The issue I keep having while dating men is I have no trouble attracting them with my looks, I put effort into my appearance but as we get to know each other, they always get bored of my personality and we have nothing to talk about. Some small talk about work, family, the weather and then awkward silence. These are my interests>Shitposting on 4chan>Doomscrolling Tiktok >Hanging out with friends>Gossip and drama>Makeup>Fashion>Games like the Sims and Animal Crossing>Yaoi>Fanfiction>Pop music and culture>Astrology>WitchcraftWhat I have been trying to do to become more interesting is asking the men to teach me about their interests and it is typically some video game I know nothing about or history and politics which I don't understand so I just listen silently, it doesn't make me less boring. Please help
>>83917020You need to ASK things.Men rarely get asked things by women, so show interest in him and ask him stuff. And laugh at his jokes.
>>83917020We don't really have to talk while we're cuddling, you know. Just hear your breathing will be good, I won't get bored of it
I choose to believe that no woman would write that list of "interests" without immediately realizing the issue and closing the post form in disgust. Bait
>>83917020Maybe do something that requires interaction with other humans and is competitive, like chess or puyopuyo or poker
>>83917020I'd like to hear about all those things (except hanging out with your friends)
>>83917083oh yeah and maybe the yaoi and makeup
>>83917032I do try to ask a lot of questions so there is less awkward silence>>83917042Physical contact is good but eventually we have to talk>>83917066What, am I supposed to pretend to be something I'm not because you are disgusted by girly things? I understand finding them boring but they are not disgusting.
>>83917109>Physical contact is good but eventually we have to talkJust mind your own business. Silences don't have to feel awkward but comfortable. Wanting to fill every silence is draining.Anyways I'm curious, what are the Animal Crossing and Sims games you've played?
>>83917109>I do try to ask a lot of questions so there is less awkward silencedo you tho? do you try talking about any of these interests of yours?
>>83917181New Horizons, TS3, TS4>>83917215Yes but I can tell it is not very interesting to them
>>83917020I'd say it's in part because you have interests which are in large part either oriented towards consuming content or products (doomscrolling, makeup,astrology etc.) or are stuff you won't really talk with someone when you first meet them (yaoi fanfiction). Also hanging out with friends is not an 'interest', it's a normal human thing to do. And you should be careful telling a guy you have interest in drama because they will automatically think you like starting shit just for sake of it and no one likes that.Unfortunately, you have fairly boring interest and ones that don't really lend themselves to a good conversation. I am not saying you should pretend to be something you are not, but this makes it kinda hard to have stuff to discuss with someone. Very few guys wanna talk about doomscrolling TikTok, makeup or astrology. And if someone is talking to you about it, there's good chances he likes you. I guess just try asking more question about their interest, people like talking about themselves.
>I have to put in effort into a relationship???>WAAAAAAAAAAAH
>>83917020Well what do you want to do about it? Your hobbies are largely total crap. The easiest common ground is anime(not yaoi) or videogames, but you probably aren't going to be playing Factorio or watching seinen anime anyway.
>>83917020>>Gossip and drama>>Doomscrolling TiktokStop these activities and learn about GNU/Linux instead to attract and hold on to a loyal nerd.You're welcome.
>>83917304Only assburgers use GNU/Linux and they are usually not rich, defeating the whole point of dating a loser nerd.
>>83917253I don't know how to have a good conversation with guys, I can only have them with girls>>83917256Nobody said that>>83917301I am asking how to become less boring>>83917304I am bad at math
>>83917312Vacuous, shallow foid can't bag a good man. Tragic.
>>83917340>how to become less boringWell what kind of guys are you aiming for? If you want a STEMcel, you should get into regular anime and maybe cosplay, that doesn't necessarily give you much to talk about, but guys will stick to you like flies. If you want semi-normalfag nerdy Chad, then play flavor-of-the-year normalfagtrash videogames like Overwatch and Valorant and LoL. If you want regular normalfag Chad, then get into hiking and pick up some more normal hobbies, maybe read normalfagcore "smart" books.
