What's the actual point of all the social niceties around dating anyway? Like the pretending, the rituals, the polite back and forth, the "just be yourself" nonsense. In reality it feels like most of the attractive people just end up with other attractive people, and everyone else kind of settles with whoever is roughly on their level. Not even saying that in a bitter way, it just seems obvious if you look around long enough. So why do we keep up this whole performance as if it's random or merit based or romantic in some deep way. Why not just be honest about it and pair people off roughly by looks / status / whatever and save everyone years of awkwardness and rejection. I know that sounds bleak, but the current system already feels bleak, it's just dressed up with small talk and false hope. At least forced pairing would be straightforward instead of this endless dance where everyone pretends they're above it.
honestly, they should just totally scrap the idea of long term relationships and be honest that everyone (especially women the most) only care about short term casual dating. But they will continue larping they want long term, so they don't look as degenerate
>>83856394Society worked for thousands of years with arranged marriages.
