What's your thoughts on the refrigerator mother theory? Basically that autism is caused by cold and unloving parents. Holds up for me personally and I imagine a lot of other high functioning cases. Obviously not for more severe ones but then again I never understood the reason of me being grouped together with someone who cant even talk or wipe their ass.They stopped pushing this idea because a lot parents would bitch and complain about being held responsible as problem rather than the child.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refrigerator_mother_theory
>>83641561I don't think autism can be formed by psychological environment. That's something else and autism is a dumb blanket term.
My mother was overly loving and affectionate and I turned out a autistic sperg, maybe don't listen to physcholgy from the 30s.
>>83641608Was she attentive to you though? I notice a lot of mothers to autists will be superficially concerned and even overbearing but never meet their child where they are. They're just preoccupied acting out the role of a "good" mother while doing nothing to promote actual healthy development.
>>83641561I have pseudo autism (failed normalfag) and that couldn't be further from the truth. I have good parents. The reason why I became so cold and autistic was because I got bullied severely in middle school and the girls there didn't give a shit about me. I think virginity and being bullied is the real reason why robots happen.
>>83641690I thought for the longest time I had decent parents too but lately I've started to observe how other parents interact with their kids and it finally made me understand the reason why I'm so fucked up, anxious and socially retarded.
>>83641690>>83641727Like you end up bullied for a reason. Your parents are supposed to make you strong enough to not end up in that position.
>>83641561the meaning of the term was very different in the 50s, autism back then meant incoherent drooling retard that required a leash or cage, meaning it was probably untruebut the idea that its created rings true for a lot of people diagnosed with "ASD" today due to its overdiagnosis though having social anxiety and vague hints of accessory "neurodivergence"my mother always gave me a lot of attention but never taught me anything and always acted extremely anxious and is still quite mentally ill, she is over 50 years old and still doesn't seem to have the type of empathy required to teach somebody anything, however simple the task.>>8364169080 iq moron
>>83641762That greentext does speak to me in a lot of ways. My mom does provide for me, but stiffles me emotionally and demonizes anything sexual as if I was a little child, like trying to cover my eyes when there's a sex scene even though I'm 24 years fucking old, that level of overbearing. I can't even move out because I don't make enough money. I don't know what to do man, now it makes sense... My mom is a shitty parent that has instilled helplessness and has tried to get rid of my ambitions.
>>83641727i realised it way too late, though its not like there is anything useful to learning it because you can't teach your parents to teach you how to be an adult while you're still a kid or adolescent, its painful. i believe my family tried but they were just so fucking stupid and incompetent sometimes i dont know what the fuck they were thinking if at all.
>>83641794i dont know your life and situation but if you have really overprotective parents ideally you move out ASAP
>>83641561refrigerator mother goes *plink* brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Yeah basically all of my problems are from being undersocialized by shutin parents with their own social problems. Neither of my parents have friends and are extremely codependent hermits. People outside the family were gossiped about as beneath us or sneered at as "uppity" and my parents were the victim in every single situation. If I had a good experience at a friend's house or a compliment about it my mom would get jealous and ask if I loved their mother more and if I wanted to live there. If I had something happen at school she'd take their side and ask what I did to provoke it. Dad would literally just go to work then come home and completely zone out and ignore me like I didn't exist. When I attempted suicide as a teenager they just yelled at me for worrying them
