Sometimes I get anxious about the future. My parents will probably expect me to get married in the next 3, but I'm a reclusive retard who plays dating sims instead of talking to real humans. I dont know how to approach guys and I havent really been approached before either. On top of that I dont have friends and I stay home all the time. I need to lock the fuck in.
>>83836684Hello Jacob anonWhy? I thought you didn't give a shit about fleshmoids?
>>83836684You got this. Working out might give you more confidence (also save you from osteoporosis later on) just try and talk to people and fumble about like an autist and improve. Thats how normies got to be normal. Its why they all look at their middle school self with shame. You got this.
yeah go outside, don't bother about the marriage your parents will always say in the next 3 no matter what year it is. They just want you to be happy and probably know you play that dating shit
>>83836684Are your parents religious Muslims or something?
>>83836684>My parents will probably expectLet's be honest. Your parents don't expect anything from you. You wish they did. It would at least justify your indignation. But they dont so stop lying. I know what you need to do but you wont.
>>83836707Well I do care about fleshmoids. I play dating sims to cope desu.>>83836709Thanks for the encouragement. I try to talk with people but I cringe at how weird I sound and how i cant come up with jokes and if I do, they just land horribly. My facial expressions are weird too. I hope I find people who can put up with my weird behaviour.>>83836748no WAY they know I play those games. I keep it so secret, I try my best to not out myself. Can they see it in the WiFi bill? >>83836770What do i need to do anon?>>83836764Yeah they're quite religious. Thats why they expect me to get married so soon, as I cant really date someone for some years and then get married. It makes it all the more stressful, and it makes it harder to feel secure in who I am marrying. What if I fuck up badly and marry an abusive guy?
>>83836835You need to move to a city and get a McJob and focus on growing your experience and career. After a year or two of McJobbing, seek a concierge or secretary job. Build up that experience for 5 years. Then you can either move back to your podunk hometown or anywhere else.
>>83836835> I try to talk with people but I cringe at how weird I sound It will get better with time just keep going and cringing> I cant come up with jokes and if I do, they just land horribly. Comedy and comedic timing are a skill. With practice yoj can and will become funny, just be ready to make a lot of jokes thst fall flat and then LEARN from your mistakes. Also not everyone thunks the same things are funny, so its impossible to always be funny, just keep trying.> My facial expressions are weird too.Thats no biggie, just lean into it for comedic effect. It works well if you have an overanimated face
>>83836863I'm gonna study this year doebeit. So ill be going to college and study engeneering. You think I can land a guy there? I kinda doubt it because I struggle with talking to new folks, but I try to be kind to people. You think that will work? If it doesn't I am severely fucked
>>83836887Thanks for being so encouraging anon. I'm trying to figure out how to be less off putting, and youre right i just need to continue and learn for my mistakes. I cant let fear stop me, i just have to do what i gotta do.>overinflated faceI have a really animated face :D, it might be to my advantage. Nice
>>83836684Go to school and you will probably get approached.>>83836835>Yeah they're quite religiousThen can't they set you up with a guy?
>>83836937Just keep on trying! Being able to express vivid emotions through funny facial expressions is lowkey a talent. Just make sure to try and be a good person and things will be easier than if you didnt
>>83836970I'll make sure to be a good person anon :). Thanks lots and lots for the goated advice.>>83836952>Then can't they set you up with a guy?No way in HELL it let them do that. There is an 80% chance that would end in a very unhappy marriage. I want to fall for someone, and I want those feelings to be reciprocated. I want to have a lifelong companion that would die for me (and I for him) I might be unrealistic, i need to put down my games maybe. If i can in no way find that, I might let them arrange a marrige. Maybe.
>>83837040I dont think your hopes are unrealistic, its a good goal thst ialso am striving for. Id highly reccomend on making friends before asking people out. All my good long term relationships started with a solid friendship. If you cant have fun hanging out normally then you cant have fun hanging out as a couple.
>>83837198> you cant have fun hanging out normally then you cant have fun hanging out as a couple.This is actually golden. But anon, since you have experience, do people get tired of eachother? I want to have a lasting relationship but i feel like everybody nowaydays jump from one relationship to another. I fear that i will bore my partner long term, both with my personality and with intimacy. Why do relationships fail?
>>83837401People can get tired of eachother if they arent actively trying to have fun. This doesnt inherently mean like intimate fun. But like if you never hang out or play video games together or do activities then you will drift apart. Also a lot of people are afraid of ruining a relationship by voicing concerns or things that are making them feel bad about the relationship. But not saying anything actively is driving the wedge deeper between the couple. Only once you pull out the arrowhead can you dress the wound type shi. Also having different future goals is a massive problem. If one person wants a family and the other wants nothing to do with kids ever then it will not work out. It just wont. Either one of you has to compromise their ideals or a break up happens. Break ups are not bad, you still learn something from every relationship. They hurt tho.So basically if you want a lasting relarionship make sure 1. Its someone you like as a person2. You are at least a bit attracted to them physically3. Youre on the same page about future wants4. You talk about what is bothering you (you dont have to be rude or super abrupt about it but letting them know is vital)
>>83837401Also i am curious, what religon is your family? I am religous and i always like to see how religon effects peoples aspirations.
>>83837662Muslim. Hence why i don't know much about men, as you are not really supposed to befriend guys. I think this is why i haven't been approached, as dating ist really an option. If you're gonna be close and intimate you need to marry a guy. Which is also the reason i play dating sims so much. I... don't have any other way of experiencing romance (atm). I'm fine, its all ok, but t gets lonely sometimes. Where normal people would just get into a relationship, i kinda just have to deal with it. Because i can't really be intimate/romantic with someone unless im married to them. And marriage is a massive commitment that i am incredibly scared of. So i just keep to myself, and play my visual novels, or consume romance media or smut and what not. Its lowkey agonizing, but it is what it is.>>83837573Thank you so much for this advice i'm screenshotting this. You're the anon who asked my religion right?
>>83837839I am, good luck in your quest. I definitely reccomend getting some guy friends so you know what you like before getting married. I was the one asking religion and giving advice. You got this!
