Are some anons fine with it? Do you think you just have to be built different to tolerate it? For the past 6 years I've been able to tolerate the NEET part and honestly am fine with it. Only in the past 2 years has the isolation part really hit. It only gets really depressing when I am not distracted by some media escapism and am bored like right now. Should I really just DO something productive to feel better?
>>83506073Everyone who claims to be fine after isolation is lying and coping about it.
>>83506073I used to cope with it fine early on, but in the past year or so I've really begun to feel the loneliness. Mainly due to most of my online friends moving on in life and any communities decaying as people stop participating. I used to be one NEET amongst many, but it seems they all started school, got jobs, got gfs and so on.I have no idea how to escape NEETdom, and I have no inclination to figure it out. I've had jobs, I've gone to school, and it all made my life arguably worse. I may be painfully alone and isolated like this, but at least I avoid the drama and turmoil of trying to lead a normal life.
>>83506073>Should I really just DO something productive to feel better?You're a NEET, you don't own the means of production, what would you even produce
>>83506075I'd maybe agree at this point. I've lost everyone except my parents who tolerate me NEETing but I'm not even close with them really. They just don't know or understand that once they are gone I probably wont have anything left to live for. It's not like I want to burden them with this knowledge either. I'm on borrowed time really.
>>83506108yeah it gets painful because you will probably have some online friends, usually younger than you, talking about their lives and you will feel like they are older than you when they are 3 or 4 years younger. you feel totally stunted.
Hey so like I'm not a neet so I just wanted to ask, what made you become a neet?
>>83506073It's lack of stimulation. Watching anime or playing vidya isn't enough after awhile. You need a change of environment.If I stay inside while isolated, I start to bedrot and sleep off any bad feelings. If I go outside for a walk - even to do the most basic shit, I don't have those feelings. That's how I've learned to cope.
>>83506073Weed used to help me cope, now I don't even get any dopamine from weed due to tolerance, just anxiety and brain fog.
ive been a neet for a decade and its at the point where im completely used for it and cant imagine working as something even possible for me but at the same time i feel completely restless and like i need to stop being a neet now but have no way of getting to a normal life, no car, no way to get a job.
>>83506073i wish i could be a isolated neet but things are not that simple sadly
>>83506108>Mainly due to most of my online friends moving on in life and any communities decaying as people stop participatingI've been going through a similar thing except it was my childhood friends that moved on in life and we don't relate anymore so I basically ghosted after we grew apart. Are you looking for any anons to talk to? I can try if you want. I've cut everyone off because they are living relatively normal lives. >>83506111By productive I just mean any small thing. Honestly something as simple as cleaning my room or offering help to family with house cleaning. With my mind frame right now I just see it s pointless though. >>83506126>what made you become a neet?I gave up I guess and not even because of failure or lack of luck. I'm only 24 but even as early as 5th grade I just didn't want to play the game. Back then I just wanted to play videogames and now I just want to be terminally online and watch endless streams of content that interests me. As I am now I'm not sure if I can connect with another human because of isolation.
>>83506160Don't. It's not as good as you think it sounds. Cut off any social connection and it's going to be way harder to climb out. You'll have nothing to live for.
>>83506176i already have nothing to live for anon. however being alone all the time as an autist is impossible to resist. with how things are going i don't want to live anyways. neeting might change that for a bit however
>>83506142>Watching anime or playing vidya isn't enough after awhile. You need a change of environment.I get you're probably right but it sucks so much ass. I figure I do need to do something but I don't know what anymore. Small things are just that SMALL. There is no greater goal other than surviving through leeching to me. Because of this I might as well remain isolated within a support system like my tolerant parents.
>>83506160I have the opposite problem where everyone ghosts me nonstop. I'm the only person ever initiating contact and it's only loose shit for a small time until ghosting again.It's so fucking tiresome and it feels like there's something deeply wrong with me if nobody ever wants to talk to me.
>>83506168Do U plan on staying a neet anon?
>>83506192its not as good as its sounds. when i need something like help to move forward nobody wants to talk. when somebody feels bad one day i am the punching bag. such is life neeting at your families place.
>>83506154I'm drinking and smoking everyday and even that is getting boring. It's honestly only fun if I have some escapism media to entertain me. Alchohol and weed on it's own just makes my brain think about the future and how hopeless I a when my parents can't support my NEET life anymore. >>83506156> no way of getting to a normal life, no car, no way to get a job.I don't even understand how people figure this shit out in the first place. It's all more work and responsibility. How the fuck could anyone WANT to deal with this?
