>>84209185
>Just cuckmax bro

>>84209185
End things. You resent her and there is nothing you can do to fix it. Don't waste any more of your life.

>>84209255
I'm not into that. I thought it was a relationship but it was some guy out of her league just using her

>>84209264
I can't.we have kids. I would consider it if we didn't have any bc this sucks

>>84209265
I thought you were one of those guys who made a snarky thread. I'm sorry anon, hope it gets better.

>>84209289
Thanks anon. We will see

>>84209275
it's so gross how they just tell you shit like this and expect it to change nothing at you're for granted and secondary forever.
Yeah, I don't think having a wife and kids is it these days...

>>84209275
I see. Maybe just cheat on her instead. When she inevitably finds out, tell her that she cheated on her future husband when she hooked up with some random guy.

>>84209333
>it's so gross how they just tell you shit like this and expect it to change nothing
It's really unbelievable.
She says she barely remembers it and she thought he was gross after he didn't call her back. Sure okay then why did you do it again a year later
They don't understand how disgusting this is to us. They think we are here for true love and sex is just something fun to do

>>84209342
>I see. Maybe just cheat on her instead
Legitimately not a bad idea. It would fix the feeling of being stuck to a woman who did this

>>84209342
lil bro is gonna get divorce raped

>>84209447
I don't really care about that to be honest

>>84209471
Yeah, but you should begin sneakily moving assets away from her anyways.

>>84209482
>Yeah, but you should begin sneakily moving assets away from her anyways.
Good idea. Bitcoin time

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How did you marry her without knowing her sexual history?

>>84209528
I didn't think it mattered because I assumed she lost it to some high school boyfriend. I knew her number but not the story.

Unfortunetly we don't live in some dinsey world where true love exists. Especially in modern times with the (((sexual revolution))) how many men do you really think end up with a virgin tradwife? Why did she even tell you in the first place? That's more what matters, she either did it to hurt you or is a dumb bitch who doesn't understand the male ego. In all honesty, if that is all she has done you are better off than what most guys end up with, if she's a good wife on top of that you basically won the lottery. Maybe go facefuck her for a bit or something.

>>84209586
>, if she's a good wife on top of that you basically won the lottery. Maybe go facefuck her for a bit or something.
She's a good wife and just told me because she's honest like autistic honest. I already facefuck her it's part of our regular routine.
I don't think I can just move on from this because I've tried a lot already and nothing works. It's made her partially gross and sad to me

>>84209586
>better off than what most guys end up with,
What do most guys end up with? My friends still married virgins or near virgins

>>84209649
In time the disgust and resentment will fade, I know how bad it feels. Honestly, if you divorve her do you think you'd do better? She's nice, fucks you with lust and birthed your children

>>84209780
You have been there?
My disappointment is unbelievable. I've tried to convince myself a hundred different ways about why it's alright but I'm the end it's just cope. I would not have even dated her to begin with if this story was known and I don't want to touch her

>>84209657
Well they're lucky assuming you truley know their sexual history is truthful.

>>84209813
I do because Ive known them and their wives since we were 12.

>>84209567
>I didn't think it mattered
Dumbass. Better get a paternity test on those kids.

>>84209797
Yeah, if you're dating a women who has a sexual history you're gonna find out sooner or later. Women aren't all hoes (though a lot will have more history than they'd like to admit) but they can be easily tricked especially if it's a guy out of her league who she's been crushing on. Hell, I had a friend in hs who basically had a methodology of getting his dick sucked, a crazy amount of girls did it for him.

>>84209936
>they can be easily tricked especially if it's a guy out of her league who she's been crushing on
Yeah that's what happened she thought he was going to be her boyfriend afterwards. And the second time too. She said she learned a lesson from it.
So the cope is that she is naive. Great. Doesn't help

>>84209185
You found this out after you had kids and got married? Bro, that would be totally your own fault for committing without even knowing who you're committing to.

