i dont think my girlfriend loves me anymore, shes become much of a cunt towards me lately and probably (most likely )doesnt care if anything she says hurts me, weve been together for a couple of years and i think she just grew tired of me, some days shell be all lovey, doing stuff with me and saying things like im the love of her life and how shed like to raise a family with me and that kinda stuff, how much she loves me and likes me and overall nice things and some days she would barely talk to me at all and just say bad stuff about me and how much i disgust her and despises me, some times even in the same day like flipping a switch or something.i dont know what to do anymore, its honestly tiresome and frustrating at some points, im really trying my best and she just wont care, it hurts like a bitch, i love her with every single thing i am, shes the love of my soul but im so tired of this and i hate myself cause i dont want to leave even in the state we are right now, i still have the slightest hope thatll eventually get better and the way it was before, i feel like shes just trying to make it be me who ends it but i cant and i dont think could ever do it but its draining mei just cried like a bitch over some mean messages and the feeling that she doesnt want me anymorei know i sound pathetic but i really do love her, i would do anything for herim sorry for the blogpost i just needed to get this off my chest i feel so numb
man, if i had a gf, id fuck her right in the pussy. would feel great. but i dont cause im a virgin. so i cant relate op sorry.
>>84161664You need to stop taking her outbursts personally. You said it yourself, it's like flipping a switch, it seems her mental issues and illnesses are taking over. Nudge her into therapy. Don't let her self-sabotage disrupt you, it's not a reflection of your value. Protect your heart from her cruelty.And if all else fails, leaving is fair. You do deserve consistent, not confusing.
>>84161664I think you should communicate with her, tell her you find it unacceptable how she degrades you; and that you want her to try to find a healthier way of communicating anger towards you or handling her own emotions.BUT only do it when shes in a good mood; and if you say that and she continues doing it, after you continued warning her "Hey I really don't appreciate being degraded" then come in with the consequence (which could be taking a break, threatening break up, breaking up, whatever)But do communicate with her, ask her whats going on in her life, if shes going through a hard time or something that would be causing this behavior; ask her that first. She could be having a really rough time, doesn't excuse her behavior, but it does explain it and may make it easier to resolveBut here, game plan is"I care about you and I love you, and I value this relationship I have with you" -> "I am concerned about you, if you are struggling and going through a hard time" -> "I have been badly hurt by your behavior, and you're not allowed to degrade me anymore" -> (optional) "If you continue to, this consequence will happen" -> "If there's something I can do to assist you in figuring out a way to stop having things get so bad, let me know, I'm always here for you"But yeah you 100% don't deserve to be treated like that, you gotta do something about it, whether resolving it with her or just ending the relationship
Have you tried being more naturally charismatic, dominant, masculine, tall, roided and psychopathic? Women will inevitably be bitter that they have to settle for procreating with non-breeding bvlls. They want the best offspring possible and the protection of a real man. I bet youre just some guy. You probably had to put effort into getting her to hook up with you in the first place. Pathetic
>>84161664Just ignore her antics and pull away she'll come right back and when she does continue to ignore her stop acting like a cuck and she's probably already cheated on you that's why she's doing this its out of guilt lol you're a retard Brutal
>>84161664sounds like resentment anon, has she ever conveyed to you that you've done anything that hurt her a lot?
>>84161688ive come to think sometimes that sex is the only thing keeping this shit up but even if the sex is nice it just doesnt feel right basing our relationship solely on that>>84161691> You need to stop taking her outbursts personally.thats what ive been doing most days, whenever she starts with some bullshit i just say or reply with simple stuff, or even ghost her for a couple hours and act like it didnt affect me but still its kinda hard to not feel hurt when all i want from her is the love she somedays says she has for me, i just told her i was going to sleep like an hour ago when she started with the same shit, i try not to let it get to my head but i find it impossible sometimes> And if all else fails, leaving is fair. You do deserve consistent, not confusing.i know and i hate myself for even standing up to this shit and not wanting to let go but just the thought of someone else being with her makes me sick i dont want to lose my chaparrita, this is the first time ive actually REALLY fallen in love with someone and actually put all my efforts in the relationship instead of just messing around with girls ive been with beforei dont want to be an empty husk again
>>84161817>its kinda hard to not feel hurt when all i want from her is the love she somedays says she has for me>i try not to let it get to my head but i find it impossible sometimes>but just the thought of someone else being with her makes me sick>i dont want to be an empty husk againAlright, you need clear boundaries. You're already starting well, but when you go to sleep or ignore her, do it properly. Tell her, and then actually do it without checking your phone. Thats phase 1.Phase 2 is then, when she stabilizes, talking to her about it and making it clear that it violates your boundaries.If she starts a process and you see growth over the coming weeks, you can keep her. Reinforce good behaviour, instantly show your boundaries with bad behaviour.Lastly, phase 3 would if things do not get better in the next month. Then you need to go entirely no-contact, block her, never stalk her, and move on instantly. No-contact for life.
