I broke up with my boyfriend because I feel guilty than im so ugly that I dont deserve to be dating him and its unfair, but now I feel guilty for leaving himi cant ever be happy
>>83836078>I'm lonely because I'm uglyNo, you're lonely because you're crazy. Dude was fine dating you and you start making up problems.
>>83836078 >TouhouTroon confirmed.
>>83836086its not a made up problem. being ugly makes you unworthy of love
>>83836078If you left me for that reason I'd murder you.
>>83836092>>83836078If you're a (bio) woman even if you're like a 3/10 you have more societal value than the average male.
>>83836078My girlfriend is really beautiful but keeps trying to leave me for the same reason, I find it so frustrating.
>>83836078I am ugly, hideous. Date me instead
>>83836086>>83836088>>83836092>>83836096>its a bpdcelKEEEEEEEEEEEEEK into picrel you go!
>>83836086I don't understand how women never see it. Like how do they not see how they create problems out of nowhere. If a man doesn't directly say it to you, stop fucking overthinking it. Just stop thinking in general, relationships are better when women shut the fuck up
>>83836092Beauty is in the eye of the beholder retard. Who are you to deny your ex's subjective experience and not allow him to value your appearance positively?>>83836099Having been in that situation before, you can't fix it. You should communicate to her that it's upsetting you and see if she actually tries to do something to change her mentality.
>>83836078I agree anon I would never date anyone who is dumb enough to date me kek
If he liked you you can always just apologise and come back.t. hopes mine comes back :(
>>83836078My gf has tried this a handful of times. My solution is to flatly tell her no, to stop being stupid, and then plap her.Works pretty well.
>>83836214>If he liked you you can always just apologise and come back.not OP, but seriously this is so annoying. if i liked someone and they told me "hey im ugly lets break up" i would think they dismiss my feelings every other day, plus i'm sure it isn't OP's first time complaining about being ugly
>>83836151Ive seen tons of posts of people saying its completely unfair and disgusting for an ugly woman to date an attractive male, and I agree. he should be with his lookmatch
>>83836307And the opinion of those people matters more than the opinion of the man you supposedly "love" because...?
>>83836307The only opinion about looks that actually matters is that of yout partner.
>>83836078absolutely dumb reason to ever break up with someone. i hope you end up in a high-speed car crash.
>>83836307>he should be with his lookmatchShould is the key word here. The reality is he's probably going to die alone now.
>>83836314because theyre objectively correct, he doesnt want to accept it because he thinks im the best he can get. no man can actually be happy with an ugly girl, once he finds someone better he will be much happier
>>83836379>no man can actually be happy with an ugly girlhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxUY-99TPRY
>>83836379Youre wrong. Just because someone is sexy doesnt mean they will, or even can, make you happy. If you kniw whats good for both of you crawl back on your hands and knees and apologize and youll both be happy. If he is willing to get back together that is. Trust me, next time you feel insecure about "not being as pertty as you should be" instead of being derogatory to yourself just ask him to compliment you.
>>83836379Ah, so you don't actually love him or value his opinion at all, nor do you even try to accept that he has a mind of his own with an individual viewpoint. I agree, he's better off without you, but it's because you're retarded and would be an awful partner even if you looked like a model.
>>83836370dying alone is better than being with an ugly woman
>>83836379What if you really are the best he can get and you broke his heart for nothing and made him have to lower his standards even further?
>>83836078i hate people like you so fucking much. what makes you think your opinion of yourself is objective reality? why should the universe take the view of you, a crazy person with commitment issues and poor impulse control, over the view of your boyfriend, a normal fucking guy? what if he doesn't think you're ugly, asshole? what then? does his perspective not matter at all to you? and you're supposed to have loved him! you can't even express that leaving him makes you feel anything other than "guilty". do you miss him? did you even fucking like him? if you liked him you should have stayed. if you disliked him you should have left without making it a whole woe is me elegy about your body image problems. you could be happy if you got out of your own fucking way and stopped ruining your life for no reason. you make me sick. i hope he finds someone better than you, not because they're more attractive, but because they're an adult who knows how to handle themselves in an adult manner. fuck you
>>83836421You are flat out wrong. An ugly woman can still help create a family and a stable home. Nothing brings more joy and happiness than that
>>83836425a low tier Becky is definitely not the best he can get
>>83836442You have absolutely no idea how difficult dating as a man is
>>83836430because I am objectively unattractive and therefore unable to be loved, I literally look like a generic ugly nerd girl from a cartoon
>>83836437an ugly woman births ugly children who will probably blow their heads off with shotguns once theyve gone through puberty
OP you're a mongoloid. My last gf looked like a goddess and she was absolute trash, in good part due to having the same stupid mentality as you on account of her body dysmorphia. The 2 ugliest women I've dated were by far the best because they were actually pleasant to be around and interesting to talk to. I miss them quite a bit, but don't miss the hot one at all.
>>83836470if you actually loved them you wouldnt be calling them ugly
This thread has been perfectly engineered to send me into a fit of blind rage.
