i was a shut-in for years and now im finally ready to go outside but i dont know where to start and every time ive tried i got owned
Just walk to somewhere where there aren't many people. Usually a hill or somewhere in nature without a footpath is like that. You can keep your head down when people are around or drive to where you want to take the walk.
>>84001553no i mean i want to go and make friends and talk to people and be normal and go to the beach on the weekend and walk a dog and some such other normal people things
>>84001561Do young people still do these things? I honestly don't know but I know older people do
>>84001571i am twenty seven i feel old these days. i dont know how to find people as someone without a friend group already. i went to a club event but how do you engage someone outside it
>>84001561>make friendsUsually this is done in a club, setting, event, or if two people happen to get into a memorable event that involve eachother. You can't make friends by plainly going to someone and saying "Do you want to be friends?". That only worked when we were in primary school. If you're trying to make friends over a memorable event, then it would be good to start the first sentence with an opinion or joke about that event. Make sure you ask for somewhere you can contact them in a casual way. Just say "hey do you have [App]", or something to this effect. They will likely pick up the hint you want to be able to contact them. You should do it in a way that doesn't make you seem desperate or strange. This may seem difficult at first but it is entirely learnable.>talk to peopleTry to repeat what the person is saying but in a way they don't know you're doing. Maybe something like "Man, X is so Y, it's crazy" "Yeah man, X is totally Y. What's up with that?". Another part of this is to give them something to respond to, doesn't have to be a question. This will usually keep the conversation going as you will usually have something to respond to as well. This will usually make people think 'I can't put my finger on it, this guy is fun to talk to'. But they can't know you're doing it, after all, you are pretending to be a normal person. Use podcasts and TV shows for tone. You don't have to care about the topic they're talking about. Tones are a language. They can add implications and entirely knew meanings to what you say. Study what parts of sentences have inflections, where the tone rises and falls, and the context. It also reflects on what they think of your character. Try to sound confident (again, podcasts and shows). Don't mumble and stutter (unless in a situation that makes sense). This will seem difficult at first, but as all things, it is a skill that can be learned.
>>84001643*Changes, not reflects on. but this is true too.