Did anyone here who was a shut-in eventually got a social life? How? What did you do? It seems so hard to just find people to go out with.
Bumo because I wanna know how. Everybody outside is either already in a group or have headphones on
My factory settings are to be a shut-in but I did develop a social life by mistake in my 20s. That was over a decade ago. I was chatting with some chick I wanted to fuck and she told me about some student pub where they were looking for extra workers, so I went there with her and applied. Then I just did my job like a robot would, and 98% of people would just treat me like background noise and 2% would kinda stick around and talk to me. That's how it works. Exposure is the key word here.
>>84297157You should definently become more retarded to be more social, good luck
Had to. It waa either get a job or be homeless. It came eventually, but it took a long time to gain social skills. I still do have alot of problems with communicating, and it wears me out so much I just completely hermit mode not talking to anyone to recharge my social battery.
>>84297157got a job, treated people nicely there, then they invited me to parties and nightclub and the rest is history
>>84297354I have a job but everyone is already married and don't go out much.
>>84297157I was a quiet shut-in throughout high school. My only activities were going to school and playing RuneScape. I quit the game 100% when I started college and made it a priority to be more social when I lived on campus. It wasn't easy at first but I was eventually "adopted" by normies that got me into partying, smoking weed, regular hanging out, etc. Unfortunately I didn't get laid until years after finishing school. I'm still a bit anti-social 18 years later but I've got my shit together now and have a loving girlfriend.
>>84297407Why even come to /r9k/ at all? Baffling behavior.
>>84297411My primary reason for going on 4chan is /biz/ but it's a bit dry there lately. I occasionally come here since I can relate with some people's pain.
>>84297157im 20 rn, gimme like 2 years and ill respond to this
Bump. Wish I could answer that in a few years.
i went from having a social life to being completely isolated. feel free to ask me questions
>>84297157For me the biggest change was going to college and finding a friend group there
my social life was fine up until i was like 26ish and now i have no one and im a shut in
>>84297157Kid even Millennials, Gen X and Baby Boomers are struggling to have a social life these days. There are no universal solutions you have to go out and have involvements in human society and make casual chatter with people around you and get familiar. Like school, jobs, regularly visit establishments like cafes/bars/parks/restaurants/trains buses, do in person hobbies like skateboarding, bowling, running events, conventions, trade expos etc. Whatever you are ok with doing repeatedly and hope to get lucky meeting decent people. If you need people to go out with to start you'll be alone forever the internet is never going to give you anybody. You have to put in effort and be willing to be uncomfortable and do new things if you want your situation to change. You're not going to meet some magical extrovert online that will save you.
>>84297157i got 2 friends freshman year of high school, but since i was really weird and cringe back then they kinda hated my ass, but then i matured and became way more chill, so we're now best friends and i only hang out with themstill no bitches tho
The little time I went to like parties and shit was just a job where the coworkers invited me. It seems just a matter of good timing with opportunities/finding people you can do stuff with really. That's why put yourself out there is still the golden advice.
>>84297157I did. I used to be a shut-in but things got a tad better socially when my mother forced me to get a job. One thing leading to another I met new people and even found myself a boyfriend, it was an open relationship and he lived several hours away. Getting back home and finding myself alone in my apartment felt so fucking sad that I got the motivation to get a life.I made a facebook account (2 years and half ago mind you), and started looking for people organising meet ups and outings where I live (I had moved there a year before and hadn't met anybody).I went to a dancing course once and went back the week after, after a while I had become part of a group, went to meet new dancers, got involved with an association and here I am today.I got dumped by another boyfriend a few months ago but it ain't that bad, I got a life and people to see so I don't feel lonely.I'm a fat guy and I used to think that if I got slimmer I'd finally be able to go out and meet people, turns out I didn't need to.I used to have severe depression but now I can feel genuine happiness and when something bad happens I can take it and move on.Don't expect yourself to suddenly become a master of social interactions, take it one step at a time. Odds are there are apps or facebook groups or places for people to meet each other in your city. All you need to do is not to be a creepy motherfucker, crack one or two jokes and see if you got some common interests with someone else. Rinse and repeat until you have friends.I was 26 when things finally started clicking and I wasn't the only person around that needed to meet new people.
>>84297157Forced myself the hard way. After I graduated in college I became incredibly self loathing and shut myself in. It was bad. It didn't help that my family is poor as hell and live in boonies, so it seemed there was 0 prospects of making it normally, which only reinforced my doomer phase. At that point it was either succumbing to alcoholism and become like local dregs or pick myself up.
>>84297183>found a jobdid you at least sex her in exchange for the soul you've lost?