>>83836488Wrong idiot, I actually loved them as they were instead of having some bullshit romanticized idea in my head and treating their real selves as a cardboard stand-in for my fantasies. They were both flawed human beings. Love is a mental process, not some magical mystical nonsense.
>>83836078i feel the same way about mine, havent left him because i really like him but im scared he's going to leave me all the time, or just lose interest but stay for the sex
>>83836525>I'm afraid you'll leave me so I'll leave you first instead so I don't feel as hurt compared to this hypothetical situation that haunts me at nightWhy does this happen so often? It's neurotic as hell.
btw im op and this is what my nose looks like (i traced over a picture of it) in case you somehow think im not as ugly as i say i am. if you think a man could love a woman whose nose looks like this you are delusional
>>83836535i dont know, i just have cripplingly low self esteem. im trying my best
>>83836545That kind of nose isnt ugly.
>>83836545Would you be completely unable to love a man with a smaller than average penis, below average height, slightly recessed chin, weakly defined jawline, thinning hair, etc?
>>83836578no, none of those things are bad. I actually think most of them are cute
>>83836584Then there is zero reason that you are "unlovable" or "too ugly"
>>83836545This post is so specifically stupid, you might actually not be larping, OP. Please fucking kill yourself. Not because you're ugly (you aren't), but because you go to incel spaces to mock them.
>>83836584Well your opinion is invalid according to your own logic because only people who are terribly insecure about those things and feel constantly anxious are correct.
>>83836599no, I have a bump nose and a giant forehead and small boobs. those things are actually ugly and make me unworthy of love
>>83836646>bump nosenon-issue>giant foreheadjust get bangs>small boobsshape > size
>>83836078Why did you leave him then lmaoYou know you could just apologise for being stupid and come back right?The reason you're unhappy is because of your actions, nobody will chase you because the men you seek are not retarded
>>83836646I like bump noses and small boobs, big foreheads dont bother me. This is only anectdotal evidence. But still. If i am attracted to those features, your bf probably is too. As long as you arent overweight youre automatically hotter than at least 65% of the population as a bare minimum.
>>83836663if its a non issue than why does every single woman ive ever seen with a bump nose get it surgeryed off eventually if they have the money
>>83836743Becuase they are insecure like you are. It looks good. They just got fucked by body dysmorphia
>>83836743If these things >>83836578 aren't an issue then why do guys with them feel neurotic and change them or wish they could?
>>83836761bc society says theyre ugly just so chads get to feel superior. but having a bump nose is actually objectively ugly, everytime i see mine it just looks so wrong
>>83836743because they don't listen to men and just tell each other that it looks icky because women are their own worst enemy. you know this to be true.
>>83836545What is your race originale
>>83836646i hate bitches like you because everything you list are things men dont care about at all. come back when your tits are saggy, you have acne and wonky teeth
>>83836761Because everyone always wants what they cant have and people are never satisified with what they do. Thats part of what makes himans human. Very few people are happy with how they look and most of those who are happy with their looks dont care or are lying. Trust, those features are not ugly or unattractive. Maybe to some people they are, but DEFINITELY not to everyone.
>>83836525>>83836545why do you two assume on behalf of the men in your life instead of just asking them if they truly like you?
>>83836773ive only had men tell me that my nose is ugly in my life, women have been nice abt it
>>83836811because men will stay with women they dont truly like for sexual access? there's really no point in asking because no man is just going to admit it
>>83836775white>>83836776I have acne and my teeth are crowded at the bottom
>>83836818women are also nice to extremely overweight women and support them to become even more overweight because sabotaging the competition is the first and foremost tactic in the female playbook. you'd be shocked to hear what they say about you behind your back.
>>83836821have you already fucked him? if not try suggesting waiting a long time and see if he goes with it or drops you. how long have you been dating?
>>83836821You should know your bf well enough to know he wouldnt do that. And if he would, then why would you want to stay with him anyways?>>83836818Yeah, some guys are asshats. Some women are asshats. People suck sometimes. >>83836832Crabs in a bucket is real
>>83836857To me the most vile female tactic is asking their clearly less attractive friend to join her at a social thing just so she can look more attractive by comparison. Peak crabs in a bucket. It's so fucking evil.
>>83836871I feel bad for foids on this board who have "one friend" who is invariably a more attractive, normie girl who keeps them around for that reason.
>>83836769This is a vibes-based argument that can easily be reversed.
>>83836834no we havent had sex and we havent been dating that long. 3 weeks. i havent liked a guy in so long i dont know how to handle it>>83836857you never know anyone well enough to predict what will happen next. you could be dating for a decade and be blissfully unaware of their brooding resentment for you. that's why cheating in longterm relationships is so common
>>83836871Most of the time i dont think its entirely intentional. Just like white lies such as "you arent gaining weight, youre perfect!" Or "you were right in this argument where you were clearly wrong" none of them are done in bad faith (usually) but its better to be softly told the truth than to be fed a delicious lie
>>83836905Thats why you need to communicate. Weekly check ins are essential to log term relationships. Also neither of the partners can be afraid of sharing things that they disliked or made them feel bad because then resentment will build. You cant really ever know what someone is thinking, so just ask!
