I fell for the exact same one a long time ago.

>>84161675
What did you do? I don't know how to handle this.

Happened to me as well. It only ended when she did something so egregious that I had to remove her from my life.
It's not worth the heartache, especially if she also self-harms and makes regular suicide attempts.

>>84161705
I gave up chasing her, then she crawled back, once or twice even. We spoke and she deleted her account. Then we ran into each other again 6 months later. She barely remembered me which made me realise that she never cared about me, only the validation and attention I gave her. I'm still open to talking to her if our paths cross again, but I have since found girls that are actually interested in me.

>>84161783
Was it toxic? Were you chasing hard and how did you realize that she barely remembered you?
>>84161759
Tough. But that is critical, no online relationship can help there. She needs therapy to learn some better tools to handle herself.

>>84161815
>Was it toxic?
Very. Massive push and pull constantly. Was gonna elaborate more, but then saw you told that other guy's oneitis that she needs therapy and I realized you're a normgroid fag.

>>84161815
Maybe not as relevant as I'm more of an avoidant person and the very few women I have attracted are clingy anxious types but sometimes you can actually fix her, odds aren't good though. Its often not worth the effort as they need to be willing to have a great deal of introspection and willing to take a critical look at themselves and then be willing to do the difficult work of changing how they think. Even if that all works its going to take many years depending on how bad it is. That's a lot of patience.

Stuff like CBT can be self taught to overcome this stuff.

But then again is any woman even suitable dating material? Even all the smart and level headed women I see around me have some extremely deep flaw that immediately disqualifies them.

>>84161872
I'm just tired of push-pull toxicity, I had my fair share so I simply sidestep it. Your trauma bond didn't work out and she doesn't even remember you so that's a vote of confidence for my own way.
>>84161875
Yeah, and how to even point it out. Feels like trying to play therapist usually backfires. Hard to tell someone to take a critical look at themselves and change their behaviour when they're already considering themselves worthless and are avoidant.
>Even all the smart and level headed women I see around me have some extremely deep flaw
Yeah, just gotta find the one with the flaws you can handle perhaps

>>84161660
How long does she ghost you? like days or weeks even? Just tell her its rude as fuck and if she continues find another

>>84161660

How did she get abused by her parents

>>84161916
2-3 days usually. one time it was a whole week?
It is rude, but she knows that anyway, she does it when everything gets too much and she just goes offline from all socials.
>>84161927
I only know of emotional abuse but I think she also got beaten, she hasnt spoken much about it.

>>84161875
>CBT
cock n ball torture helps wit depression??

>>84161660
She wants you to capture her.
Make her secure.
But then she will push you away and hurt you until she self prophesies
>SEE. EVEN (YOU) LEFT ME. NOBODY LOVES ME. I'M NOT WORTHY OF LOVE.
refusing to accept she is the one who toermented you and pushed you away.
Women are so fucking stupid.

>>84162949
Why do they self-sabotage so hard? Is it like a test?
>She wants you to capture her.
I don't know, that seems like a trap.

>>84162949
>When you bypass offer peace instead, her brain registers a massive psychological phenomenon known as a prediction error.
In neuroscience, prediction errors are the only way the brain updates its core beliefs. Every single time you refuse to play the abuser or the rescuer, you create a prediction error. The cognitive dissonance and dissociation she experiences afterward is the literal system-lag of her brain trying to process a reality that does not fit her trauma blueprint. She is learning that her master script does not work on you.