How do you convince yourself to accept imperfection?My girlfriend is attractive and she enjoys having sex with me. But I can't stop myself from thinking I'd rather she were a supermodel who fulfilled my every fantasy, and I get jealous when I see men with more attractive or more submissive women. For clarity, she is WAY out of my league and stays with me even in spite of my many flaws. I am very lucky to have her and it would be unreasonable for me to ask for more. But I just can't get rid of these invasive thoughts.Picrel is an ewhore, not her.
>>83659795>How do you convince yourself to accept imperfection?Are you perfect? No. So cherish the fact that someone out of your league as you say, is willing to be with you and give you love and affection.>and I get jealous when I see men with more attractive or more submissive women.Speaks to larger issues that you might have. Sounds like you want a doll you can control and show off instead of a partner you can connect with.
>>83659795wabisabiread the wikipedia page on it, that should get you in the right frame of mind
>>83659814>Sounds like you want a doll you can control and show off instead of a partner you can connect withThis is more or less my fetish, but I don't want my fetish to define me.
>>83659795You're an extreme pessimist. Maybe you have ocd.
>>83659834>but I don't want my fetish to define me.Then don't let it. Be a stronger man and like I said, be grateful you have someone that loves you as much as she does.
>>83659795Don't. You owe yourself perfection and anything less will only lead to future disappointment.
>>83659843>be grateful you have someone that loves you as much as she doesWould you understand what I meant if I said I really am grateful to have her, even if I also have these thoughts?
>>83659840narcissist*op is a narc, this is exactly how narcs think
>>83660362I don't think one would say she's out of his league. A narc would say "I deserve better."
>>83660372I might be a narcissist. My mother is a narcissist. But I don't believe I deserve better. If anything I deserve way worse geg
>>83660372vulnerable narcissists think exactly like thisa key part of narcissism is the complete inability to be satisfied
>>83660383How do you differentiate that from a pessimist?
>How do you convince yourself to accept imperfection?Download Grindr and get TOPPED.
>>83660405pessimism isnt a clinical diagnosis, its simply a term used to describe a negative outlook on life its only useful in contrast to optimismno one would call a person today worried about world war iii a pessimist, but thats most definitely a very negative outlook
>>83660428I wouldn't call that pessimism, I'd call that anxious and retarded.My dad is 100% a pessimist. He's always bitching. Gets a red light, "Just my luck." Always talking shit on people's faces on tv. Yet at the same time super insecure about himself. "Do you think my arms are flabby?" Let me see you teeth, "No." While looking away and pouting.Basically a state of never being happy. That sounds like op. He has a good thing going, and he's still not happy. Always finding the negative in everything.
>>83660572>a state of never being happythe clinical term is depression
>>83660581No. Because my dad isn't depressed. Which amazes me. Depression is a lack of motivation.
>>83659795Ok.Now go get a real problem, like being a khhdv virgin in your 30s.Fuck off normie filth. You do not belong here, your girlfriend is a whore and you do not deserve happiness.
>>83659795She might as well fulfill your every fantasy if you ask her...Is there anything about her that really is off? Can you name anything you would like to see improved? Or is it really just this vague feeling that you could have gotten someone better?
>>83660596>Is there anything about her that really is off?It's not that there's anything wrong with her, just that there are things I want that she can't or doesn't want to provide. Her tits aren't especially big, and her ass is pretty flat. She doesn't want to have anal sex. She doesn't shave her pussy. She doesn't want to indulge my fetishes. I don't think she owes me any of these things, but that doesn't preclude me from wishing for them
>>83660615Shaving her pussy does not sound like that big of a deal desu. She might actually just do it for you at some point.Anal is different. I mean real life is not porn. Maybe you can get her to try something if you're gentle, but if she's unwilling then it will probably just stay that way.What kind of fetishes are you thinking about?
>>83660742None of it's a big deal. It's just these intrusive thoughts I can't get rid of.>What kind of fetishes are you thinking about?I want a sex slave. I will never bring this up to her.
>>83660752You are asking for a lot and I'm not sure if any girlfriend will provide what you're looking for... I'm really not sure if she will get along with playing a full time sex slave dir you. On the other hand there is no harm in asking. Suggest that you get a ball gag for her. Her reaction will tell you if she's willing to go that way.
>>83659795I don't know if there is an active way to get rid of desires feeling guilty over it is definitely pointless, it's a pretty normal feeling to have
Imagine demanding perfection in your partner when you are nowhere perfection yourself.
>>83661090Everyone wants perfection. There is no one in history who wouldn't wan it.
>>83661105>demand>want
>>83659795>How do you convince yourself to accept imperfection?Can anyone live a perfect life?Do you think anyone has in the past?I'm going to assume that by a "perfect" life, you mean one without hardship, by obtaining everything you want, and not caring for others.By definition, there would be no conflict of means/result. Therefore, by simply being jealous of others, you have ruined any chance of having a perfect life, because you experienced the negative emotion of jealousy.PLEASE realize that as long as you have what brings you joy, makes life easier, or reduces negativity, it is a net-gain in life.I think of this similarly to how I try to finish projects. I have trouble with settling for "good enough", because often-times, I know what the "proper" or "standard" way of fixing problems is, but as long as the final result achieves the end-goal and is within future tolerances, then I can rest easy. Don't let the worries of 20% spoil the tranquility of 80%.tl;drstop wining, appreciate what you have, remember your life without her.
>>83661128If he demanded it she wouldn't be his girlfriend
>>83660383Fuck, this reminds me of my ex gf. I was literally out of her league and she was still never satisfied. I did everything a good boyfriend is supposed to do and she still said she wasn't in love with me.She would brag about how good the sex was to her friends then never wanted to have sex with me.
>>83659795ending up with a man like you is legitimately my nightmare
>>83659795> has a real woman taht is willing to accept be penetrated by him> Still feels hes not worthy enough and dreams of other guys fucking their partnersThe average male in 2026
This is what I don't get. He has already won the game and yet he is still not satisfied.
>>83659795it's called post nut clarity, you fucking larper. I could not care less about super models once I bust. A woman need only be attractive to make me bust.
I'm the opposite. Whenever I go outside I see all kinds of obese disgusting tattooed pigs and I'm grateful that my fiance is skinny and generally in shape. Then on the Internet I see all kinds of misanthropic manhating harpies and I'm grateful my fiance is sweet and loving and pleasant. Sometimes it's helpful to remind yourself that things could be a lot worse.
>>83659795Try losing her. Suddenly she'll be the most awesome person you ever met.Genuinely just grow up and get over it or LEAVE. Don't run around for years building resentment and then blowing your life up by cheating.
>>83660742>tfw mine wont shave eitherI dont want all of it shaven, just the lips because its soft :(I shave my balls because hairy balls look gross, idk why she wont
>>83662679My old gf always shaved until I told her I didn't care. Then she never did. Ever. Anywhere. But that made me kinda annoyed because it felt like she never wanted to be "hot" for me like she was trying to be at the beginning.Like she was putting in zero effort whatsoever, and I realized that in itself is a turn off for me.
>>83659795If this is what you actually think then you're not ready for a serious relationship. Please dont marry her or have children you will only harm said children and waste your money on a divorce. Find someone who you actually like enough so that you dont actively think like this