>>84161817she cheated on you brother it's time to leave. they only act like this if they cheated its because they hate themselves for what they did, the sudden lovebombing then hatement? fuck man. im sorry. ive been here too.
>>84161817Faggot I'm going to rape you, I type you out a good post with really solid advice on how to fix this and you ignore me? You just want to complain, you just want to have attention and complain, and have people validate you, you don't want things to get better, you just like the easiness misery and complaining gets you
>>84161750thing is ive tried to communicate all this, sometimes not in the best moments, but even when were good ive told her about how it hurts me and why would she do me like that but most times she just brushes it off or ignores it, i know shes going through some hard time these past weeks cause of the death anniversary of her great grandmother whom she loved and was basically the only person in her family that would look after her, but even then on the exact same day of the anniversary i tried to be with her mourning her grandma and get her to distract her mind a little from that pain (tho idk if i was in the right) which she just replied with its already a shitty day i dont need a shitty boyfriend to make it shittier so i just stopped texting her for some hours which i assumed was what she wanted tho kinda looking back on it sounds like an asshole move but i didnt want to give her any more problems when shes already carrying that, then she angrily called me about me not replying but being active on instagramon other occasions i would ask her whats wrong and what could i do to make it better but she just says its nothing which i know it isnt, she has a complicated relationship with her parents and basically grew up neglected by themive threatened to leave like outright asking her if she wants me to do so but she always asks me to stay in the end so i dont know what she really wants anymore i dont think its fair to let out all her anger on me when im the only person who really cares about her (or at least more than her family) be it feeding her cause her mother couldnt care less about if shes eaten anything in days, shes had eating disorders before and i know she still throws up from time to time cause ive seen her do it but keeps hiding it from me, or even taking her to a doctor when shes clearly really sick and her mother wouldjust outright ignore itidontwannaleavebutivebeenhaving thesethoughtsandcontemplating itlatelycauseatpithurtsmorethanfeelloved
>>84161811ive thought the same but other than she bursting out about my past relationships and social life and being a junkie i dont know, one time i did cross the border tho with some stuff about her greatgrandmother but she was yelling hurtful shit to me and i just wanted her to shut up, i think the age gap has something to do with too since we met when she was 17 and i was 19>>84161852thats the last thing i want to think but atp ig its possible i just dont think she would be the kind of girl to do that but thats just me on denial maybe>>84161870im sorry i had to walk my dog outside to shit but i did reply im just on phone and messing with the character limits
>>84161837yeah nowadays when she starts with the attitude i just do the same but it always comes full circle with her texting me or calling me mad because im not following her little game, sometimes she would just act like she didnt say shit and act totally normal, ill probably not text her good morning later and wait to see if she does anything to talk to me i feel like shes taken for granted im not capable of leaving and thats why its become like this lately
>>84162082Nice music choice. Why are you avoiding the reality she cheated and is acting out, out of guilt?
>>84162082>ill probably not text her good morning later and wait to see if she does anything to talk to me That is a mistake. I understand you want to test her back, but that is what keeps the trauma-bond and toxicity alive.If you want to break it and if you truly love her, have ironclad boundaries and stick to them, don't play her game.
>>84162021Ah, I'm really sorry to hear that man. And you were right to leave when she essentially said you were making her day shitty, that wasn't wrong (technically you could have said "I'll take my leave for the day so I don't upset you further" or something, but also she said all that rude awful stuff so you're fine, nothing to think you did wrong)But yeah you're in a putrid position. She doesn't want to leave you, that much is clear; but she's fucked up. It's clear she's had a fucked up life, which has influenced her current behavior. I know it's hard, you love them, they love you, but you can't bear this pain of being around them anymore. I have been there. In my case, I told them to get therapy or I'm breaking up, and they did any have slowly improved; you still gotta stomach the hurt in the meantime though. Or you just gotta break it up because they refuse/can't get help, and you don't want to live like this anymore. I know you want to be there for her but you gotta look out for yourself too. Don't chain yourself to someone who is only going to drag you down. It's a choice not to get help, and knowing that they are choosing not getting help over you and your suffering can help you break up with them.I'm truly sorry man. You just gotta make a decision. Tell her to get help, and if she doesn't/fails, then you gotta know this is a person who will never truly care about you. You will never be loved if you stay with them.It's really unethical, but I know this situation is awful, but if you can't do a clean break, you just have to be distant, stop responding as you normally do, stop fighting, stop caring, just ignore when they are mean. It'll either make them break up with you or you grow to resent them and give you the strength to finally break it off
>>84162089i dont know i think itll genuinely mindbreak me and left me retarded, shes the first woman ive ever committed to being with and i really do love her >>84162127yeah ill definitely not stick to my words and end up texting her like every other time this happens at this point i think she hates me but for some reason cant let go either i just checked her tik tok reposts and she deleted everything but one that says <<ive become the man i swore to destroy>> kinda sad she sent me and reposted really cute ones about us
>>84162203thats just fucking horrible man :( please make sure you have some friends around to help you through the pain. its only temporary.
