>>83523212
my current gf is seven years older than me. dating older women is where it's at, do whatever you can do to get with her

>>83523247
Yeah I agree on that part, but she's lesbian so it's kinda null and void either way. Directly asked her out before and she said it wouldn't work out because she's into femininity.

>>83523254
i realized i left didn't address that part of your post, yeah. yeah that's a tricky one. i have a lot of thoughts on the topic as i've dealt with lesbians before but to put it plain and simple i don't spend any energy on trying to straighten out their mind in that sense if that makes sense. it's completely doable but it's really up to how hard you want to work at it. you basically summed it up, it's null and void as of right now. but you did what you could and what most men never do which is you directly asked her out. so you have no regrets on your end which is all you ever really want in my opinion. but i'd be interested to hear how you and her are further down the line

>>83523355
Unfortunately I only know her online and she's bad with DMs. I left her discord server because her friends all seem to kinda hate me for not being a woke faggot like them. Probably gonna have to just leave her alone for the time being and see if I can reconnect with her in the future. I still care about her. She's a really cool person.

>>83523379
yeah online can get extremely tricky especially in discord servers so i can understand the position you're in. if she's cool then i would definitely continue with her like you said, see what happens. i'd probably feel her out and see where she is mentally with you. if it goes in a good direction then maybe what you could do is see if you two can meet in person just as purely friends, you never know what it could turn into even with lesbians

>>83523434
Yeah. Not sure how to get her attention when she's so bad with DMs tho. I do think meeting her in person even just as friends would be cool, but she's in Cali and I'm in PNW so it's quite a distance at least for someone like me who doesn't really ever travel further than like 100 miles from home.

>>83523458
you're right. what i'd probably do is spread your efforts across a couple girls at the same time and keep her in your back pocket but maybe don't put full expectations into it for now. putting all your eggs in one basket can really play out horribly when it comes to girls if you really really like one in particular

>>83523471
Problem is I have a really hard time meeting girls because I don't really know how to interact with people irl so my only social interaction is through like video games, discord, twitter, and 4chan. She's the only girl I've really talked with at all in a long while.

>>83523499
yeah that's a multi pronged deal there on your hands. it's very common now days and it's quite an abstract situation to work yourself out of because you're obviously getting older but your socializing is remaining the same so it feels weird. what i did (and still do to improve more subtle areas which can stand out like a sore thumb otherwise) is the extremely cliche line of being yourself. but what i mean by that in my system that i use is being yourself and remaining aware of how calm you are. if you're being yourself and you're staying calm then that means you're making progress each moment that passes by when you're sharing that time with someone. a sperg for example is someone who is being their self but their calm level is completely gone, they don't know even what they're doing so nobody can follow them and they aren't inline with the actual conversation at hand because they're afraid to be their self hence the calmness gone. i would practice with those two simple things to develop maybe a foundation to work from and then you can add/remove your own tools as you go to see what best works for you

>>83523531
"a sperg"
I was literally diagnosed with aspergers as a kid...

>>83523531
i should greatly clarify too that i came from the same situation as you but have worked myself out of it i would say about 60 - 65% or so so i get by just fine everywhere but there are still kinks in my entire chain which is that remaining 40% so i'm no present master at where you maybe want to get some day but i know exactly where you maybe are right now or maybe whenever your worst was, i know what it was like because i started at 0% too but i hilariously one day just decided that i wanted at least a foundation to carry with me since i did/do still want to experience parts of the world

>>83523379
>Probably gonna have to just leave her alone for the time being and see if I can reconnect with her in the future. I still care about her. She's a really cool person.
I totally feel you on this one, sometime you meet a woman that ticks all your boxes and can appreciate despite all her flaws, weird habits and all, so you try to get closer and eventually ask her out but she doesn't reciprocate.
It time you accept it but you can't move past her cause she's just that cool and special to you, you cant let go cause you don't and can't know if you will ever meet someone like this. So you care and keep caring cause these kind of relationship feels are way too precious to throw away.
I'm sorry, friend, but I can't help you because I'm myself stuck in this pit of hell.
I would tell you if I knew but I don't, again, sincerely sorry.

>>83523890
It just sucks how she doesn't really answer DMs. Like I just know her and I would be having some deep as fuck convos if she did. Apparently she gets inundated with DMs from a lot of retards from servers she's in who want to talk to her. I dunno why she doesn't just block these people or leave these fuckass servers.

>>83524467
There's no subject of interest you can share together, like some music genre you both like or a movie or series you watch?
But yeh if she decides to be unavailable, she might be extremely cold with those who try to reach.

>>83523212
That's pretty weird, I can't imagine an old lesbian is very attractive