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I want her back but she doesn't love me anymore she doesn't miss me and she doesn't think about me.
all I have is our old messages.
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>>84273885
Dont assume that she doesn't. She probably does more than you know.
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>>84273891
then why is she gone? why hasn't she tried to communicate with me in some way?
it's over she moved on
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>>84273905
Moved on? She was never with you in the first place.
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it hurts so much every time I think about her
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>>84273891
Nta.
I fucking WISH she did. I wish she thought about me so bad. I want to be valued.
>>84273885
It's been so long. I am learning though. I am doing better now.
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For me its Gracie. Except I havent read our chats in over a year. I just masturbate to the pictures she sent me because she was smoking hot.
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>>84273922
>It's been so long. I am learning though. I am doing better now.
I am better for the most part but I can't get her out of my head and then I keep thinking about her and spiral into depression.
I miss her I miss K
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>>84273885
delete all messages
it's better to move on
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YOU HEAR THAT FEMBOTS?!

MESSAGE THE GUY THAT CARED ABOUT YOU. HELL YOU'VE PROBABLY HAD TONS BY NOW. BUT AT LEAST MESSAGE THE LAST ONE YOU UGLY FAT WHORES!!

HE'S FUCKING WAITING AND IS THE BEST YOU'RE EVER GOING TO GET AND YOU KNOW IT!!!
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>>84273950
I can't do it, I've tried I just can't do it, I can't delete her pictures either, I don't even look at them anymore but I simply can't delete them
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>>84273966
delete everything and then spend the next week regretting it and suffering and then you'll be fine
that's how i did
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>>84273972
how long were you two together?
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>>84273963
please don't call her a whore
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>>84273978
3 years together
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jnodfZYC3ZQ
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>>84273885
i feel so nauseated when I see your thread. its like that xxxx messaging me every day, making me feel bad and trying to revive something that no longer exists between us. why would you wish good morning/afternoon/ evening to someone who doesnt reply? is it to make the person feel bad?
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>>84274002
at least let him know you're not interested.
and no this is not to make anybody feel bad, it's just me hoping that she will contact me and give me some closure, I know we're never gonna get back together
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>>84274015
i cant say the words for some reason, but i thought he would get it if i said nothing?
i know hes neurodivergent, but fuck... every day 3 times a day
>>84274015
>I know we're never gonna get back together
then move on ffs. are you a psycho or some other weird shit?
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>>84274038
no I'm not a psycho it's just fucking cruel that she encouraged me being obsessive with her and then she disappeared one day, after saying she would never ghost me.

>i cant say the words for some reason
just tell him you're not interested if he starts getting annoying then you block him it's that easy.
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>>84273891
OP DON'T LISTEN TO THIS FAGGOT, HE IS A MOSSAD SHILL TRYING TO DESTROY YOUR LIFE, DIE KIKE
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>>84274066
>just tell him you're not interested
dont you think your crush would have done the same to you if it were easy?
hes an annoying cunt, but i dont want to hurt his autistic little heart
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I wanted her back for months. It was incredibly painful knowing that she wouldn't talk to me. Then I found out she effectively became a prostitute out of desperation, and at that point it became too upsetting for me to watch her from afar. At least that helped with moving on...
I hope things get better for her.

Look into trauma bonding, OP. That's what happened to me and made it virtually impossible to move on, and looking at your replies it might be the root problem for you too.
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>>84274090
it hurts moar to drag things out
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>>84273885
Delete the messages, you cuck. She's never coming back.
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>>84274090
I would've preferred if my gf would've done the same, sure it would've hurt but at least I would've gotten some closure
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>>84273912
Someone is projecting. It's okay little guy someday you'll have a girl too
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>>84274097
yeah we did some trauma bonding, probably why I'm having a hard time moving on
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>>84274086
I'm just saying how it is for me.

