i dont have any dreams, or any motivations, im pretty content living a very standard life style desu. is that normal? i think its pretty weird that I have nothing driving me, i could end up homeless and yeah id be annoyed but id accept it and move on with my homeless life.im pretty much a recluse at 19 so i dont have any friends pushing me to do anything. i mean the only dream or motivation i have is to live an easy life, but i doubt i'll get that. idk what to even do with my life, dont know what to study in uni or what type of job i should aim for. i'm pretty ok with my boring job of stacking shelves but i doubt i want to do that for the rest of my life. is there anyone else like me? maybe you guys know how to get out of this and do smth with my life
>>84283532How long have you held your job? If you're mentally/physically stable enough to hold a job down, just stick with it.
>>84283532>is there anyone else like me?here hereeveryday I wake up with neither reason nor willI wake up, I go to work, I fuck around, and then I go home and sleepOn my days off, unless I've got something planned, I will honestly just stay home and rot
>>84283532Learn a trade, they're the highest paying/most future proof/most attractive to women.
>>84283565trade must suck. in a trade you have to physically exert yourself and you also have to be surrounded by assholes 100% of the time, also women finding it attractive is a myth, what shitty advice>>84283532i understand you anon, people like you and me werent meant for life
>>84283565The "learn a trade" is the new "learn to code" memeTrades are terrible. There's a reason why for decades NOBODY wanted to do them until now, where the job market turns to shit.
>>84283585>>84283589Depends on the trade and how fit you are. Your complaint summed up equal>i want a job but don't want to workIdk, i don't see how plastering or painting is hard work to be perfectly honest.
>>84283543almost 5 months now, before that i had a job for 3 years but the boss hated me and was cutting my shifts near the end so i swapped...>>84283553>everyday I wake up with neither reason nor will>I wake up, I go to work, I fuck around, and then I go home and sleep>On my days off, unless I've got something planned, I will honestly just stay home and rotsounds too much like me, we are truly alike i guess, have you found any way to motivate yourself>>84283585>i understand you anon, people like you and me werent meant for lifeyeah i guess we weren't huh, idk what to do anymore man
>>84283614Sounds like you can hold a stable job. If you're capable of doing that, just buckle in. Good things will come to you.
Sounds like a "faulty" reward circuitry. Normies' receptors are functional enough to where they live for whatever the fuck they do after work and that's enough motivation for them. You, you have nothing waiting for you that's worth while. Better luck next life with an unfucked brain, anon.
>>84283618thanks anon, that actually means a lot to me. not many people say nice stuff about me but hopefully something good comes my way if i just put my head down and do my job
>>84283629Keep your chin up, brother.
>>84283532>i dont have any dreams, or any motivations, im pretty content living a very standard life style desu. is that normal?I don't think it is. I felt like that only when I were suffering from anhedonia. I'd like to know a bit more on how you spend your time outside of work if you'd like to talk about it. You don't have to be specific or anything if it makes you uncomfortable.>im pretty much a recluse at 19 so i dont have any friends pushing me to do anything. i mean the only dream or motivation i have is to live an easy lifeOkay, that is perfectly understandable to me and I feel the same, BUT, I am not comfortable with the idea of having the "easy life" come to me out of nowhere or worse, to compromise my moral standards in order to make easy money. Go for a trade, like the other anons mentioned. Electricians are paid well and their job isn't that physically demanding. Even having a forklift license is better than being unspecialized labor: it may not get paid much better than for example a shelf stacker or a warehouse labourer, but forklift drivers are in much higher demand, their job isn't anywhere as physically tiring - what in my opinion completely kills motivation that drives to look for better jobs, and most importantly it makes so it's easier for you to find jobs. I've been considering getting a forklift license myself but I came up with better plans. For me becoming a forklift driver would be a mere stepping stone towards better jobs, like better trades, or saving up money for bookkeeping courses.
