when he knows how to regulate emotions
>>84278741yeah not my strong suit I am a loaded gun a molotov cocktail the fuse line traveling with a spark
>>84278741when she isnt a retarded bitch (no image attached cuz women are always retarded bitches.)
Not me then. Any femanons looking for a constantly sad guy to boyfriend to?
>>84278741That's me. Helps with many things except getting laid apparently.
>>84278741>regulate emotionsYeah, I'm not a stoic chad. Yeah, I may punch myself and pull my hair when I get angry. Yeah, I sometimes call people nigger, even if they aren't black. FUCKING SUE ME! Is it so terrible that a man may have feelings?
when she's judy hops
>be me>always regulate emotions because i grew up around people who couldn't>khhv at 30stfu u want to be hit and screamed at
>>84278741I've seen this thrown around a lot and I still don't know what it means Girls usually say this at the same time they're gushing about how they LOVE men who go to therapy but I have my doubts about that one
I do, and im not even unattractive, but my hobbies are anime and video games (the extremely weeby kind, not the normalfag friendly kind) and I have the tism, so your pussy remains dry.
>>84278741>regulate emotions That just means he knows how to lie and put a mask on until he got you in his room. No wonder you retards fall for serial killers.
>>84278896I'm not a stoic chad either but I'm surprised at how much of a mental beating I can take from life and still not lose my will to keep tryingI guess deep down I know I will eventually succeed at everything because I never keep trying. I might have been given a terrible hand at life but eventually things will work out
>>84279162It means not acting like an immature faggot. I'll give you some examples.Lets say you get angry and have a fight with your gf; an unhealthy response would be to yell at her and throw stuff around, and a healthy response would be to ask to take a break from the argument and to cool off in the other room.Lets say you are tired and hungry and all things irritated; an unhealthy response would be to make that everyone's problem and be a douche, a healthy response would be to control your emotions and not take it out on others.When you both are going through a lot, but your gf needs someone she can lean on, you need to keep it together and help her. You feel me? It's about having control even when it's difficult to, and not acting like a kid. And obviously she should be regulating herself for you, something women tend to try to get away with as men don't really care about this stuff and chalk it up to "Women.. am I right?"If your gf says to get therapy as you're incapable of regulating yourself, you should probably get therapy. If you were in the dating scene and one of your first impressions for a girl is that you are attending therapy, she might be a bit put off. Makes sense? When a stranger is attending therapy, it could mean they are really fucked up and it's best not to waste time with someone who may drag you down; whole load different than someone you know attending therapy.
>>84280295Thought that was all standard stuff that all grownups do, apparently not. I found it difficult to watch The Sopranos because they were all such horrible characters. They would argue to the point of physical violence over literally nothing. Family destroying, irreversible damage spewed out because there was no gabagool in the fridge.
>>84280295>"Men should go to therapy, it's healthy and also a signal that they want to better themselves as people!">"This guy is going to therapy? Ew there's probably something wrong with him."Which one is it, you walking womb
>>84280386That is some pure autistic cartoon reviewer criticism right there. Were they too mean spirited for you?
judy would never do those things she's very strong
>>84280398Nta but I agree with his reaction and I'm autistic. Can you explain how the characters in Sopranos are not horrible and/or immature?
so what was this thread supposed to make me feel?
>>84280386>standard stuff that all grownups doIt is, but there's always outliers. Could be three reasons:1) Just hasn't matured yet, needs life to rape them a little bit more2) Unsatisfactory upbringing (abuse/neglect)3) Mental illness (Namely any that affects regulation like autism, adhd, bpd, etc.)They can all be fixed (or at least improved to a tolerable amount) though hard work, determination, therapy, and possibly meds.>>84280391If I was swiping on tinder, and a guy had in his bio he was attending therapy, or revealed it in the first few conversations; I'd probably move on because I have no attachment to this person and the odds of them being mentally ill is high, so the odds of this turning out negatively is high, so why take a huge gamble and waste my time?But if I was dating a guy, loved him, and then I realized there was a problem with him, I'd be like "fix this" and if he can't fix it on his own, I'd say "Get therapy".Think of it like this, you are looking for someone to be your partner to run with you in an important race. You find out this possible partner has something wrong with their leg and is in the hospital right now. You have no idea what is wrong with their leg, nor how long it'll take or if they can even fix the leg. Do youA) Give this stranger a chance?B) Keep looking
>>84278741Bullshit. Women hate emotional intelligent men because we can't be manipulated.