>>84209952
She was/is naive dawg. If those 2 instances were the only 2 sexual encounters she's ever had before you then I sincerly hope for your and your kids sake that you can forgive her in your heart. She was retarded to tell you and idk what you can do to feel better about it except giving it time and maybe fuck her in a very dominant way. Unless you're a super chad you don't want to be back on the dating market.

>>84210716
No no that's just the first time. She has a bunch of short term relationships and a few other one night stands

>>84209368
lmao fuck off retard, you would've done the same if stacy offered you coochie

>>84209185
OP please read this carefully: You are getting the worst advice in this thread. Retroactive jealousy is a well known and studied subject. I suggest you read up on it. Ignore losers like

>>84209264
and
>>84209342
especially this anon, who suggests cheating - this only reinforfces the neural pathways that drive the shame and disengage your prefrontal cortex.. You can get through this via therapy without hurting yourself and your wife in the process.

Now to give some brutal tough love.

Your wife has 0 fault here and you have NO right to make her feel guilty about a past mistake. This entire cognitive-emotional loop is about YOUR insecurities and it is YOUR issue to confront and resolve through either therapy, honest self-reflection, or both..

If you cheat on your wife, perhaps you'd feel a slight relief, and then you'd realise you're still the same insecure person + you now hurt the mother of your children.

Do the mature, masculine, strong thing, and put in the work. Talk to a therapist and mention retroactive jealousy. Read up on it online too. Here is a link to get you started a reddit thread useful for context

https://www.reddit.com/r/retroactivejealousy/comments/i8mebd/the_short_guide_on_how_to_overcome_retroactive/

good luck and don't hurt others because of your low self esteem

>>84211971
bump for the only emotionally mature advice ITT

stop having sex with her and bang hot girls. reclaim your dignity and self-respect. you married a slut and now you have to cope with it in some way

>>84209275
grim
why didnt you discuss shit like this way way earlier in the relationship nigga

>>84209333
You would had lost your virginity to a stacy if she wanted to use your body for one night.
You are mad cause you are jelly
I love having sex with chads, who does not? Men are so hypocrite

>>84212127
Thats the issue. He never had hot girls so he hates his wife for having a good time

>>84209275
There is no solution but cheating or divorcing. It honestly doesn't matter if you have kids. As a child of divorced parents...living in a loveless dead household (which will likely ensue when you realize she settled for you) is WORSE than being divorced. I feel bad for you anon. I just hope she actually fucks your brains out and truly desires you and didn't settle for you. I pray I'm wrong.

>>84212195
>ignores how easy it is for woman to have sex with a chad compared to a man having sex with a stacy
refusing to date used goods is the best way to equalize the dating market

>>84212221
his kids are going to suffer if he does nothing about it. if he has sons they'll learn that its normal to accept chad's used cumdumpster as a wife and thats what men should be ok with, if he has daughters they'll learn that they can whore around and then have a loyal husband later anyways and it doesnt matter when or how they lose their virginities because for their mom it was meaningless so surely thats how it is. even if op wont cheat or leave they have to keep his wife's past a dark secret and never talk about it to anyone

>>84212245
Pretty much. I'm not sure what dynamics are at play in their relationship though. What sort of example she sets for her daughters or he sets for his sons. Again, the only fix for retroactive jealousy is actually getting more experience and living life fully, to the point where you can recognize when a woman really desires you and it doesn't matter if she had a past because you had one as well.

>>84211971
hahaha typical modern gaslighting, basically saying.
- your feelings don't matter, just accept your situation.
- you have NO right to do what you want, you have to be the "responsible" guy that ultimately just results in her getting exactly what she wants.
- talk to a therapist who will always take the womans side and gaslight you further.
>>84212112
he(the man) has to be "emotionally mature(more shaming, gaslighting)", she does not.

remember, in the modern times men must strive to be the "emotionally mature, responsible" man who steps up while women can just be whores for 15 years and still get what they want later in life.