>>83506217everyone i know who is successful either had middle class parents who supported them and helped them or they completely rejected their parents from an early age and tortured themselves until they achieved independance and if you dont have that resilience you fall into neetdom.
>>83506194I plan to for as long as possible for now I guess. I've just been coasting through shit since 2016 when I became one. I can only be one since I have people that at least handle adult shit for me. Everything about being an adult just makes me want to kill myself. >job>car>taxesThere is no point in doing anything beyond basic survival.
How do you even meet people? I was lonely as a neet because I was too insecure to talk to anyone. Now I have a basic wagie job and I have never been as lonely and miserable, can't make friends there, I go home and lie in bed unil the next day, I even went to group therapy only to learn you are banned from ever talking to the people outside of it.desu I would be fine with one friend if it was a clingy obsessive gf.
>>83506241theres no good answer on how to meet people other than you just have to keep taking chances until you find someone who gets you. chances of this happening at a wagie job is almost 0 because you are not a normie. discord worked for me.
>>83506260Legit how does discord work. I like gardening. What do I put in to find a gardening discord server in my locality. It seems to me discord is built for circlejerkstalk to me like I am socially retarded because I am, I have lived a life of complete social withdrawal and isolation.
>>83506241>How do you even meet people?If you're not a fan of going outsides like me then I guess online. It's a fucking gamble though. For normies it's like you either properly socialize in early school life, later in high school or college, or a job. Surprisingly It's hard to find some loner NEET on this fucking website and I've tried. I don't blame them though. I imagine it's rare for lonely losers that are scared of people but still want human connection to actually connect which sucks.
>>83506278there is disboard which has a bunch of 'public' discord servers for various things, but i think the problem with it is people treat such servers as very disposable because they are public, you will not find people forming lasting friendships on there, its like going to the bar hoping to find the love of your life, makes no sense.youll have better luck finding lasting relationships through private or semi-private groups. for me it was WoW guilds, easy to get into at first but as people familiarize themselves with eachother an in-group develops and you become familiar with eachother beyond just the mutual hobby, this can also snowball with friends introducing you to their friends and suddenly you have a friend group. But first of all you need some kind of link or reason to talk to other people in private spaces.
>>83506073I would've been fine with it if I was rich. But I'm not. So I'm sort of miserable. I deal with it by coping.
>>83506278NTA but >>83506299 has a point. I've tried them and it's just chaos. Maybe by luck you could find one at the right place at the right time if you keep trying but it's unlikely. Only 2 true lonely anons really willing to put in the effort of getting to know the other and help them can maybe connect. It's sad really. As op I didn't expect this many anons to reply to this thread. In another life some of us could've already know eachother and shared the same struggles intimately.
>>83506279I don't mind going outside. In fact I am much better at talking to people irl. Idk, maybe I am pretty or charming. I don't have issues with stuff like talking to the cashier or my boss at work, I have issues forming bonds. I just don't. At school people went from strangers to best friends while I remained alone.>>83506299>>83506343Damn, it's like in that parable>For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.
>>83506362the whole world is full of these kind of positive feedback loops, the more something happens, the more it happens. this is how you have chads who have everything and stuff keeps happening for them and chuds who have nothing and cant make anything happen. you just gotta get your fire going.
>>83506073>Should I really just DO something productive to feel better?Yes. Draw, paint, assemble miniatures, do a puzzle, read a book, go for a walk innawoods/park, do some pushups/pullups/squats. Creating something / taking care of yourself helps. Look up your local community activities, is the church doing stuff (here they run woodoworking club and other similar, there's community volunteer work like helping the elderly and you can get help as well, like a friend that will visit/call you :3), are there clubs/support groups, volunteer work etc. Where I live there's pretty good 3rd sector support services and stuff to do. Poorfags like me can get free courses at the community school-thing and there's all sort from woodworking to knifemaking to cooking and farming lol.Connecting with your local community and meeting people helps you not feel so isolated and disconnected. Being a NEET is okay, even fun up until it isn't and the isolation and lack of purpose/direction hits HARD. Generally only true autismburgers can really manage and be content being neets, most people are normies deep down and we crave social contact, we want to do stuff/create and do/enjoy "normal" things.And it doesn't have to be all at once or every day, just a few hours a week can make a big difference :3
>>83506142Yep, you basically use up your dopamine but don't do anything that 'recharges' it. Just walking a few miles everyday does wonders.
