Lately I've been obsessing over love and relationships, I've been single and come to terms with it for a long time, and this part of me has been dormant for so long. But I've always been extremely obsessive with the people I fall in love with. I'm 27 now so I genuinely feel like my time is running out and it's already too late. To me it's the most important thing ever, where if I don't have someone I see no meaning. I've been spiraling thinking about it. Sadly I think it's unlikely I ever find someone for multiple reasons, it's got me so down I kinda think about killing myself.
>>83685896You've woken up quite late, which will make it even harder to get a happy ending. But it's still plausible if you focus on it.This is also why the strategy to "just focus on yourself/your career/whatever" is fucking retarded. The expiration date for finding love is far more pressing than that for any other goals in life, and finding love can subsume many other goals that can never be subsumed by a successful career.The biggest danger for you right now is that you are very vulnerable to scams (e.g. visa scams). I know because I've been there. It is due to a lack of experience and a strong desire for actual love. The lack of experience means you have no clue what to watch out for, how to spot something genuine, etc.At the same time, if you don't "place a bet" and trust someone, you will not be able to develop a relationship.Don't let her rush things and keep it slow (but not too slow, just medium slow!)And now for the most important question: finding girls to talk to with the intention of forming a long-term relationship.I have not yet figured that part out myself. My strategy remains to try to talk to girls on various 4chan boards, mostly /r9k/. It has worked in the sense we have dated, but not successfully in the sense I fell for scams because I wanted to believe in love too much. Others report better success than me.Other than that, I have no idea how to proceed in real life or on dating apps, so I can't help with you with that.But at any rate, you must act and act now. Don't just spiral from the thought.
>>83685896Same except I have a rigid mental guide of what a relationship should be like down to how it should start, I'm pretty sure my chances are very slim
>>83686212Like what? I'm probably a bit of the same way. The main thing about me is like I said I'm very obsessive, and would want us to be like that.
>>83686315>Like what?That would be a whole essay but I'm scared of it not mattering in the long run, I struggle with doing things that feel meaningless, probably why I ended up this much of a loser>irreplaceable for both parties >necessary for both parties Is the main starting point. I'm seeing more and more how unsustainable and unrealistic it is but I can't get myself to "settle", it doesn't feel real, if I can easily talk myself out of it it doesn't feel real, at some point maybe the only way I could be with someone is if it's inescapable and I'm forced to