>>84212195
I think it's crazy how you just ignored my whole post and went off on a meaningless tangent.
Next time don't reply to a poster making a point, just post in the thread if you aren't participating in the discussion.

>>84211971
its such a roastie thing to take a normal human emotion that men expressed for centuries, give it some pseudoscientific psychology name like retroactive jealousy and declare it an "insecurity" you have to just get over. why cant roasties behave instead lol, but no, men should pay dr shekelstein for brainwashing sessions instead until hes proud of his slut wife like an enlightened modern male

>>84211106
there is no equivilent to a pump and dump for men.
You are acting like the barrier for sex is the same for men and women.

>>84213192
Yes. There is. Pornography.
Men expect women to justify their previous sexual partners, but feel no expectation to justify their own porn habits.
Why would a woman want to marry and have kids with a guy into loli porn?

>>84213341
>Why would a woman want to marry and have kids with a guy into loli porn?
Why would a man be into a woman that is into billionaire werewolf BDSM rape porn books?

That's a retarded argument, there is simply no equivalent. It's just how men and women were engineered biologically, but jews (or whatever the fuck) have been trying to socioally remove that from dudes by whoring up all the women with muh sexual revolution and muh empowerement while telling men they're insecure if they don't want to lock down a whore.

the only way to fix this is to have extremely rough sex with her op believe me
you need to do this rn extremely rough and extremely dominating

>>84209185
Best thing is to talk it out for a long time with your wife if you come out feeling the same, divorce. there is no other way around it, you can still take care of your kids but forcing them to be in the same home full of resentment makes them also have warped views on relationships

>>84209846
THIS.

If they are not yours, run.

>>84211971
>Your wife has 0 fault here
Yes women shoud not have agency.

>>84209528
Women will lie about it anyway. That one Indian dude has a wife that lied about being a virgin and then talked about popping her pussy in frat houses in college.
>>84209567
That's how they sell it but most lose it to some random high school jock at a party.

>>84213821
just do this bro

>chad's quick and worthless pump and dump is another guy's cherished wife
its brutal. you have to fix this op. find the guy and fuck his sister/gf/wife

Jesus are you me? Only difference is I was dumb enough to know her past and still had a kid. I've literally tried all the coping methods in this thread. Even the reddit advice of trying to "overcome" my retroactive jealousy.

Truth is this shit bothers all males on a primal level. It's because of our competitive nature in my experience. Knowing those facts and details about the woman you fully committed to bothers even the most secure person. Because Chad beat us. He beat us at the most important competition there is, sexual conquest. In the olden days Chad would come kill you, your children and take your wife. Now he doesn't even have to do that. He can conquer your wife before you even meet her. She will have done things for him she will never do for you. She will have bragged to all her little harlots about how naturally manly and dominant he was with her. How easily he could have her. When he is done having his fun she will be sad, but because she is a woman she will believe she will just get the next Chad that comes along.

History repeats itself until the average Joe shows up. He's so nice and buys her dinner, gifts, and showers her with compliments. So instead of following her pussy for once she tries the nice guy. Never be the settle down guy. Not all of the depression circle jerk around here is wrong. Never ever pick the girl who thinks she has options. Date down a couple points and find the girl that thinks you're a Chad. Only way to win as an average man. Even then she'll probably be ran through but you should be able to at least get some loyalty out of her. Which in the end is the single most important quality a woman can have.

Best of luck. Women stink. Find a unicorn or cope like the rest of us.

>>84214470
this is why it is extremely imp to never marry a girl with a higher body count than you

>>84209185
i got together with my hs crush like 5 years after graduation after she had a free spirited traveling (aka slut) phase because i always wanted to marry her but after a year or so i had to break up because i couldnt deal with the fact that she most likely got pumped and dumped by chads of all nationality for years. at least i didnt have a kid with her thank god. i dont understand how normies psyop themselves into accepting this shit