are the conclusions I came to anyway.
