Genuinely how fucked am I if I can't even talk to people in games like vrchat? Apparently it's so easy to make friends there, but yet it's borderline impossible to find a single person to talk to. So lately I decided that groups or discords would be better for it but my retarded self can't even join their group events because of how anxious I am. And so I decided today that maybe there's such thing as a friend finder or looking for group thing for it and I was able to stumble on pay to play with me platforms sooner than I was able to find a single thing like that. I really really wish my computer couldn't run this game because now I feel like an even bigger loser than I already am
its fine, OP. We can be socially dysfunctional together and just watch the others have fun. After a bit it feels not too bad.
>>83483520i wouldnt say its easy to make friends on vrchat (and in general) considering everyone there already is usually in groups and also its filled with normalfags. sometimes you see vrchat threads here on r9k and i think you could try those, the anons there are nice and usually socially stunted like most here. i hope you can find some friends soon anon
Resonite is the superior virtual reality platform.
do NOT add that chicken. there is a lot crazy drama surrounding them even for r9k standards. you have been warned. stay safe OP
Sorry I'm used to my threads not getting any replies so I don't check them often>>83483916Watching others have fun could be fun, but having fun ourselves would be better don't you think? But hey maybe it just takes time to open up a bit even in a game like that>>83483983It isn't really a game it's more just irl socializing but online so unfortunately I guess it does mirror irl that way. I've attended a few of those r9k ones they are oddly the only time I can chat with people or even join private worlds and feel comfortable oddly enough. Thanks I'm sure if I give it enough of a go and realize that I'll probably never see the people in game again and just try talking I can get out of this rut, but it's scary>>83484063I don't actually have vr yet. I'd be incredibly upset with myself if I had spent all that money just to get on and leave super sad>>83484075I don't really care for drama but I'm familiar with them and even before knowing about the drama, real or not, didn't really think of adding them
>>83484882why do women do this dumb shit where they blogpost and respond to every single reply
No idea because I'm not a woman :^)
>>83483520>Genuinely how fucked am I if I can't even talk to people in games like vrchat? i don't think it's that fucked anon, socialising is socialising in the end of the dayeasier does not translate to easy, many people may find it easier to socialise in vrchat as it's kind of simplified in a way compared to real life, no facial features to read, no eyes to track, there's always an escape option with leaving/blockingbut it's still talking to peope, it's still socialisingin vrchat you can easily run into the same problem that many people experience in the real world, which is struggling to find an inif you see someoen standing alone in silence, it can be difficult to approach them and start speaking as the silence can increase the pressure and make you feel exceptionally awkwardif there's a group of people talking and laughing, it can be difficult to approach them as you may feel like you're interrupting or unable to find a gap to slip intoi'm someone who's quite confident these days yet i still find myself feeling unable to open my mouth a lot of the time, so i struggle to remember or imagine how difficult it can bein the early days you're usually quite reliant on people making an effort to pull you in, but even then it can be difficult to engage with them as having strangers approach and start talking to you can put you under a lot of pressure and introduce performance anxietybut the more you do it, the more you expose yourself and survive, the more you practice, the more you learn the easier it'll getand yet again, easier does not mean easyat first you may see a group of people start talking about something you have knowledge of, you may feel like you can add to the conversation, but find yourself unable to push past that barrier and engagebut the next time you find yourself in a similar situation, coming to the same conclusion that you could say something while regretting that you didn't last time, it may make it easier to take that step
>>83483520For me, voice chat is like 1000x harder than talking to someone IRL. It just doesn't feel natural to me. I also hate talking on the phone and often stay silent which freaks people out. This is why it's hard for me to make friends online because I just want to text chat forever while everyone else wants to VC and I hate it.
>>83483520I was like you, OP, what helped me was talking to other losers, I'm still not completely fine voice chatting with people, but I'm capable of it.
>>83483520If someone could post some vrchat threads more often I would hop on instantly and say hey to everyone. My only issue is making friends. I cant help but once someone gets close to me my fight or flight response kicks in and I fight myself to run away and eventually I do by making up a lie and leaving or turning my headset off. My heart races and I feel guilty every time but I want to do better. I am always down to talk with others. I get song well with everyone just keeping them as a friend makes me nervous and stuff.
I am chickn and I'm a woman!!! Op used gender neutral pronouns for me because they believe the claims that I'm a catfish.