That's okay though. Sure. Better op is miserable just like you.
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>>84274097
She sounds fucking retarded
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I stalked her mum's Facebook to see pictures of her, got what I wanted and now I feel miserable.
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>>84274153
I mean I'm miserable either way
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>>84274159
yeah part of me knows I won't enjoy talking to her again because more than likely she will hurt me even more
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>>84273922
Women don't value. They have a million options and even "high value" men get cheated on.
Women are all covert narcissists who only respect power dynamics. The second they know they have power over you and that you truly care, you lose.
I wish it wasn't this way
I only ever wanted to be valued and loved
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>>84274219
Women value and love they just do it differently to men
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>>84274224
They value and love what serves them.
That isn't real love
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>>84274150
Sorry to hear that anon.
It's really easy to become dependent on someone when they treat you like that. It's stressful worrying about her all the time, but the relief when she says she's okay feels so good...
You're basically going through a drug withdrawal now. I wish you the best of luck.
You can do it, OP!

>>84274157
BPD makes people act like complete retards, I suppose. It's tragic to watch her throw away her life like that.
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>>84274233
>You're basically going through a drug withdrawal now.
yeah I imagine that's what it feels like, I'm almost over her but there are some night where I get intrusive thoughts about her, it's hard to move on, I wish I had never met her honestly
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>>84274241
>there are some night where I get intrusive thoughts about her, it's hard to move on
I get like that sometimes as well, and I worry it might be a rest of my life kind of thing sometimes. But it should happen less and less often as time moves forward.
>I wish I had never met her honestly
It's like that for me as well. The time I was with her was some of the best of my life but she's also singlehandedly responsible for making me bedridden for over a month and putting me the closest I've been to suicide in almost a decade. I don't think that's a good trade-off.
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>>84273885
I miss her, but she and I know I've just become apathetic to all the bullshit and mental games, so it's not worth the time or effort anymore. I'll never forget Spelunky 2 and Dark Souls 3 with you
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>>84274301
yeah I barely ate or left my bed for like four months, I lost a bunch of weight and started smoking, it was not worth it, now I'm terrified when I try talking to other girls (as pathetic as that sounds)
hey at least I'm skinny now! that's kinda nice.
>>84274321
oh man now I can't play postal anymore, we played that game together we also watched vampire hunter D together so I can't watch that anymore either
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>>84274337
Yeah I'm about the same, with those two games also. I have deleted all my old messages between us as made a small steps of moving on.
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>>84274359
if only deleting memories from your brain was as easy as deleting old messages.
do you think alcohol can help with that? I don't drink
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>>84274371
no, alcohol cannot help with that
nta, but i've had a few beers and hard liqs
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I deleted our messages and her number. She said she'd reach out when she feels ready but I honestly don't think she ever will. I'm not even sure I want her to at this point. I go back and forth. I put up with so much BS in our relationship, tried to end things on good terms and smooth everything over before we parted ways so we could be friends, but at this point I just feel like it was a waste of my time and energy.
I've peeked at her blog and she's posted a few vague posts about me, positive ones like saying she thinks she'll miss me for a long time or wonders where I am now, but like most of the stuff she did in our relationship, it's all just words with no real action to back it up. If she actually wanted to know, she could just text me. She always had such difficulty with little shit like that, she'd always just aestheticize or romanticize her emotions instead of actually expressing or acting on them, letting them build up to the point where she resents everyone around her when they can't parse them the way she hopes they will. Ultimately, deep down I feel she was an emotionally manipulative coward, and she probably knows I feel that way.
She'd write me these sweet love letters, little things like that, which was nice - I appreciated them at the time, but when it's never backed up by real communication, you start to feel like it's all just schoolyard antics. The more distance there is between us, the more the good memories are soured by the lack that left behind. I'm a grown man and need a woman who can actually ante up when things come down to it. She never really had that in her.
Besides, the more I put the pieces together, the more I think she monkey branched to some guy she didn't even know in real life within a few weeks. Dunno if it was intentional, but it is what it is. I should have seen it coming, she had me lined up before breaking up with her ex. It's been a year at this point anyways, I should probably get over it but that's easier said than done.
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>>84274376
hmm will alcohol help me talk to a new girl?
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>>84274384
see this is why I make these threads, stuff like this actually helps me a bit
sorry you had to go through that anon
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>>84274371
just delays them returning but they will return
>>84274387
lowers your inhibition so possibly but liquor can become an enemy very fast
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>>84274401
yeah my drunk asshole dad ruined alcohol for me but I kinda want to try it, especially if it's gonna help me to talk to girls
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>>84274416
Its a crutch thats all it is and will become for you, but go ahead if you feel the need to.
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>>84274420
hmm yeah maybe I shouldn't my friends keep telling me I shouldn't do it every time I mention it
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>generic and beyond hideous zoomer anime picrel
she dodged a bullet
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She was a whore that never loved me.
I'm completely broken
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>>84274396
Glad sharing helped somehow. It's cool, I think it's the nature of breakups nowadays. I try not to buy into the incel shit but I do think they're rougher than ever now, mostly for guys. It kind of seems like a weird party for a lot of women. Social media essentially makes them a public event even if nobody is posting about it explicitly, and being left with the records of your entire relationship doesn't help either. At some point you gotta choose to walk away from it all, but unfortunately that's only where healing starts. It sucks that it seems most guys have to walk that road alone.
