I tried finding love by using /SOC/ and discord, but every time I get ghosted or suddenly broken up with. I think it's just that I am not meant to find a woman. I try to make peace with being alone, and it's not so bad, i can definitely recommend it over struggling and striving.
yeah it hurts more than it ought to. I got crushed by my r9k gf of 3 months leaving me, I'm ran through and I've never had a real gf.
>>84045975Did you at least meet her IRL? I have never even talked to a woman irl romantically
>>84045469It's funny this is the first thread I see when opening /r9k/ when I was coming here to post the same thing. I asked out a girl I had a crush on for 5 years a month ago. I expected her to say no; of course she did. Immediately jumped into a 3 week drinking binge, fell and twisted my ankle; now I can't curl my toes or move my foot up. I went sober for a week until I looked at myself in the mirror this morning and reflected on my intelligence. I've been awake for an hour and a half and I'm already wasted. I really think I'll go into the attic soon and hang myself. There is no hope and what is life without love?
Why people date on 4chan is beyond me.
>>84045469Online dating is a huge mistake. First off, even if you are attracted to each other online, you have absolutely no idea if it will work irl because people often look act and smell completely different in real life. Theres a good chance they will be uglier than their pics, smell weird to you, act more autistic or weird in real life etc.Secondly unless you are low inhibition enough to meet up with a stranger irl, and have a car and are prepared to drive thousands of miles or are rich enough to book plane tickets whenever you want, the chances of you ever actually meeting are slim. Its basically taking a massive gamble on something thats almost guaranteed not to work. Thats not even taking into account the logistics of living arrangements, moving there or them moving to where you live, finding gainful employment etc.Yes LDR meetups can be successful but only if both sides are attractive relatively normie and wealthy enough to bridge the distance gap with travel and moving.
>>84045469I met 3 girls from a mix of /r9k/ and /soc/ (and the /soc/ girls also are on /r9k/). First was a bpdemon who visa scammed me, second was sweet but we didn't agree on long-term and parted ways on friendly terms. 3rd was similar to 2 but we found out after the first meeting that while we enjoy each others' company, we can't see a romantic future together.I'm talking to a 4th girl now and it's going amazingly. I am going to meet her soon and I have totally fallen for her already.Of course, keep in mind this has been over the course of more than a decade.Still, it is the highest success rate I ever had with any method. I will remain hopeful, though I my aging does not stop even in the name of love...
>>84047361I'm >>84047379What you say is true, but widely exaggerated. Can also be quickly screened for. Logistics of moving to each other when you don't live in the same "zone" (e.g. anyone in any EU country can move anywhere else in the EU, anyone in any US state can move to any US state...) is the only thing I would second without adding caveats. First, why would you only talk to a pic? Ever heard of videochat? I have never met a girl who smells weird irl beyond normal human smells. Videochat also takes care of autistic/weird screening. People do act different, but usually exclusively in a good way (they are more disinhibited, more interactive, more interested and interesting).Generally speaking, a plane ticket will be cheaper than a car ride especially on the distances you're talking about. Planes aren't generally expensive. If you can't pool your money together to get one of you to the other for a week or so, you are in no financial situation to think about living together at this point and should fix your respective financial situations before trying to find love.Visa issues aside, finding a way for one of you to live with the other is usually very easy and straightforward. Finding gainful employment can take a while, depending on economic conditions and job archetypes, but you greatly overestimate how hard that is to do.You will have to meet with a stranger irl because you will always be strangers until you meet. It's literally the same if you find someone on tinder or try to approach a girl at a bar (lol, lmao even) except here you had the time to talk to each other for a while, share pics, videocall... before you do it. It's WAY easier and safer than any other method.It IS a gamble. It always is. But at least for me, the odds of it working out as a LTR were good (2/3 went there). Even though the long-term success rate was low (0% so far), the meeting phase was not the blocker there.
i am bald and small so finding love online or on tinder is basically impossiblei can talk to people but the moment they want to know about physicality it's over
>>84047460So always open with physical specs so that you can avoid wasting time on people who won't even give you a chance.
The difference is we are soulmates and have true love with each other. She knows that I'm 100% with her.
/soc/ is nothing but troons and faggots these days.
Even soulmates will eventually get bored with you
>>84047379You can online match in 4chan? And where can I start?
>>84047478On /r9k/ I go to threads of the type 'why don't you have a girlfriend yet' or 'why are you on /r9k/', or even femcel threads. I just interact normally with no particular intention to match per se, I just want to interact. There is a pretty good rate of actual women who think similarly or agree or sympathize with my posts, so they ask for contacts, or who themselves post and so I ask if they want to talkOn /soc/ it's arguably easier because there are dedicated threads to share contacts. Some specifically dedicated to posting your details and matching for long-term relationships. Threads can last a long time, which also helps.Eitherway it's all through discord in the end, sometimes though rarely through email.
>>84047465that just sounds sicki want to connect with a person on the mind level first, sex isn't even what i'm looking for (but of course it would be nice)
>>84047583i haven't had any luck on /soc/ at all but only tried for a minute nowso far it's all been catfish and trans, the ones i think are real women ignore me after a few messages
>>84045469The golden age for meeting peopl from this site was over a decade ago.https://vimeo.com/43271879
>>84047620I understand, but it's pointless to connect to someone who will never be able to be with you. Just a waste of time.
>>84047630It depends how you post and where. For me, I get very few friend requests, and those I get are genuine. For you it seems you get many friend requests, and most are not genuine.But as in all things, it's a number's game.
>>84047662I get few, and few are genuine. The sample pool is so small i felt like a liar repeating my experience.
>>84047656feels pointless the other way around also>hey i'm physically unattractive, wanna talk?how's that gonna work
>>84047780It's more like "Hey, I wanna talk and get to know you, but I'm warning you I have these traits that you might not like".It's up to you if you prefer talking to someone for a month and get ghosted repeatedly, or if you want to find people who might give you a chance if they get to know you, obviously.
>>84047780>>84047799Both correct to a degree. Wasting months getting to know each other only to have it end because of a physical attribute is pointless. There's a reason people begin with the nationality they are from.
I am a chink dicklet so I have no Hope on here
>>84048001I am a white hobbit and immune to despair
First time in my life i felt something for another human being but eventually she got bored of me
>>84048009how long did it last?i'm in a similar boat. about a month. i think she's back talking to other people. she gave me a lot of attention for a little while.
>>84045469 how do you even meet people on this siet when everyone is anonymous? i don't even see people meeting each other in any of the other therads.
>>84048199You share your discord ID, or you ask someone to post their discord ID. You take it from there. You don't see it possibly because you will never know if they really connected (often the answer is yes).
>>84048274i never see this happen tho
>>84048340True and i'm not sure i can believe the last claim>>84048274>you will never know if they really connected (often the answer is yes).The only time i've ever seen discords posted i see anon saying later in the thread they got 0 add.
>>84048076Not long this things never last we are temporary jesters
>>84048351>The only time i've ever seen discords posted i see anon saying later in the thread they got 0 add.I see plenty of discord ID posters and only a few who say they haven't gotten adds (which doesn't mean the others have, just that the frequency of these posts isn't too high in my experience). On the flipside, sometimes someone doesn't get an add, says so, and an hour later the person comes back/remembers/adds them.