>>84280603Your hypothetical is only really a problem because you meet guys on tinder. If you meet people offline instead you have more opportunities to immediately evaluate and get to know someone without having to commit.In reality you can do this on tinder too but you have all these guys to choose from so you have no reason to. Congrats on being an attractive female i guess
>>84280603femcel moment lolbuy a dog and die alone
>>84280398>mean spiritedYes, they were awful borderline evil. For me? Honestly I think the entire world would be a better place if everyone could just chill the fuck out when emotions get raised.
judy would never say those mean things without saying sorry after
>>84280793>>84280838I don't meet guys on tinder, nor do I meet guys in general, nor do I get hit on, nor have I had dated and seen a lot of men, nor do I have hookups, I've had two relationships in my life. One was in middle school and the other was a guy I was best friends with first, that I met playing video games with, that I love. Buddy we are on r9k, If I was a normal, attractive woman on tinder I wouldn't be hereThe whole thing is I'm addressing the claim that "Women gush about loving it when a guy goes to therapy". Like, yeah, working on yourself is great; but the situation is dependent.A relationship hinges on the mental states of people. If you heard a stranger was in therapy, it can most often mean he isn't in a good mental state. Sure he is working on himself, but why wait for a stranger who may or may not be mentally stable enough for a relationship?Now yes, if you knew the person, that would change things, you've got a broader scope on how stable they are (obviously trust goes up the more acquainted you are with someone)>have all these guys to choose from so you have no reason toIf I was single, and I didn't have all these guys to choose from, and really just the probably mentally ill stranger, then I would just not date anyone. Just like if you saw a chick with like a tramp stamp, you probably wouldn't want to date her as she was probably a whore. You're really just not going to be happy if you date a mentally ill person, it's simply fact of the matter. I really don't get all these guys who give BPD girls a chance, you are just not going to ever be happy. Statistically of course, there are outliers
>>84280603therapy is a pathetic joke, it doesn't actually work
>>84280978>If I was a normal, attractive woman on tinder I wouldn't be hereYou don't need to be normal or attractive to land a simp who will fall over himself to please you. This reads like a LARP
>>84280990I really hope you don't sincerely think that, because CBT or DBT is extremely successful in treating depression, anxiety, adhd, bipolar, etc. There's countless studies showing it works, first hand accounts of it working, science behind it, etc. Mental illnesses aren't as simple as "Brain is chemically fucked up, you're broken forever and the only solution is to take meds the rest of your life". Your brain is more malleable than you think, and a lot of failure in mental illness is negative/repetitive pathway loops. CBT will help you make new connections, and strengthen them. So for example depression:You start feeling like you aren't a good person, this makes you feel really depressed and lonely, and so you avoid seeing anyone or taking care of yourself. CBT trains your brain to do the things you need to do to feel better. So when you feel depressed and lonely, instead of your brain telling you to hide and rot, your brain tells you to go spend time with friends and family, and do the things that help improve your mood. So the next time instead of going "Fuck Im feeling depressed, I guess I'll just rot in bed all day", you'll go "Fuck I'm feeling depressed, I guess I haven't been going outside, socializing, or eating enough; I'll try to tough it out and do those things now"Please trust me man, if you are mentally ill and live in a western country, please give therapy a try; probably CBT, whatever is relevant for what you're going through. You can read bios and reviews of therapists so you don't get retarded faggy liberal ones>>84281033What? I wasn't contesting that. Yeah I do think that ugly women on here can go "Im ugly and retarded, who wants to be my boyfriend" and you'll have retarded faggots going "MEE!!! MEEEE!!! MEE ME!!! ME!". I think you lost the plot man, strawmaning and what not. What are you even saying Im larping about. You know what I'm done, I got better things to do, can't win with retarded faggots
>>84280978>Like, yeah, working on yourself is great; but the situation is dependent.Yes that was the whole point I was making. Therapy/mental illness is a flag but not a deal breaker on its own. If you meet and date someone in a normal way, you can learn about them and get to know them and a get a feel for whether or not they're going to be a problem or if they have their shit managed. Whereas if you go on tinder you can just filter out every single little potential thing until you get matched with someone who meets some superficial quality check. Ironically it sounds like the reason you don't understand this is actually from your lack of experience. Though since you had a boyfriend who you were friends with first, you should be able to understand how such a scenario could play out.
>>84280603>i can fix himlel, lmno
>>84280978You're very insightful for someone with limited dating experience. Shows that you're very intelligent
i can regulate my emotions like a robot unless i really really like you then i just lose control because i guess you just drive me crazy? but it ok because i will never be that way when i don't like you at all.
>>84278741If a man knows how to actually regulate his emotions he can control his desires. If he can control that, what use does he have for women?
>>84278741Can someone translate this from foid to human? What does she actually mean.
>>84281065>Mental illnesses aren't as simple as "Brain is chemically fucked up, you're broken forever and the only solution is to take meds the rest of your life".no indeed it's not. it's "broken forever and there is no solution"but I don't expect normal people to understand this, that's fine
stoic chad who can fully control his thoughts and emotions here. but i never put myself out there so whatever relationships ive had are the ones that came to me. im content with what ive had
>>84278741Alight, I'll say this, I like this bait. Has old world vibes to it.
>when i drank too much milk
>>84281065>that, because CBT or DBT is extremely successful iThis shit don't work
>>84278741How many people actually know how to manage their emotions? I have the impression that not many do.
>>84282567tfw toilet stoic
