I have cptsd and even when men are sweet to me consistently I can't date them. I can ascend if I want to but I don't trust men after getting played by them so often.I got permission to post this btw.
>>84168428You are a practice girlfriend. Nothing more, nothing less
>>84168431Are you saying that's the intentions of other men or it's my cptsd that makes me a practice gf
>>84168428>I have cptsd and even when men are sweet to me consistently I can't date themClassic, your brain simply doesnt have a script for safety and stability. You equate it with threat. Stuck in a void.The paradox is that you actually need a safe, kind and stable man to unlearn the very cptsd that keeps you stuck.Good luck.
>>84168437Probably both. Mind you, men's intentions don't exist in a vacuum. We usually get burned pretty badly when we take women seriously, and accumulate so much damage that we do start to see most women we meet as practice girlfriends. It's too painful otherwise when you give your heart, and everything shatters.
>>84168444no one in my life ever said the words "practice girlfriend", youre a lonely incel that copes really hardOP, you literally push them away EVEN when they are willing to endure for you to grow and trust them, its on YOU
>>84168447Yeah that's valid but I'm still paranoid about being ghosted and abandoned
>>84168447You either have a very small life, or a very small brain, but more likely both. The vast majority of relationships fit into this category for all intents and purposes. The entire point of dating and relationships is to test people out and find out if they're compatible. Approaching a new relationship and seeing it as somehow permanent from the start is actually just approaching dating in a really unhealthy way. People find each other who don't align in fundamental ways that will be deal breakers, and yet still pursue things even if it'll eventually fail and they know it will. Humans aren't necessarily rational actors, but creatures of passion. We take what we can get, and sometimes hang onto it until we are forced to let go.
>>84168456lots of words for saying the simplest thing: dating. there is no such thing as a "practice girlfriend"the way you type and your own philosophy tells me you are extremely obnoxious and underdeveloped. byee~>>84168456i get that but still YOU push them away. you can stay guarded, thats passive, but pushing them off the edge and pre-abandoning them is your active choice
>>84168447Obviously no one is going to say to your face that you're just a test run dumbass
Of course you'll get ghosted and abandoned literally everyone does it because everyone is shit everyone is so fucking evil I hate people I hate humanity I hope Israel nukes Iran I hope the whole fucking world devolves into nuclear armageddon and we all fucking diethis world is rotten to the core
>>84168478please shut the fuck up. it's called dating, everyone knows. you're trying to be "smart" about the simplest things. shut the fuck up and kill yourself.
>>84168484You're just bitter you've always been a test run for Chad, sweetie
i am not sure what level of troll is this but what you have is not ptsd, its bpd
>>84168484I just clarified something, I'm not trying to be smart. It just seems that way to you because you're retarded
>>84168428>you deserve somebody who likes youTwo weeks later that guy is gonna find out she's already dating somebody else."If I deserve somebody, why didn't she stay with me? Guess I should become an asshole so that these girls don't feel like they don't deserve me. Being good has no rewards"Good job OP, you just created a guy who is incentivized to create more broken girls because you choose to reward men who aren't nice.
>>84168428finally a thread i can actually relate to i was literally the same after my ex fucked me over at 18 and whole 2 years i was like NOPE to every man, built actual wallsbetter than getting destroyed again LMAO nope not happeningat 20 i met this stupidly patient like annoyingly calm?? guy and i'd be horrible, telling him to fuck off, i dont want you, leave me alone etc and hed just go "thats okay babe im not asking for anything"i was fuming like why arent u fighting? OR leaving make it make sensewasnt even being a simp weirdo either and couldve pulled way fitter girls than me but he just... stayed chill no chasing = i didnt feel like a cornered animal for onceconfused the absolute fuck out of me nglanyway we ended up together like 2 years and a bitand i ruined it. still not over it. thinking about him sets me off crying :)he was actually such a good man. too patient for someone as broken as me kill me x
>>84168571>"If I deserve somebody, why didn't she stay with me? Guess I should become an asshole so that these girls don't feel like they don't deserve me. Being good has no rewards">Good job OP, you just created a guy who is incentivized to create more broken girls because you choose to reward men who aren't nice.Ain't that the tru(ke)th
Should've just become my pet when I first offered. I'll keep you forever and ever even if you're a retarded fat puppy.
