>>84281340
>The female coworker I've been obsessing over is probably gonna quit tomorrow, and I'm totally bummed out over it. I've grown so attached to her, we really get along and it felt so good having a cute older woman be happy to see me and going out of her way to tell me things or talk to me.

Tell this to her, you idiot. Worst case scenario, she will tell on you to hr, get you fired and imprisoned.

>>84281345
Well I told her I wanted to go out with her once, but she said "you don't wanna date me" and anytime I try to bring it up again she quickly changes the subject. I can tell she's not interested in me like that, and she doesn't even want to talk about it because it makes her uncomfortable or she doesn't wanna hurt my feelings. Either way I didn't wanna sour our relationship so I let it go. The feelings are still there though

>>84281351
So she's just a friendly coworker who isn't interested in you. Jump on tinder or something so your virility is directed elsewhere because nothing else will improve the situation.

https://youtu.be/sIwEWZ-Yc1c?si=GPwL5W-KlZOfwVJW&t=228
NECKS! WHO NECKS!!!

>>84281363
>Jump on tinder
Lol lmao even

>>84281390
Or whatever normies are using instead of tinder. The point is for him to direct his energy elsewhere.

>>84281363
>>84281425
I get this, but it's not that easy to just "direct my energy somewhere else". I'm not good at asking out random girls or going on dates. I just happened to meet this chick at work and she vibes so well with me, it's gonna be hard to just let it go and act like I give a fuck about any other women. I mean I've been writing love letters and poems for this woman, drawing portraits of her. I'm so obsessed

It doesn't really matter, she's leaving and I'm gonna have to get over it anyways.

>>84281455
You'll get there. As you get more experience being around women you'll become more clinical with your approach to them and less emotional. When this chick leaves act like a normie and wish her all the best for the future. If she texts you after leaving keep things going otherwise move forward.

>>84281340
When this happened to me I left 2 months after lol.
In 8 or so years I have received 2 unprompted messages from her, both times made my day. I don't bother her anymore of course, afaik she isn't even in the country anymore, just a linkedin contact basically.

Plot twist: she's leaving because you creep her out and she was being nice to you hoping you wouldn't kill her when you decide to shoot up the place

>>84281493
I considered this obviously, and I can't totally rule that out except that she texted me and told me she was gonna quit. I'm pretty sure I'm the only person who knows. I always am afraid everyone who's nice to me has secret motives, or actually hates me. But I don't think that's the case. I hope not anyways

>>84281340
F. In my one year of wage-cucking (2015-16), I grew attached to the mother hen of the office who sat next to me. Sadly, she was married with kids and also religious, so I never had a chance. She was not my usual type, but she was so nice to me, as I was going through the hell of a sudden bereavement and suffering with being forced to deal with the phones which exposed my 'tism. We kept in touch for 18 months after I left and met for dinners, but it was becoming clear that I would have no good news to share with her on the job or personal fronts, so I accepted the loss of contact.
I was tempted to message her an update when I lost my last relative, and again when mother hen hit her retirement age.
I'm FB friends with a guy from the office who had a kid with another colleague, but we just send likes back and forth.
I also crushed hard on a younger foid there who was an arab Marisa Tomei. Of course she had a BF. I kept it to just business after that.

>>84281516
>I always am afraid everyone who's nice to me has secret motives, or actually hates me.
That's generally how people behave towards each other so you're probably right most of the time.

>>84281470
>More clinical with your approach and less emotional
Is this even a desirable outcome? I've always been an overly emotional person. I guess I don't wanna give up my romantic notions of how life ought to be, my feelings are so strong it can't just be for nothing. We're meant to be together.

Lol obviously that's not true and I'm just a retarded naive little virgin. But still, it depresses me to think I'll just "end up" with a woman if I try hard enough. Not that by simply being myself my soul mate will be drawn to me or whatever. Stupid shit I think

>>84281340
ask for her email or number to keep in touch. then ask to get lunch or coffee sometime

>>84281527
People act like you're not supposed to make attachments at work, but that's always seemed stupid to me. Obviously if I spend 40 hours a week with someone I'm going to develop some kinda feelings towards them. Either contempt or adoration. That's how I am anyways, I make everything personal. I don't have a home and work life, it's all just my life. It's just me from beginning to end, I wear my heart totally on my sleeve. But that means I'm constantly falling for women who are simply just there because they have to be. And when they don't have to be anymore then they aren't. And my heart can't handle that it's all just business. I don't care about this job anyways, or society in general. I just liked hanging out with her and with all my coworkers honestly. I felt like they were my friends.

>>84281566
Indeed. But the sad thing is that these people are NOT your friends, and most of them will fuck you over to get ahead.
Sure, if we were lucky enough to find a real one for a while, that's nice. But everything comes to an end. People move on.
Sadly, your view on colleagues and work will see you inevitability heart-broken or betrayed.
Most of the time, colleagues do not give a shit about each other, we must act according. Or only return what we get from others.
If you are the OP, it's very likely you'll lose touch with her.
I volunteered at a charity for two and a half years. The boss there was very supportive, when my mother died suddenly.
But when we both left that place a year after that, I never heard from her again. Been ten years now. That's how it goes.
As a kid who always wanted to be friends with others, I never got back what I gave. As an adult, I'm a hermit who only talks to a couple of people who stay in touch. I have no interest in making friends anymore. I just wish I could get a sex partner, but I am a perma-incel, so that's never happening.

>>84281607
The hardest part is realizing how easy it would be to continue our relationship outside of this job, if only she was interested in doing that which she isn't. I'm sure she genuinely liked me and enjoyed working with me, but she's got more important shit going on and isn't gonna go out of her way to spend time with me. I guess I shouldn't be mourning the loss of something like that, a one-sided work crush. It just felt so special and she is such a bright and warm presence in my life. I don't want to put all this on her because I'm also a lonely perma virgin incel. But it seriously feels like my whole world is falling apart lol

I know how pathetic that sounds, which is why I admitted it's ultimately probably a good thing that we go our separate ways

>>84281669
Well, at least you realise that.
As perma-incels, we have to get used to never being chosen.
It's not logical to get attached to people who will never want you.
Expect nothing from people, and you're never disappointed.
For me, it's a genuine surprise if anyone gives a shit about me IRL.
I'm just glad that I can hermit and avoid all this shit.