I am talking to (e-dating?) a guy I met online (here actually) and most of the time I find myself just sitting there quietly and then I realize I'm not saying enough which makes me nervous which makes it harder to think of things to say and then I feel awful. What do I do??? It's been so long since I had friends, I have nothing in common with anyone anymore. No spark, no chemistry. How do you do it? How do you make friends? How do you connect with another person? I'm so tired of being awkward and boring.
>>83496143oh wow a woman acknowledging she sucks at communicatingI really wish any of the fucking girls I've DM'd in the past year had the tiniest spark of introspection you just showed
>>83496143How does a guy from r9k end up communicating with a girl like you? I want an r9k or at least a 4chan adjacent gf but I don't even know how to talk to them and establish communication when we're all anonymous
>>83496146Thanks anon. I guess I'm glad I'm aware of it, although it's hard not to be. It's gone on this way for so long. It seems like it's super easy for most people to do what they do which makes the whole thing hurt more. What are the girls you dm usually like? >>83496154I wish I knew, nonny. I actually met him on soc so that might be a better place to start although I generally prefer the anons on here. I doubt you're doing anything wrong, though. I think it's a very difficult issue and I hope someday things will change and it will become easier for people to find love.
>>83496143If there was something else I liked about you then this wouldn't matter to me because all I'd want to do is what the cat and dog are doing on the couch there. Maybe he's the same way.
>>83496143>I am talking to (e-dating?)Hello 14 yr old old how are you today. There are many groomers waiting for you on discord.
>>83496390when did discord get this reputation and 4chan lose it?
>>83496143God I wish you were the fembot I was speaking to. If you really are M then just say hello, honestly I've been putting on a bit of a safe act and don't know how to drop it now.
>>83496143I've talked to (and e-dated) countless of girls like you. They all went from text only shyness to full on yapping in voice chat. It's not your fault for feeling this way and it's not your responsibility (Incels seething). He is supposed to create a safe environment for you to talk freely without feeling anxious. This will take time, but if it's been over a month I wouldn't waste time on him anymore as it won't happen.>>83496411M is a massive slut and e-dating 5+ robots at a time, check the letter thread, sorry fren.
>>83496379That's a sweet thought. I certainly hope there is! We'll see how it works out, I guess. We've talked about meeting up in person (so that's a good sign) and when we do we can recreate cat and dog cuddle time. Can I ask you something, though? What else is there to like about a person? It seems like not a lot matters if whoever you're talking to can't "show you a good time," if you know what I mean. As in, no matter how smart or interesting you are (not that I am either of those things) it really doesn't matter if you are unable to express yourself in a pleasant way. Do you see what I mean?
>>83496568>He is supposed to create a safe environment for you to talk freely without feeling anxiousNot OP but even if your advice is nice, I think this should go both ways. If you put all the responsibility on him, he'll be the one who ends up feeling anxious as well.
>>83496390Hello hello :D Oh to be 14!>>83496411I'm not M but I hope you get what you're asking for, anon. What's the story? Do you mind? Come back M! Anon needs to speak to you!>>83496568>They all went from text only shyness to full on yapping in voice chat. How did you do it? Hmm. It's been a few months but I'm pretty certain any awkwardness is my fault because I'm like this with everyone. He seems a little bit shy himself but he has lots of nice friends who he's able to talk to so I'm not sure what exactly I'm doing wrong. I know I'm doing SOMETHING. It's tough when you know you suck at something but you can't figure out why.
>>83496639>he'll be the one who ends up feeling anxious as wellThen he shouldn't date someone like him. He should find a bubbly extroverted girl to make him feel safe. Opposites attract for a reason. When you have two anxious homebodies, who will tell the waiter they fucked up your order?>How did you do it?By not pushing them to do things. By being laid back, introducing her to my world, showing her things I like, yapping about my hobbies, wearing my heart on my sleeve you know?>I know I'm doing SOMETHING.Nah, don't overthink it. I'm sure he's a nice guy, but sometimes there's just no chemistry or spark. The best thing you can do is move on and let him find a girl that clicks with him.
>>83496642>What's the story?M added me after I made post on soc, I really like her and want to be more of myself around her, but I'm worried about pushing her away. I think I came off way more mature and put together than I actually am (I'm actually a midwit clown that wants to talk about irrelevant culture war things or the porn addiction to sissy pipeline) and now it feels like that first impression is limiting how we interact.