>>84168444The male 20s experience is realizing that women are not at all like men and constant mental battle of what you were told about women and how they actually act.I used to think those woman hating types were gross and misguided, but it was I who was ignorant. I understand why men start to hate women, I honestly hate women right now but I don't want to. I've given my bare heart to so many women, only for them to use me over and over and over and I'm finally tired of it. I use women now, they mean nothing to me
>>84169145Youre just an unattractive loser wimp, dont hate women, hate yourself instead
>>84169160This, women can do no wrong
>>84168428>femcel>CHOOSES to stay sexlesscan't make this shit up, when will you stupid cocksuckers learn?
>>84169284>cptsd>choosesPick one you fat retard.
>>84168428yeah, same. i have pretty severe trauma and it just feels wrong to have genuine love or friendship from men. i remember the first time a guy respected my rejection, it felt really odd. i hate that i sabotage myself so often.
>>84169333>feels wrong to have genuine love or friendship from men.What? Someone is kind to you and it feels ..wrong?Women are objects.
>>84169310Yeah it's a choice, like everything else in lifeYou're not a paralyzed nugget, you can make choices and you CHOOSE to be VOLUNTARILY celibate
>>84169369>Someone is kind to you and it feels ..wrong?yes. all ive ever known is abuse. it feels wrong to be treated well because in my brain the abuse is whats normal, so non-abuse is abnormal, right?
>>84169392If you have trauma it's not a choice, educate yourself low-iq cocksucker.
>>84169394but abuse is bad, and kindness is good. abnormal just means you have to get used to it?
>cptsdI prefer when they called it borderline.
>>84169436nta but cptsd is completely different from bpd. i just shut down, i dont lash out, i dont have the same emotional swings, etc.
>>84169422you think i dont know that? i do want to be treated well but when you are abused through your entire childhood that is just difficult
>>84169442>nta but cptsd is completely different from bpdIt's not. Not even the experts agree on what symptoms in BPD and CPTSD actually differ.CPTSD is just subclinical BPD + some other shit.
>>84169449I understand. abuse from childhood makes trusting that hardbut do you ever actually let a kind guy show you what being treated well even looks like?
>>84169461"these two conditions have overlapping symptoms so they must be the exact same"
>>84169472definitely. i used to be in a relationship with a really nice guy but he eventually broke up with me and i dont blame him. i think i was too much of a burden.
>>84169461> CPTSD is just subclinical BPD + some other shit.Wrong! Modern research (ICD-11 for CPTSD // DSM-5 for BPD) shows they are entirely different disorders with overlap in symptoms key differences exist: CPTSD has trauma-specific symptoms tied to trauma history, with more stable (though negative) self-view, depression, and avoidance. BPD has an unstable and fluctuating sense of self, intense fear of abandonment, impulsivity, externalizing behaviors like self-harm, and idealization-devaluation cycles, without requiring trauma. Comorbidity is common though, but nothing equates them.Took me one google search, dumb nigger.
>>84169477>"these two conditions have the exact same symptoms, but we'll just word it differently due to stigma even though the underlying pathology is exactly the same."
>>84169489k, so you learned something at least. mb next time you slowly let yourself believe you're allowed to take up space without apologizing for it every secondstill, you should first try being a little kinder to yourself. like not calling yourself a burden out loud. small steps, good luck out there
Hi I'm op. Thank you all for the replies it's nice to know there's others who can relate.
>>84168437Jesus Christ you're such a fucking cringe-lord bitch.
