how do you guys do it man, everything is fucking boring. vidya and anime aren't hitting anymore, i cant stay focused on a book for more then a couple days at best. music isnt hitting like it used to. i just spend my whole day scrolling here or staring at my lock screen, unless im at work which i guess is an ok break from the monotony of my life but even then its still soooo boring...the only interesting thing that happens sometimes is I stumble on romanianbro's threads but he doesn't post enough for it to be a normal occurrence.that and smoking cigarettes are my only respite.... nothing is fun anymore, my joys are fading away and I don't know what to do
>>84155733i get you. i was diagnosed with depression pretty young and this sounds like me when im right on the brink of depression. i hope things get better for you
>>84155739im not depressed tho, not currently. i was diagnosed when i was what 10? but im just devoid of everything rn. i dont feel sad, i dont feel anything just a big ole empty feeling.... weird
>>84155782yeah, thats what depression is. you dont have to be sad to be depressed, anon.
>>84155733Nothing has been fun since I was like 12 years old in 2012, had a friend group and was rabidly obsessed with Homestuck. I didn't have to drive or work and I had irl friends. That was literally the peak of life for me and I remember thinking oh god, I hope this isn't the peak. How could life get ANY better. Going to school and getting free cupcakes every day. Now I literally have to ration individual yogurt containers to eat and spend all day either under terrible fluorescent lighting or in my room. No friends since grade school.
>>84155844Sorry for blogging, but I think it's because like, back then a friend group was something that was local, I'd see actual people and go to their actual houses and by time college came around they all moved out to bigger cities and I've stayed here. The concept or "going away to college" has fucked up so many bonds, not just family but lifelong local friend bonds. Now my town is full of almost exclusively retirees.
>>84155859And also, for the ones that moved out, they all became like "dance artists" or journalists who are either gay or have they/them in their bio. They've turned into hypersocialized people I don't even recognize using my old friends as a skinsuit. My dad thinks the sad part of life is watching his friends drop dead one by one. I think the sad part is watching people become utterly unlike the people you know they are, claiming their childhood self wasn't their "real self" when everyone intuitively knows you never actually change who you are from when you were a child.
>>84155844Like, honestly, looking back I'm stunned that I accepted this type of outside stimulation and utter excitement as a normal part of everyday life. I was so happy waking up everyday and I didn't even realize it. Wearing MLP shirts and everyone thought it was quirky and cute instead of weird as fuck. Being able to wear any color that isn't "professional." Being able to be loud and crack jokes and people would laugh at them. Accepting free food from trusted adults and peers. Hanging out at friends after school. Like, wow.
>>84155813weird, depression has always been sad for me...>>84155844>>84155859>>84155873>>84155906man fuck.... that sounds horrible, i havent seen my friends in over a year now, they wheren't even friends...
>>84155844I forgot, the fucking music and the fact that people thought me knowing about memes and shit was novel. The hot buses, the summers spent at the pool. Holy shit, play>TAKE ME TO YOUR BEST FRIENDS HOUSEAt my funeral because that is the meaning of life to me.
>>84155933Thanks. It'll get better for you anon. Thanks for this thread because thinking about all that stuff cheered me up. So many people live life hoping that their future will be happy, but honestly I think it's because they know they've already experienced happiness and just forgotten it.
I find tf2 boring as shit now but making maps for it the funnest pass time ever.
>>84155733I pretty much try to become good at what I'm doing and keep going for better versions of something I like. It takes up your time and trains up your brain to see why one thing is better than another, how to keep improving, etc. You also start enjoying challenges as you overcome more and more of them. Probably quite a few people would think my life is boring, but I certainly don't.
>>84155733The tl;dr explanation is:>Not allowed/fail to become a "man" in the classical sense>Retreat inward and use escapism and hedonism to cope >This works for a few years or even decades, but eventually wears thin and your brain gets exhausted of all the overstimulation>You're now left with two choices: suicide or try to become a "real man"I'm not advocating for either one but this is what it boils down to. All of philosophy can be summed up as "Well...why shouldn't I kill myself?". There's nothing left for you here on this planet for the next 40-60 until you die unless you pursue family life. It's either that or death, instant or slow, but death all the same.