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>>84274428
I watch good anime but this image just so happens to have a generic anime girl
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I don't listen to a majority of the words here honestly. Shit like this
>>84274430
Is often written to make you feel something about someone. Unfortunately a lot of the shit here is targeted, you just aren't aware at the time but if you are it sickens you to see
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>>84273963
i still think about him often
the fluffy blue sweater and his long hair...the tiny shorts and stockings he used to wear "ironically"
it was pretty cold that day and i saw that he was freezing.
i lost my only friend along with him.
i could message him again but it would probably only make things complicated and might push his boundaries.
i wish i hadnt been such a jackass foid.
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>>84274436
yeah thanks for sharing, it does help a bit.
every time I tell myself that I will forget about her it works for a few days and then I start getting intrusive thoughts about her, they are less frequent though
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>>84273885
The last relationship I was in made me realize I can't emotionally get attached to people. I can't love or desire someone. I have been isolated for so long that those parts of my brain didn't develop, she said she loved me and I was admitted I didn't believe her because she treated me poorly.
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>>84273885
All women are like this. They "love" you as long as they can extract something from you. You just have to accept female nature.
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>>84274468
I have the opposite problem, I get attached to people way too easily
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>>84274472
that's the weird thing though she never wanted to "extract" anything from me, she didn't even let me buy her a game
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>>84274446
fuck you and kill yourself worthless cunt foid, you only picked chad anyways and are whining about it
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>>84274459
Just takes time, bro. I'm having a tough time with this one too but I'm old enough to have dealt with this in the past. You'll feel like you'll never let go of them for a while, and over time it just becomes a memory like any other. I think a lot of it just comes from growing as a person. If you feel like you're the same person you were when you were in that relationship, of course you're gonna feel a type of way. But if you look back and go, damn, I was so different back then, it really does end up just feeling like something you experienced in another life. Superficial changes don't help much. New friends, new clothes, new girl, a new city, new fitness routine, new job. Doesn't matter if you're the same person deep down. You'll always identify with it. You gotta change inside. It's one of the toughest parts of life, but also one of the most rewarding if you're one of the few people who chooses to do so intentionally.
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>>84274479
ALL women are shallow. Never forget this. She was just playing with you and fooling around before moving on to the next guy.
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>>84274489
>You gotta change inside.
that's actually really helpful man, thanks! I'll try to remember this when I start thinking about this.
oh and yes this was my first gf hm well not really I had another gf in middleschool but honestly I kinda felt nothing for that one (as cruel as that sounds) so that's why I'm having a hard time dealing with this
>>84274482
anon, stop being a dick
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>>84274504
Incels are right about everything, you spineless beta simp bluepilled faggot. You either accept biology and human nature or you'll get played again.
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>>84274504
As an oldfag I look back on my first relationship and go "what the fuck," meanwhile at the time I thought my life was over because some random emo girl left me for a guy with swoopy hair because he could skateboard or some BS. I cannot express how trivial it feels in the grand scheme of things now, literally meaningless. It's all perspective, and all about where you're at as a person now vs where you were at then. Time helps but it's mostly just the catalyst.
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>>84274224
Women only care about passing on strong evil genes. Everything else is irrelevant and a cope.
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>>84274439
>i watch good anime
tell me more about how much you love paranoia agent, welcome to the nhk, and SEL.
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>>84274549
yeah, thanks man, this helps.
>>84274583
lol no I said good anime but I realize no matter what I say you will keep replying like this
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>>84274493
Not true. That specific woman was just worthless
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>>84274337
>I lost a bunch of weight and started smoking
Sorry to hear that, anon. I lost a lot of weight too and went a bunch of days without eating anything, which is bad because I was already really skinny to begin with.
>now I'm terrified when I try talking to other girls (as pathetic as that sounds)
I understand what you mean. It's had mixed effects on me. On one hand I now know just how dangerous women can be now, which makes me want to keep a very big distance and has made me very hesitant to fall for anyone again. On the other hand, I figure most can't be as bad as her which has given me a degree of confidence I didn't have before.
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>>84274730
>I figure most can't be as bad as her
hm that is a good point actually, maybe I'm wrong, maybe I can find someone better, but like I said now I'm scared of getting close to someone.
>On one hand I now know just how dangerous women can be now
yeah they can make you feel like the happiest man on earth and the next day they make you wish you were dead.
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>>84273963
I regret ghosting him so much dont remind me ;( I miss ah
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>>84274442
What? No shit it's written for that
She's a whore that moves onto new men easily. In each relationship she's the victim, it doesn't matter how much you do for her, all that mattered is whether or not you blindly obeyed her. Fuck off faggot
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>>84274479
It doesn't matter. It could be emotional supply, support, attention.
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>>84274801
Just like this post is most likely you are with her or want to be with her and you are insecure that she's leaving you for somebody else and you are projecting that I'm that person so you made this post to try to attempt to make me (The person you assume that she wants) feel negative things about her leaving her so that you can be with her