>>84283766>I'd like to know a bit more on how you spend your time outside of work if you'd like to talk about it.im fine with talking about it. funny you mentioned anhedonia tho as I'm pretty sure I'm suffering from it currently, ive been in talks with my therapist and she's pretty certain i have SzPD. most my life outside of work is spent in my room on my computer or in bed on my phone. mainly just play vidya, read manga, watch anime or youtube or just doomscroll stuff. i'll maybe go out once a month to catch up with the few friends i've maintained or go to a work party but thats about it. my hobbies are stuff I can do inside and get delivered to me. usually i get a new model kit every few weeks to build, or I order myself a new retro console to repair every now and then.I'm pretty ok with ig comrpomising my moral standards to a degree, if it's legal and not too bad I probably would do it if it meant i could continue my easy life, but like my margin of what i'd do is really small, like ie 0 is keeping my moral standards and 1 is disregarding them completely, i'd probably only go up to a 0.005 max, even then that would probably push it. I still need to get my actual license so I doubt i could get my forklift license, and trades aren't too interesting to me so I doubt I'll do that. ig my dream job is just some office job, white collar work just seems like smth I can do so i may as well do it
>>84283766>bookkeepingbeing automated away as we speak.
>>84283801Well. You mentioned most of your time is spent indoors from what you said, so I'd consider spending more time in nature. I'm saying this because when I was in a similar situation to yours I definitely did feel anhedonia, and some specific people I were interacting with online (or better, how I were interacting with them) very likely worsened my mental health...I would also tell you this... As somebody that got their license at 19 but practically never drove on their own, I will reccomend you get your license and start driving ASAP. It will open a world of possibilities to you.I find it commendable you have moral standards. I won't elaborate further on that, someone that may read this will very likely get hurt if I were to elaborate.As for your office job, well, if you are good at MS Excel or Word, you very likely already have enough skills for getting the office job you want. Were I in your spot, I'd apply for those jobs already, even if merely for expressing interest in them. I'd also consider getting a course or two, just for getting some credentials to make your CV look better. I'd reccomend you to get into bookkeeping again: even if that job is getting automated, full automation will likely never happen, and being able to handle your finances responsibly is a skill that doesn't merely apply to work.
>>84284022yeah i try and go on a walk every night to enjoy the breeze and have a smoke but i sometimes forget like tonight (ugh) I don't really interact with many people online or in person so i doubt that's really messing with my mental health.I do plan on driving a decent bit when I get my license hopefully. it'll be nice to drive places.im pretty decent at word and i could probably use an excel course but i'll look into that, not sure what kind of courses I should do or what type of jobs even are considered office jobs.... I considered bookkeeping a while ago simply cause my dad also did it but half way through the application process I realised this isn't something I actually want to do and wussed out... i could probably do with learning how to handle my finances better tho...
>>84284062That's good, I also enjoy nightwalks, even though you would feel better if you had a walk during the day as well.As for the people, I mostly interacted with them through 4chan, it still had a negative effect on me. And I should have interacted more with some of them outside of here when I had the change to. I didn't value some of my friends and potential lovers as much as I should have... I don't want to talk more about that. It's making me feel sad.As for the courses: you may look if the employement centre near you has free MS office courses, or look for paid courses that award certificates in your areas. Office jobs may be as simple as writing letters or emails for other companies, making phone calls, stuff like that.And as for the bookkeeping, it may be one of those situations where you so to say feel "tsundere" for the job, as in it may grow on you as you practice it? During the beginning of my first experience I almost panicked, then I realized it's easier than I thought it were. All it takes is being tidy and making a bit of practice. Smooth is slow, slow is fast, as they say.
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>>84283801>SzPDNo offense to OP but why are people obsessed with claiming mental illnesses? Isn't that something you WOULDN'T want to be diagnosed with? Like cancer?
>>84284516>obsessedNigga literally said his own therapist is pretty certain he has it.
>>84284614I kinda skimmed through his response. My fault.
>>84284614as if a therapist's word is worth much
>>84283532I mean that's fine but not having a goal in life automatically makes you a background character in your own life.
>>84285097I wouldn't go around saying that. These niggas get paid.
I see most of the people here got office jobs and what not, Im still young 17 and ive always said i wanted to go into medicine but ive been contemplating it and my grades have been going down, not because i dont understand the material but because im not bothered to learn it, lately ive been so lazy, and just been sitting in my room. Im not saying i totaly close my self in because i got some decent friends, but i dont want it to become a problem later. Anyone have advice how to not make those mistakes? Just lately has been feeling rlly shitty
>>84283532Yeah settling is quite normal. Don't expect it to last forever though. You're human and at some point you will ache for either more or for different
