>babby>focus on playing, a girlfriend will come later>teen>focus on your studies, a girlfriend will come later>adult>focus on your career, a girlfriend will come laterIt seems like normies, especially normie parents are just instinctively evil. If you obey this atrocious advice you WILL end up depressed and single, no question.>y u post disBecause I went through this shit myself and it seriously fucked my life up.
There's absolutely no fucking amount of achievement that can replace finding a soulmate or at least someone who will love you. Achievements in this life aren't fucking worth it if you have no one to share it with.
If you willingly let someone fuck your life up you're a retarded low T loser pushover. No, postponing trying to find my other half to fulfill material goals is not for my own good. It's to feed your ego you dipshit. Everyone knows that's the case.
>>83637984If someone wants to fuck your life up, STOP THEM. And then tell them to shut the fuck up and get bent like they should.
If you're still young you have a fuckton of time to avoid making the same choices that I did and hopefully you'll end up exactly where the normgroids DON'T want you -- happy and fulfilled.
If you value material achievements and "muh legacy" over love you're a cuck. A true and faithful cuck. Accept that or change.
Normgroids say the darndest things.
>>83639036>fucked up my own tripOOPSIt's two hashes, you dumbass.....remember that next time.Anyways, to continue this, it's kind of strange how prevalent rhetoric like this is among millennial parents. But who ever said millennials _didn't_ treat love as a second class concept?
>>83639050There is a hierarchy of importance given to abstract concepts, this is called "axiology". People often are classified into 2 camps:>There is an objective hierarchy>Only subjective hierarchies existReligious people fall more into camp A) for obvious reasons, but this thread factually isn't about religion so we won't go into that. I'd say people in camp B) are more naive than the ones in camp A), and the reason why they fall into that camp varies. For example, you could fall into camp B) because you desire unfettered hedonism, cf. Skinner boxes.
You only have one life and as you go further and further down the road, the choices you made in your youth have more and more of an effect. Small changes compound and if you deny that you are genuinely retarded. I don't think putting this in analogy with the dynamical systems concept of the "butterfly effect" would lend much credence to my exposition, but they are "similar" from a naive perspective of course, but then again that's another story for another day.To reiterate, your QoL later on depends VERY heavily on the shit you do in your youth.Of course people who find love early on are emotionally better off than those who find it later and be a le good studious and hard working boy in their youth, but for some very odd reason normies don't care one bit about acknowledging this.
There are countless people who are not yet hard sold on this idea just yet and that's for good reason. It takes a lot of effort to detach someone from their flawed intuition on how the world works and educate them about what's truly observable and "scientific" in a way.
>>83637918>It seems like normies, especially normie parents are just instinctively evil.I have literally never been told this advice, not have I heard from any of my friend who were told this, and nothing from the normieverse at large.Maybe if you're extremely chinese second generation immigrant or something, but even they figure out the epic lifehack of doing two things at once in their life, or even more. It's possible to focus on school AND start dating and get a girlfriend. You can focus on your career AND have crazy sex with sluts at bars and/or settle down with your future wife and start planning out parenthood.Surely when you were like 15 and you saw guys who had girlfriends and a social life and also probably did better than you in school you noticed that the whole "wait for a girlfriend to show up when you're 40" meme wasn't true.
>>83639256You haven't, huh?
OP, I'm also an immigrant (parents are from USSR) and I got this same asian parenting advice. I think westerner boomers never told this to their kids because they were already rich regardless of education so partying and dating were held as a higher priority. Meanwhile our traditional culture also just assumed women will basically be pushed to marry you if you have a good job since that's how it USED TO work for them. In any case, the old world of eastern and western boomers is gone. I'm a university professor and I have never put my penis in a vagina or kissed a woman.
>>83640414Did your parents ever attempt to "scare" you with a story about a family friend (or some other relation) who supposedly dropped out of a prestigious school program to mope around at home after a rejection or breakup?
>>83640466I never heard this. They usually told me stories about how girls will ruin your life on a whim by lying about abuse if you don't simp for them hard enough. That or trying to baby trap guys. Every woman in my family would warn me to be careful with girls since some of them are truly deranged and evil. I never really got any positive encouragement. They were always proud of any academic achievement and said to focus on studying. If course after I finished university without ever having a girlfriend their tune changed. >Why don't you have a girlfriend And later>Are you not attracted to girlsI am, but these things don't "just happen eventually" like you told me. You need to be around girls for them to like you and start a relationship and as a man you need to take the initiative there.
>>83640657Just like I suspected: this character seems to be an squinty-eye Asian thing. Apparently nearly every Asian-Asian family knows this person who dropped out due to a girl, regardless of ethnicity, time, or location.
>>83640743I didn't know, I'm going to ask more east Asians about this. My family more reinforced not to take drugs or drink in excess since these are life-ruiners in post-soviet countries. My auntie's long term boyfriend got into drugs, went schizo (like the people on tv are talking about you kind of schizo) and killed himself and that sent her into a depression and she dropped out of school and has been working shitty jobs and never had a long term relationship ever again. And of course other family members had alcoholism.