Well too bad. Now that you brought her up and said that she is going for me, she is now mine.
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>>84274870
Oh it's a schizo, nvm
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>>84274875
Too late. She's in my dick now
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>>84273885
ghosting people is cruel
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>>84274097
lol. "became a prostitute"

rude.
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>>84274097
"trauma bonding"
I know who gave you that word

You were content to watch me collapse and fall
Somewhere between an angel and a vulture, right ?
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disgusting. You post this shit just so I'll cut or something, huh ? ? ?

prostitute prostitute whore slut lalalalalalalaaaaa

you have no idea no idea no idea no idea
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trauma bonding is just code for someone who wants to blame the one who was suffering.

disgusting.
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I had nowhere to go

I had no hhh o use
and no im dyingg g g
afdmskhh wahhhhhhhhh

prostitute.
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at least she loved u lol
no one's ever loved me and no one's never will
I should just end it honestly
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>>84276702
watching you continuously crash out is so funny lol
ur such a lolcow it's actually hilarious
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i missed my ex bf until last night he added me on steam and embarassed himself, screaming at me that he "knew the real me" and begged me to dox him on here just so he can justify trying to kill himself

he's going to be furious when i don't give him the attention he wants

now i just don't even know him, like my brain has emotionally deleted him from my memory
it sucks being single but i'll adapt

i wish him the best and i would like to reconnect when he's more stable and in a better mindset but right now he's extremely self destructive



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