>>83836905>no we havent had sex and we havent been dating that long. 3 weeks.have you kissed??? if you have he probably thinks you're going to fuck so withholding sex wouldn't do much good at that point as a test. the real answer here is to just ask him in a way that satisfies you that he really does like you and isn't using you. why do you think he might be lying to you?
>>83836461>generic ugly nerd girl from a cartoonThey're hot
if it's not larp, he's definitely better off without you, not because of your looks but because you're severely mentally ill and don't respect him as a person at all
SOMETIMES I TELL MYSELF ..I'M BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOUUU~
>>83836525>>83836078>>83836159ITT: BPD foids who can't stand intimacy
>>83837105>havent left him because I like him>BPD REEEEmoids complain about normie whores overusing the word narcissist about the guys they date and then throw BPD around like it's nothing
>>83836078So you don't love him, you found a way to both leave him and turn yourself into the victim. >i do love himIf you did you wouldn't act this way
>>83837123The fact that you get insecure and want to dump him even though he gave you no reason to be is the problem, stupid foid.
>>83837134no shit but it's not BPD, stop oversimplifying mental illnesses kill yourself.
>>83837140>uhhh i actually want him thats why i have to leave him because my ego can't take the idea that he might leave me but trust me i want him o algokys whore
>>83837123You left him because you're delusionally anxious about your appearance as a cope for your built-in phobia of being abandoned, which memed you into believing that it was inevitable so you pulled the trigger sooner rather than later. Standard BPD behavior. It starts from your irrational fear of being abandoned and your idiotic rationalizations come later, which is why people are easily deconstrutcting your reasoning ITT, but it doesn't matter, it's a mental disorder and no argument can fix it since it stems from a fundamental error in self-perception and emotional dysregulation.
>>83837164you retarded fucking faggot i am not the OP, i have not left my bf.
>>83837105None of those are BPD.
>>83837177Cool that still doesn't address the point that OP's behavior is very much in line with the typical BPD mentality.
>>83837287good job i was talking about myself and not the OP
it's funny, a woman posts about being retarded, and then more retarded women come in her defense. women just simply can't deal with any inconvenience
>>83838284yes, exactly, except as a man you're expected to ask women out, putting your insecurities aside. your insecurity comes from a place of privilege, where you can actually sit and wait for stuff to happen. the solution for most insecure men is to rot alone, the solution for your problem is to sit and wait for the "right one" to show up. the inconvenience for you is unsettling, and it's usually a death sentence for men. i would still be alone if my gf didn't ask me out, and even though she's way more attractive than me, i'm not going to dismiss her feelings or opinion, and treat dating as a merely transactional relationship.>It's even funnier that the woman did nothing wrong except have low self esteem.the fact that you can't notice what she did wrong means you have very low emotional intelligence as well, which is, ironically, the type of intelligence women like bragging about.
>>83836078Go back to him and tell him ou were stupid.
>>83836078One of the many reasons I don't even want to bother with dating. Men get desperate but it doesn't mean they get over dating someone they aren't attracted to
>>83836078stop saying you're ugly, holy shit. i don't want to interact with fat, ugly foids on the computer
>>83838394>except as a man you're expected to ask women out, putting your insecurities asideThe man can choose not to and be alone, and that's what OP is doing she's choosing to stick to her insecurities and be alone>the fact that you can't notice what she did wrong means you have very low emotional intelligence as well, which is, ironically, the type of intelligence women like bragging about.I never said anything about "emotional intelligence". Emotions and thoughts are the same thing
>>83839269Actually you're not putting into consideration that there's no way around it even if someone like this realized they were wrong
>>83839269>she's choosing to stick to her insecurities and be alonenot true, because she decided to be with a man and hurt him. the damage is done, there's no way around it. it's not like she didn't know how the man looked, so your argument is pretty much pointless.>>83839269>Emotions and thoughts are the same thingthis is almost entirely wrong, but you do you. people like you get to learn with experience, so you'll probably have to go through a similar situation to understand how it feels. good luck!i hope you don't delete this comment again, though i doubt i'll give you another reply.
ITT: women ghosting men, breaking their hearts and coming up with reasons why they're the good guy for doing it
>>83836078You did the right thing OP. You see men making threads all the time about how they are upset their gf isn't actually attractive to them. He would've never told you and just wasted your time til he found someone he actually liked.
>>83839976Ffs, if you arent fat you are not ugly this is almost a universal rule. (especially for women)
>>83839826 A trvth nvke so powerfvl it made Oppenheimer start spontaneously quoting Sanskrit scriptures.
>>83839988Men do this way more than women. You just aren't seeing reality because r9k is full of unsuccessful men who can't even get a practice gf.
>>83840014you're trying to prove someone wrong, but all you're doing is making women look even more stupid
>>83837164youre replying to a different person but I left him bc I felt guilty about me dating him because im so much uglier than he is, not because I thought he was going to abandon me.