>>84155733That's just life if you aren't involved with people or activities. Since time immemorial humans have kept busy and kept occupied with survival tasks and with their communities. Now we progressed enough to make basic survival easy enough and nobody "has to have" a community they're involved with or is worried about starving to death. All you have is entertainment slop consumption so ofcourse you're bored and miserable. Look at all those billionaires thats spend so much time and money on building companies and pet projects. They could just sit on a yacht drinking booze and watching tv every day but they'd be miserable. You have to keep busy just like any wild animal. We are literally not designed to sit around all day. So go find yourself some busy work or people to help.
>>84156027How do you become a real man? some peopel are just fucked. Society currently values money, height and confidence. all 3 of these are genetic. Like you could come from rich boomer parents, you could be 6ft due to tall parents, you could have confidence due to being tall and having rich parents
>>84155733I've been asking myself the same thing. How do I do it? Why do I put up with all this mediocrity day in and day out? I honestly don't really know.
>>84157405>How do you become a real man? some peopel are just fuckedThat's why I don't advocate for it despite it being the only choice besides dying.Some men, a lot of men, are just born FUCKED. And the best they can do is say "fuck it" and attempt to stake a place in the social hierarchy regardless. Which in the modern day, it's like, if the juice isn't worth the squeeze for the middle-tier normie brads of the world, the fuck kind of dregs will you get even if you go 100% all in? But again...it's either that or death. If you want practical answers: 1. Put in effort, but don't stake your life on it. Go to the gym, but don't attempt to be a shredded greek god. It won't significantly up your chances and it's a lot of effort for not much extra return over just generally being not fat and strong enough to lift furniture. 2. Dress nice, appropriately for your age and personality. Go sit in the city centre for a few hours and just observe the people and what they wear and the brands for a good general idea. You wanna go for just above absolute shit-tier clothing. So like a $40 polo shirt is fine but none of that $400 designer shit.3. Practice thinking positive thoughts and gaslight yourself into only allowing positive information into your brain. This will gradually transform your resting facial expression and make it easier to fake being friendly and polite with people. Try to see the good in people and rise above their shittiness, don't let their negativity infect you. None of this works unless you BELIEVE you'll succeed, so do your best to brainwash yourself.
4. Pretend you don't care and that you're emotionally unavailable and distant and you couldn't care less if that girl exists. It seems counter productive, but women especially will be attracted to what they can't have, they're deeply insecure people. Secondly to this, you HAVE to apply a shotgun style approach to this. Don't pick one girl to crush on, go through life acting like you're not looking, and be prepared to wade through dozens if not hundreds of timewasters before finding someone worth your time. 5. You have to employ a mindset of an animal almost. Approach new people at arms length, your generosity and kindness is a reward they should earn, and not something they're entitled to. Don't be afraid to put people in their place and remind them you don't care about them THAT much. If someone's getting a bit too comfortable, stamp that shit out. A man is only respected for what he can do, nobody wants a clingy man, nobody wants a man who's human and vulnerable and emotional. You're like a rock and they'll cling to you, they're not your equals, you can't ever forget that. Maintain the stoic front, be friendly, flirt, but always be prepared to just walk away like it's nothing. More often than not, they'll chase. If you try to use love or favours or kindness, they'll only see you as weak.6. In short, be strong even if you're not. Live up to the fantasy of a man they have in their heads as someone who has it all figured out and if THEY'RE lucky they'll get to be in your orbit. It's sad but it works, this is how you have to treat people, it's incredibly rare to run into someone in this world who you can treat as an actual friend. Assume everyone is always judging and assessing you, at every moment.
>>84155733If boredom is the worst of your problems your life is incredibly easyYou will never understand the pain of real sufferers
>>84155733maybe you need something much more stimulating than just video games. I personally like working out, but the fun from that comes from watching the numbers go up, it's not necessarily immediately fun. However, it sounds like you need something immediate. May I recommend martial arts? Specifically the ones with daily sparring, so a combat sport like boxing, muay thai, jiu jitsu, or mma. If you're at a good gym you won't be getting significantly injured from sparring (people go quite light, especially on rookies, as long as you don't go hard first.). Why not give it a shot?>>84157928We're all suffering if we're here, man. It's not a competition; but for what it's worth, I hope your suffering is alleviated one day.
>>84155733>how do you guys do it manI do it by maintaining a really awesome marijuana habit, it doesn't necessarily get boring for me, but if it does I stop for a day or twoTo break the monotony, I sometimes do another drug but I mainly stick to pot because it's cheap to abuse daily.