>>83506156>t at the same time i feel completely restless and like i need to stop being a neet now but have no way of getting to a normal lifeI would seek out community schooling/courses and anything else community work/colunteering/support groups & clubs. These can help you to get a grip on "normal" life and find a bit more purpose, perhaps even work or a career you'd want to pursue.Its not easy but challenging yourself even a bit is what we need, everyday being the same with zero challenge is not good in the long-term. Even if normie life is not realistic finding stuff you like to do and socialising a bit is good stuff imo. Also where I live there's International Clubhouse which is amazing for neet-types, though sadly I have heard mixed stuff about them elsewhere, like in the US :d
>>83506362>I have issues forming bondsThis is what I probably struggle with the most now. I can tolerate interacting with strangers for a short time but intimacy seems like a foreign concept to me now. >For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.I'm not even sure what strengths I possesses anymore. I may have the mental and physical ability to do some things but not the will.
>>83506428>Go outside >Connect with peopleAnon you don't understand I can't just do these things as if it were as simple as getting out of bed when I wake up. It's not like I don't comprehend your suggestions but it's like you might as well be telling me to become a rocket scientist. > Generally only true autismburgers can really manage and be content being neets, most people are normies deep down and we crave social contact, we want to do stuff/create and do/enjoy "normal" things.I want to rid myself of normie desires. All I want to matter to me is being content in isolation as a NEET at this point. I thought I could tolerate it but it get's really fucking hard when I am bored and not trapped in escapisms. I am only posting here because it's a good enough filter for human interaction. In person intimacy seems like an impossible feat but it wont fucking go away from my mind and I hate it.
>>83506459been thinking of volunteering in a hospital or shelter. How tolerant are the people there of spergs with no social skills? Do you have any experience?I've managed to tone down my stammering through exposure. I am just completely impersonal and blunt. I don't know how to react when normies try to make small talk and I sometimes go quiet. I do especially terrible in groups because people would rather talk with eachother than me.
>>83506241>clingy obsessive gfits a reddit meme, dont fall for that
>>83506075>>83506073I'm a NEET after 30 years of miserable wageslave and schoolslave... Unironically these last 2 years have been the happiest I have ever been. (Except maybe 2009. I used to be popular for a year in highschool. Shit was awesome) I just relax all day, don't worry about a damn thing. I sit aback and think how lucky I am to have such a good life.I can see why people get depressed, but you have to live 30 years of mysery to see the blessings.But here's my advice:1.(most important) have money. It's not possible to be happy and broke.2.don't polute your time with negativity. No politics, no racism, no bickering online. Watch funny/wholesome videos. I actually have 2 different accounts on yt. One for when I want to comment mean stuff and the other to have a good time3.exercise sometimes. Go for a walk, do some yoga4. eat different food, eat healthy, eat delicious stuff that makes you happy5. Groom yourself, shower, do skin care, hair products. Sure, nobody cares, but it not only gives you a routine, but it does makes you feel better6. Only consume pornography 2 times a week. If you do it daily, you will remain horny forever, never satisfied and pissed off because of the hormone imbalance7.dance to music by yourself. Laugh laudly, react to a video as if you're talking to someone.8.see the positivite side, look how beaultiful, calm and warm outside is, see kids playing, see the foliage, the wind, see people being happy, fill your life with joy and positiveness9. There's literally an infinite amount of things you can do and learn. I enjoy cooking a bit, I enjoy playing with mud, I enjoy learning a new language. When I hop from school to school or from job to job, I've seen how people are so focused on these 4 walls around them. They are mentally emprisioned. They don't realize there's a whole planet outside those walls. that's you righ now.Money fix everything
>>83506073the first few years were fine, but after the third year or so it started to get really depressing, and the usual copes stopped working. even now that im not a neet anymore and i technically do something productive (study) things still feel so boring and pointless. so I'd say if you're starting to show weakness stop and get out as soon as you can before it reaches a point of no return
>>83506763>Money fix everythingHonestly it's just this. Money just isn't free. I already get gibs for anxiety/depression/suicidal stuff but not enough to live off of. My parents basically handled it for me too. Without them I'd probably be dead already because the government and their support systems are too hard to figure out anyway. I don't get people that actually are able to scam the system but are completely mentally functional. You're whole list I basically agree with too I'm just in a content drought and am not physically active enough.
