Any other 29+ year old incels here who are low key ashamed that they're still virgins, even if there's a perfectly good explanation for that?
I feel for you if theres a good reasonI hope you can feel less bad some dayI was a virgin til 25 and was very ashamed even tho I self sabotaged a little and now I know I have autism it makes a lot of senseAnd she wasnt even wet lol she must have realised she pulled a weirdo
>>84168078it's natural to be ashamed, men are supposed to be sexually competent. if "good at sex" weren't a thing I wouldn't give a shit, but it is and I care a LOT about that dynamic so it's very frustrating to be so inexperienced for my age. makes it a lot harder to be confident on the rare occasions I meet a woman who'd be worth investing anything in.
>>84168078I'm a 28 year old femcel, cisfem yes not trans. And the only opportunity to lose my virginity came and went. I trusted him deeply but I was too obsessed and it was one sided so he ditched me and never looked back.>Inb4 stop e-dating He lived near me, we met in person.Plus I'm severely autistic so my parents cockblock me unless it's a man they trust not I trust. very complicated stuff
>>84168130Everything is basically against you as a dude thoughI remember like a handful of chad guys losing their virginity around 13-14 and then the rest of the guys were ignored by the girls in favour of older guys from round townMost of them only lost it at uni or married the first girl that gave them pussy after leaving schoolNormie world is weird and fucked up to me with its contradicting standards to match up to
>>84168078I'm not yet 29, but I am 26, so close enough. And yes, I am ashamed of it. Not even low key ashamed, just straight up ashamed. I don't know what I'll do, if I ever get with a woman. She's going to find out eventually. I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I can't hide it. She will pick it up from my demeanor. It makes me feel so gross and dysphoric.
>>84168153Can you move out?Do you have high caring needs and if not why are your parents sabotaging you?
I'm not ashamed about it, I'm angry about it.
I'm 34, and I care less and less about it with each passing year
>>84168078I'm 31 and not ashamed at all. I have much bigger problems than le sex. Even if the opportunity presented itself I'm unsure I could even do it unless it was with someone I 1000% trusted.
I may be a recluse NEET that's pushing 40 who only had paid sex, but yes I am sickened that I never could have an unpaid sex life.Worse losers than me have gotten laid, and even had kids. Meanwhile, I just get the occasional match with women who never fuck me.Occasionally shortlisted, but never the winner.
The last time I've spoken to a non-family member woman was back in high school. It has been 13 years since I've spoken to someone of the opposite sex. I can hardly feel bad about being a virgin if I never even attempted to change the fact that I'm a virgin.
>>84168796meanwhile women lose their shit every time they see me because i'm an 8+ who fucks on the first date so my confidence isn't even confidence, it's sage level clarity. i am one with them, there's no separation because my capacity contains their feminine energies
>>84168821Yeah that's great but you'd have to be severely mentally ill to be that attractive and still use 4chan and come here to boast.T. Knower
>>84168078I'm 35 years old and I've never even kissed or held hands with a girl. Wouldn't call myself incel, though, since at this point sex seems so unattainable to me I've stopped even thinking about it. Not even ashamed, and honestly doing pretty good for myself with plenty of nice things in my life. I've just have focused to my own comfort and wellbeing
I'm 35, I'm not proud of it, but I'm also not crippled by shame. I didn't do anything wrong or harm anyone. I was just never the kind of person to lose it at any cost by being desperate or manipulative or playing the numbers game (like many boys) and my natural charm didn't make a gf fall into may lap. I could've wormed my way into it, and I didn't. Sometimes I wish I did, because it's weird to be an aging virgin, but then I would be regretting something else
>>84168078I am 30. I really thought I would have grown out or moved on from my trauma or mental stuff but unfortunately I am stuck with it. I curse thee who did this to me. Damn stupid character development that stunted my early progress. Maybe it isnt all bad. I still have to find a girl who will love me I hope.
It is what it is. But then again, I have multiple excuses
I've dated my whole life and I've had oral sex, but I've never had dick in vagina sex.Number 1 I never wanted to get anyone pregnant who I wasn't committed to and I never really even wanted to have sex with someone I wasn't committed to until I got until my mid 20s and realized I was never getting married.By then I was getting too deep into side hustles and trying to skill build to really desire a relationship. A relationship will literally get in the way of an art career, any rap song will tell you that.
>>84168078I completely shed my shame for it at around your age and went all in on copes like vidya, anime, porn, etc. I don't talk to any women ever so the only way I'll ever get it is by paying and I find prostitutes sort of icky so I wouldn't go that route just to try it out, it's not worth it for me.
>>84168078Im 34 as you can see.Im not ashamed, truly. I would never talk about it in public because what it could cost me, at work, at family gatherings, with friends (have no friends at the moment) etc.To strangers I would have no problem if I would never see them again and they couldn't tell someone close to me that im a 34 yo khv and make a deal out of it. So that is my litmus test for whether im truly ashmed or not, im not.I only care for my job stability and I only care about job stability because I want to be with my family who I love, which is the real value and goal.If there is even a slight chance any controversy regarding me could make my job harder or make co-workers think of me less I never do it, never talk about it, whatever it is.At work its full showtime and no real me time.My explanation is that I dont understand people at all when I grew up, and now that I do I have no choice but to pretend to be friendly even though I feel hostility towards so many different personalities.What I truly feel like is that I was born in the wrong time and seeing as our biology is only really evolved to the point when we started making some tools and huts while we traveled long distances, it all makes sense why someone who is truly honest, pure, straight to the point like Im, that I would feel bad living in this world.Nothing feels natural, I mean actually almost nothing.When I start taking my long 5-6 hours walk in the late spring/summer, those days are the best days of my life.No phone the whole day, just waking up, eating meat, drinking water. Doing the long travel, listening to the sounds around me, listening to my heart, coming home, getting ready for the evening, meditating, going to bed with a bedtime story or possibly movie about some forgotten land before I fall asleep.
I'm a 33 and virgin and don't give a fuck I just fap to forced feminization all day