>>84162223we're on a board where half the posters here can't get a girl to respond to them on discord. this guy has one that voluntarily spreads her pussy open for him to stick his erect dick in until he ejaculates while grabbing her tits and ass for further stimulation. nothing about his experience reaches the level of "fucking horrible" please have some context especially here.
>>84161664I would just dump her. I only put up with emotional abuse for about 4 months (most of the relationship) before dumping my last gf.
>>84162232Imagine building a relationship for years 24/7, and it all crumbles because someone felt horny and needed 10 minutes of cheap pleasure. I honestly don't care about you or other incels.You should be thankful you will never have to experience that.
>>84162282imagine a rich guy finds out his favorite restaurant is out of lobster and he has to settle for steak. it's not a problem and i dont care.
>>84162291now imagine you ordered the steak, were fine with it, it looked really good, then turned out to be rotten and you git food poisoning. atleast the person who left the restaurant didn't get sick, staying hungry is better then getting sick.
>>84162329Agreed. I was way happier as a sexless hermit than I am now after being emotionally rekt by a shitty woman
>>84162291Holy fuck you're pathetic. Hey guess what, I've fucked more women that I can remember, I just hate women because I've been around them too much now
>>84162359Nobodys making you fuck or interact with women. Some of us want to but cant. have a little compassion for actual problems, not invented and self inflicted ones.
>>84162372You're right, I don't know why I decided to be rude, I've been in a bad mood lately.I'm in the in-between, I'm attractive enough to be a sex haver, but I don't care about sex, I want a genuine relationship but women these days are parasitic as fuck and offer nothing other than sex. I get called "gay" for not obsessing over women's disgusting yeasty holes, I just want to be happy
>>84161664sorry2say but shes slowly replacing u (im replacing my bf2rn and this is the way i act too) and also bpdyou deserve betteresa ratchet no me kura el lean no me kura el xan no me kura
>>84162422You BPD women genuinely are a scourge on the Earth. Seriously fuck off you demonic whore
>>84162197> technically you could have said "I'll take my leave for the day so I don't upset you further" or something, but also she said all that rude awful stuffyeah it hit me like a truck and i actually felt bad so i just left it at that until she called and basically told her that about not wanting to upset her further on an already hard day for her and apologized even though i know there wasnt any motive too but i just didnt wanna escalate things moreshe was actually going to therapy over her parents stuff i think but stopped going for whatever reason, not too long ago she told me she was considering going back but in the end she didnt, ill try to talk to her about it cause i know shes had it rough her whole life i just dont want her to feel like im pressuring her or treating her like shes got mental issues, which im sure she does, so i have to find the way to approach it with care> It's really unethical, but I know this situation is awful, but if you can't do a clean break, you just have to be distant, stop responding as you normally do, stop fighting, stop caring, just ignore when they are mean.ive actually been doing this cause it has got to a point where even the slightest inconvenience she has, even if it has nothing to do with us, ends up with me being insulted and yelled at but some pain still lingers there as smaller as i can make it be doing this
>>84162429yah but atleast op couldve saved her she was in peak neuroplasticity to fix her tantrums but oh well couple years was more than enuff for the cancer to seep inreap what you sow *blows ku$h in yer fagce kid kek*maison margiela reberto piquera chandal cadena onions una hortera
>>84161664>anymoreNot once has a foid ever loved a man in the history of mankind.
>>84162458momma loved me bro
>>84162422>sorry2say but shes slowly replacing u (im replacing my bf2rn and this is the way i act too) and also bpdmy thoughts too but i prefer to stay in denial i was never an insecure person but this girl is everything to me i want to think shes incapable of doing so at least the side of her i knowla molly no me kura puta vas a conseguir que haga una lokura
>>84162472ull find better cuz u deserve betteri believe in u fren
>>84162443"*blows ku$h in yer fagce kid kek*maison margiela reberto piquera chandal cadena onions una hortera""Omg I'm so bpd like bpd and replacing ppls like im so evil muhahahah >:]"- Picrel archetypal phenotype
>>84161664Post links to all your posts and threads here and we will see if I should give a shit about you
>>84162482>all dat written in reddit quotesholy shit nigga neck yoselve gaylord
she just texted me asking for money as if nothing happened lmao
>>84161664I've heard it said that humans are rarely capable of maintaining love past a 4 year mark. Unfortunately, couples also rarely feel this way at the same time so someone is always going to get hurt. Anyways, leave her before she leaves you.
