before i go to bed can you tell me how to cure my BPD?
>>83999143>before i go to bed can you tell me how to cure my BPD?Read "Stop walking on eggshells" and stop the symptoms when they're manifesting themselves. Have fun.
>>83999143Just live your life without thinking 'i have bpd' constantly reminding yourself is just gonna make your brain want to act more like it because it likes consistency.Im not saying deny it or whatever, just live your life without being bothered about it.That or date me and let my autism naturally counter your bpd
>>83999568>let my autism naturally counter your bpddoes this really work
>>83999591>does this really workIf anything it could make it even worse.
>>83999591Seems like there is only one way to find out. Worst that happens is that our demonic non verbal offspring flood the earth and bring about a new dark age haha
>>83999143if a doctor hasnt diagnosed with you bpd officially youre just a normal bitch
>>83999625i'm not op sorry just wondering as a fellow autist
>>83999671I hope for both of us that it does work.
>>83999143Having a tulpa fp
>>83999143>before i go to bed can you tell me how to cure my BPD?I'm curing mine right now. Basically you need to realize you are incredibly insecure to a degree you yourself are not even aware of, even in suicidal moments, even when triggered. You insecurity is deeper than you can fathom. Sometime happened to you young and your insecurity is really really really really really really deep. Second thing you need to realize is that you are delusional. Very delusional. Your insecurity is looking for evidence that someone doesn't like you, doesn't love you, isn't there for you, is disrespecting you, or will betray you in some way. But you need to realize in moments when you are certain this is happening that there's a very strong chance it isn't. Third thing is something you can't think your way out of, you need someone to anchor you in reality who is deeply honest. I have a woman who is so incredible and she loves me enough to fight to keep me grounded. At this point I go against every urge and just listen to her when she is talking me down. The fourth thing is to collect evidence that the person loves you. Step or of the moment that is causing your breakdown and observe what they've done for you in the past, how they've changed their lives for you, what kind things they've done that day. Keep that context when you are thinking something they said just revealed that they never really loved you. If you can hold that evidence in your brain you can look at the impossibility of your delusional and weaken it. Then use all those DBT tricks if it isn't enough.You will get better! Give it time. I find having an extremely healthy diet, great sleep, and no drugs is very important. Not even caffeine or nicotine. Be clean.
>>83999625I'm BPD and I think a dedicated autistic could be a great partner - but they would need to study BPD first. Honesty and patience is really key. An autistic mind could actually study the issue enough to not fall into the depression BPD frame and talk us down. Personally if my partner lied once ever I don't know if or relationship would have survived this long. She absurdly honest and I've never caught her in a lie so when she swears something is true I can't maintain a doubt. Good luck autistic people
>>83999591>>83999901I'm an autist who was in a long term (5+ years) relationship with a BPD and it was a nightmare, it definitely could work out with a lot of self-awareness on both sides but I've found that usually there is a clash because:1. The BPD wants their extreme feelings validated even when they are irrational, which is difficult for the autist to do because it is both illogical and requires an impossible degree of empathy even for a normal person2. The autist can unintentionally seem emotionally distant/detached, which triggers abandonment fears3. Both autists and BPDs really struggle with admitting fault or that they were wrong so disagreements usually turn into unproductive arguments where neither side makes any concessions Maybe things would have worked out better if she was in therapy and on meds but insisted against both, do your DBT BPDAnons!
