I'm in love with a guy (I'm a cis girl).we met on the internet but live close by we were on 3 dates but we didn't do much. he doesn't have any irl friends except for me. we're both depressed and don't see a future. we talk about double suicide. I changed my makeup, my style, my hair and personality for him but it seems like he's not as obsessed as me. I tolerate his jokes about racism and rape. how do I make him want me more?ik I wouldn't be as in love if he wasn't tall and attractive lol
>>83502911Lehoty slarl thead
Typical LTB being hypergamous for a HTN expecting a relationship. Neck yourself, useless clump of cells
>>83502911>I changed my makeup, my style, my hair and personality for him but it seems like he's not as obsessed as me. I tolerate his jokes about racism and rape.BPD alarm is going off...
>>83502911Find out his fetishes and perform them for him. You can even find out casually by talking about hentai games or something. Make it seem casual to talk about weird sexual stuff and then ask him if he played any games like that.
>>83502947I was only diagnosed with depression and anxiety, if I had bpd someone would have noticed
>>83502952we talked about euphoria the first time we called lol.I watched it and he watched and played it so do I just let him abuse me? :<
>>83502911Idk why you'd ever change everything about yourself for a man. But I want a man too, and I don't want to have to do this. But my ex friend's have said they don't see why any man would want me, that I was loud, annoying, bad at socializing, and a pushover. I don't want to change myself, but do you think it's what I'll have to do?
>>83502954>if I had bpd someone would have noticedYeah I'm noticing it.
>>83502987As a compromise I'll be your man if you agree to lower the volume a bit, loud people are hard to deal with because of my autism. You can keep the other stuff.
>>83503010I can't tell when I'm being loud though, I don't mean to be. Suddenly people will just point out in the middle of me talking that I'm suddenly getting louder, but it'll feel the same volume to me.
>>83502961Well first I'd try checking if that's really his fetish, or he's just playing that cause he's an edgy woman hater.Then second, try roleplaying. Basically most aspects of a fetish are mental. If you can create the scenario in his head that makes him feel like he's abusive you, he might not need to actually do it. Though you have to be really careful and communicate about boundaries if things get serious.
>>83503053What if I just turn your ear a bit like it's a volume knob?
>>83503057hm he jokes about kidnapping me is that good? I kinda play into it to make him feel powerful or whatever. also I ordered clothes he liked. hopefully he'll like me then.
>>83502911>I changed my makeup, my style, my hair and personality for himLmao. Typical npd move.
>>83503097If he's joking about kidnapping you, it sounds like he's into you already?Maybe he's just depressed and worried about investing emotionally into someone. Did you two escalate physically at all? Before I got my first GF I was very avoidant of closeness cause I had no experience and performance anxiety. Her being very forward with wanting to cuddle first and sex after, while being humorous when something didn't go as planned helped me a lot open up.
>>83502995Ur dumb as shit. Probably even underage. Maybe even bpd yourself
>>83502952Bullshit, just ask him why he hasn't kissed you yet.
>>83503148that could be. sorry I tend to think someone hates me very fast especially if I like them. maybe I just need to give it some timeand I'll keep the cuddles in mind lol
>itt>12 year old g*rl asks virgins for dating adviceRotflmao
>I changed out I look for him!Why the fuck do women do this.If he wasn't interested in you before, he probably won't be later (first impressions made)If he was interested in you before, you probably nerfed your appearance in his eyes.Besides that, if you think your appearance is the only thing attracting him to you, it's already over for you.>jokes about racismThey're not jokes.>jokes about rapeProbably just jokes.This post is my good deed for the day so heed it well. I assure you, if you want to attract a man's attention (beyond the initial meeting, where sure looks are important) stop focusing on looks. Bake him something and invite him over for a meal, start gardening and growing flowers and talk about it, tell him you're doing a home project and want his help (and don't actually be incompetent like most other women), whatever. But "teehee I spent money on things you consider useless like hair or nails! Doesn't this make you want to marry me and give me access to your wallet so I can waste even more money?!" isn't it.