>>83917234The Sims base games or you also play expansions? You never got to play the older ones?
>>83917340>I am bad at math>Learn about GNU/LinuxSorry but I don't see the connection.
Why is "girly" shit all dumb gay shit? Witchcraft? Really?This would be like a dude saying his interest is "alchemy", like ummmm, wtf? If your "interest" is a fictional make believe thing, I have no idea what to tell you, you're gonna have a hard time.You might as well just say you're interest is worshipping Pagan gods or some shit, it's bizarre.
you either have chemistry with another person, or you dont. period. you cant fake it, any attempt to do so is merely a cope and wont last. even the most boring person has a personality-matched also boring partner out there (or a not boring person who just works better with someone simpler). and if youre an attractive foid you will get infinite chances. tldr just be yourself and keep looking and youll find someone who clicks eventually.
>>83917020how long does it typically take for them to get bored? if you can keep them interested and talking to you for at least a few days then you dont need to be good at talking or interesting for a man to stay interested in you. just play stuff with him, be pleasant to be around, watch movies together and give yourself something to talk about. dont just ask but indulge in the stuff he likes. youll naturally find things to talk about or possibly new interests you both enjoy.
>>83917397This. Being yourself is actually the only way to find something lasting since no-one is able to fake a more interesting personality without eventually burning out due to the constant work to be someone they are not. Just imagine pretending to be a well-read person on dates just to get discovered as a faker weeks later since it's not possible to fake a habit and their impact on your soul that took decades to develop.Genuinely working on yourself and speaking the truth is the only way in the long term.
>>83917020Learn how to cook and talk to him about food
>>83917361I have all the EPs and the older ones have shitty graphics so no
>>83917020I wouldn't care as long as you put out. Alot
>>83917568>all the EPsAll of them? That's like hundreds of dollars spent on those games. I guess it's interesting and not boring at all if you're actually this passionate about Sims games.>older ones have shitty graphicsThey were great still. Also back in the day the graphics looked nice. How old are you, if I may ask?
>>83917020>ConsooomingGo actually make something
>>83917367How am I supposed to program >>83917380Alchemy can absolutely be someone's interest, just because you don't like it doesn't mean other people can't. I like collecting items and reading about witchcraft>>83917397But the way I am is boring to men and if you want a relationship, you have to cater to the other gender, not be yourself completely.>>83917419Like a few months at most but it is full of a lot of awkward silence
>>83917020>yaoi>tiktok>astrologyyou're a walking red flag
>>83917516I can cook but it's all regular dishes everyone eats and not very interesting>>83917630I guess that's my only hope>>83917690The base game is pretty boring on its own. I'm 20>>83917701Most people aren't making anything, most of us are consoomers and there is nothing wrong with that
>>83917020I never understood the boring thing. You shouldn't rely on people to entertain you. I would only care about if they shut down/didn't want to talk or were adamant about not wanting to do things with me.
>>83917905Well Sims 2 was released before you were born, I get it. But I played it and Sims original game too and I would say gameplay experience is what makes the franchise so good, not even the graphics.Also I think maybe "men" your age may not be too interested in dating in a serious way. Not all of them but probably a good amount of them. You're worrying about awkward silences because maybe at your age relationships rely way too much on being exceedingly dynamic and fast-paced over having fun together. It gets better, that energy of youth eventually cools off.Here have a video on history and witchcraft if you're interested, and have a nice day.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybcJOyS_g0Y
Define "boring" in this context. Have you been told you're a boring person? Or is it just infront of a potential date / partner? How are you when hanging out with your friends? You could be the kind of person who tightens their lips when anxious. >Only conversational tip I can add is follow up on shit. If you ask about an interest of his take that information and build off of it. Learn more about the topic, and share what you learned the next time . It's all about engagement, not necessarily the subject matter itself which livens up the mood. You don't have to do any more than that if the subject doesn't interest you, but it arms you with ammunition you can fire of to show you at least give a shit.
